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Is anyone else dreading telling? (vent)
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Re: Is anyone else dreading telling? (vent)
Mrs.Johns, I know I am late to this, but I could have written this post. Every single word. (Well, except for the 6 parents part.) Seriously, I have laid in bed at night and stressed about all of these things. The fussing, the questions, the fact that I KNOW ILs are going to want to be in my hospital room at ALL TIMES and will randomly be stopping by our house, a lot, without notice. (They live half a block away. Ahhhh!)
We need to start an IL support group. Sorry girl, but at least we have this board to vent to! I know I for sure will be over the next year or so
Lindsey, do we have the same ILs?? We have major boundary issues here. And the stopping over randomly, ugh! (I mentioned above they live half a block away, so they just walk on over.) I am already preparing my speeches for how that will no longer be allowed when baby arrives, but I know that's when it will increase.
I could have written this! I too have 6 parents. Slight difference is my DH's parents are in their 80s and already have 7 grand daughters, so I suspect they will leave us alone (they live across the country).
I told my mom/step-dad this weekend (we were vacationing together) and of course my mom is ecstatic. She said she was coming up for the birth and I made sure she knew I expected her to wait in the waiting room! I'm telling you I will NOT be surrounded by friends and family during the birth!
Oh I feel you!
At about 7 weeks my FIL hugged me hello and tried to touch my belly. I pulled away and like scrunched up my belly. My body language was very much like, "umm no". Thankfully he hasn't done it since!
My SILs are a little crazy. lol One of them and I e-mail often while working and one day last week we were discussing what we were having for lunch that day. I happened to be having chicken salad mix with LA hot sauce and wheat thins. That is not out of the ordinary for me... I've always LOVED LA hot sauce on everything. Then this past weekend we went over to the IL's and both MIL and FIL separately said, "so I heard your latest craving is chicken salad and hot sauce" then MIL said, "don't worry, I'll make you some of my chicken salad". lol oooook
The other SIL walked in this weekend and the first thing she said was, "So... any fun pregnancy stories?" Well, no... I'm just still nauseous and tired. lol
MIL and FIL are also always telling us that they want to pay for this and that and wanting to know how much we have paid in dr bills. We just tell them we can handle it.
Oh and the day that we told them I was pregnant FIL "joked" that he was going to slash the tires on my dad's car so my parents couldn't come to the hospital when the baby is born.
My parents aren't NEARLY as bad. The only really annoying thing is my dad was e-mailing me daily asking me how I was feeling. After like 2 weeks of it I was like, "LOL, I'm fine. Promise! Just the same as every other day". Oh he also gave me a hard time for eating mac & cheese one night for dinner b/c I "needed to eat vegetables". I told him I had it under control. See, I can tell my parents stuff like that meaning to back off and they don't get offended AT ALL. H's parents are the opposite though!
I don't think you're selfish at all. But I do think you should use this as an opportunity to work on being assertive with the people who annoy/frustrate/whatever you.
Because it's definitely not going to stop when the baby gets here, so I'd try to squash whatever they do that bothers you now.