Pregnant after a Loss

what do you say when people ask how you're feeling (all tris welcome)

everyone asks how i'm feeling. and i get that, i think that's a pretty standard response... you find out someone's pregnant, the next words out of your mouth are "oh, how are you feeling?" but i don't know how to really answer that. no one wants to hear how my woman parts ache, so i just say "a little tired, but good!"

i'm just wondering, does anyone say anything different? like "well, i haven't pooped for 3 days, so that's kinda bumming me out" or "i puked up my breakfast, how are you?"

Re: what do you say when people ask how you're feeling (all tris welcome)

  • I tell them how many times I've gagged today.  Seriously.
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  • imagelax15bsu:
    I tell them how many times I've gagged today.  Seriously.

    that's a good response. :)

  • I stick with the standard "tired but good".  I know they mean well and are just trying to show concern, but like you said if you were to tell them you haven't pooped in days or that you're pissed because you've been on pelvic rest for 4 months they'd probably be freaked out.  Sometime the most well meaning people ask the stupidest questions. 
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  • Depends on who it is, if it's a close friend I'l give them the brutal honesty, which isn't bad, I've been really lucky this pg! But with other people I just say Baby and I are doing good!
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  • I usually answer with huge and tired. 
  • Most of the time I just say "great!" because that's the truth.  Sometimes I will say "good, but a little tired" especially if it is someone from work asking Wink.

     I think I was really annoyed when I was ttcal when pg ladies would utter even a slight complaint about being pregnant to me and I just don't want to do the same to someone else, so I am particularly careful about what I say to people I am not close with.

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  • "Less energy than usual but otherwise great."  Which is pretty close to the truth for me in second tri.
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  • imagesomeflower6:

    imagelax15bsu:
    I tell them how many times I've gagged today.  Seriously.

    that's a good response. :)

    I tell them with a smile on my face!  And say that I know it's a good thing.

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  • What I say most of the time: "Good!" *big smile*

    What I think: "Holy crap! In such a short time, my entire life is going to change! I'm so happy but, really, how could I not be going crazy? And I love my baby so much already. I'm ready to see her right now! But if this little girl kicks me in that spot one more time, I might ground her for life as soon as she's here! I'm not walking, sitting, or even breathing normally right now, not to mention the burning pain that just shot through my boob as I've been talking to you, so don't mind if I start getting a little handsy with my self. How are you doing?"

     

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  • Haha! My sister JUST IM'ed me with this very question. I tell her the truth.
  • I usually just say okay or good. It?s written on my face if it?s otherwise. But I am almost to the point where I?m so sick of that question I am gonna start telling them the truth about not pooping for 5 days, my chub rub, back aches, sore crotch and lack of sleep.

    The good news is this question is a little less painful in Spanish. Most people ask como va el bebe like how?s the baby doing instead of how are YOU feeling. 

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  • Usually just the standard "tired but good" unless they're close enough to me to get all the hairy details.
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