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Babies on the Brain
Feeling frustrated
I feel like no one understands me or what I'm going through, I feel like I have to put on this happy face and pretend like I live in a puppies & rainbows world with my family.
DH feels like I'm shutting him out, my mom feels lke I'm shutting her out - and honestly, maybe I am - but gosh can't an exhausted, nauseated pregnant women just wallow in her misery for a little while. It's not like I'm walking around complaining and being miserable, quite the opposite actually, but I feel like theres so much pressure that sometimes I just don't want to talk to anyone.
I just needed to vent and get it off my chest. I feel like I can't say these things to them because it'll cause more problems so I just go on pretending like I'm perfectly fine.
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Re: Feeling frustrated
I'm sorry, I hope this doesn't come out as rude. What are you miserable about? Because you are sick?
I hope I didn't miss a post about something and this is coming off as insensitive. I am just trying to figure out why people think you are shutting them out?
I am am idiot and need things spelled out for me.
FET: Success! Beta at 14dp5dt: 2427 TWINS!!
Not rude at all. I'm not "miserable" per se, I'm exhausted and dealing with morning sickness. I just don't have a lot of energy, so to get myself through the day, either working or taking care of L, I don't have a lot extra to give to DH or my mom or my friends. When I get home, or L is sleeping - I'd rather sit on the couch and not have to work my brain!
I know it's selfish and probably not the most mature way to deal with it - but it's how I feel! I hope that makes more sense for you.
I think if you just explain to your DH and your mom that you are exhausted they will understand.
But I don't know them. If they don't get it then I would have to say that they are very demanding and needy people.
You deserve to be able to take care of yourself too.
FET: Success! Beta at 14dp5dt: 2427 TWINS!!
LOL, your comment made me laugh.
They will get it, I just have a hard time communicating when I feel frustrated like this. Obviously a problem on my part, I'll work on trying to let them know without shutting anyone out. Thanks for hearing me out.
The beginning of pregnancy is SO exhausting. You are also working and chasing around a barely-toddler. That's a lot.
Remind said family members that you are currently growing organs. That creating a human life from two cells is a LOT of work, whether or not they can see it. Remind them that you were probably similar to this at the beginning of your last pregnancy, and that it did indeed pass.
You're doing fine. Just keep getting as much rest as possible, try to get food in when you can, and remember that sometimes, something has got to give.