Boyfriend wants to deliver the baby?

beckitamialis · April 2010

K so this might sound weird to everyone, but we both want him to deliver our baby! Also might sound weird, but he was a farmer and has delivered many many animals. I would be more comfortable with him doing it than anyone else. I think it would be a very bonding experience. We would be in a hospital with all the medical attention we would need, and a doctor/ nurses supervising just in case he needed help. Has anyone ever had their BF or DH deliver your baby? Any opinions? Smile

juangela · April 2010

Hmm...honestly, the thought has never crossed my mind. I love my DH dearly, but he is a computer guy...I'm not sure I would want him delivering our child, nor would he want to.

Have you checked with the hospital to be sure this is allowed? I would imagine it would be a huge liability for them. As far as I know, even if your husband were an OB he wouldn't be allowed to deliver his own child in a hospital. I could be wrong, however.

CelticWife · April 2010

Most hospitals would not allow that. I think the only way you would get that kind of birth is to have a homebirth with a midwife.

But really, most dads are far too wound up and freaked out to calmly deliver their child. You are in pain, you have both been awake for hours/days, and it just doesn't seem like a good situation.

ETA: Not to mention the fact that most animals have no difficulty in delivering a baby; all your DH does for the most part is catch. A human, on the other hand, can have quite a few things go wrong.

I have been at the delivery of a calf and of a foal. I have also delivered a baby. The two situations are not even remotely similar.

canthardlywait426 · April 2010

No. As my DH has no medical training- he will not be delivering the baby.

lesullenger · April 2010

umm... I have never heard of this from anyone but my BIL who is a OB and delivered his own children. I dont think delivering a cow is the same as your baby, a lot more variables.. JMO

Mrs.Johns · April 2010

piecesofflare:

Well, people accidentally have their babies in their toilets when they think they just have to poo, so popping a kid out must be as easy as pooing. And how different can a cow be from a person, really?

Ha that's what I was thinking.

My H doesn't even want to cut the cord so I don't see him popping in as catcher.

beckitamialis · April 2010

I haven't asked if that would be able to happen at our hospital, but I have heard of it happening in other hospitals. If we can't find a hospital that will allow it then we may look at midwife/ delivering at home options because I have heard they are more likely to allow him to deliver. I think it would be really great for the whole family. He is actually the one who brought it up too lol.He REALLY wants to.

jc80606 · April 2010

I think the only way something like that is going to happen is if you decide to do a homebirth...and have a midwife who does homebirths there with you to supervise...no way is a hospital ever going to allow that to happen there...

lylyne21 · April 2010

with #2 i had him in the hospital and my MW had my dh put on gloves. As soon as DS head came out my DH was there with my MW guiding the baby out. It wasn't planned this way but it all worked out

Estellankase · April 2010

Never ever in a million years would purposely have DH deliver our child. Like others have said, I would explain to your BF that you are not a cow or any other farm animal... let the trained experts handle that one!

beckitamialis · April 2010

And yes, I realize that delivering a cow or any other animal is WAAAAY different than a baby, but that would be why we have the medical attention. I would never risk our child's life and if we can't do it then we just can't, but i really hope it can work out!

beckitamialis · April 2010

jc80606:
I think the only way something like that is going to happen is if you decide to do a homebirth...and have a midwife who does homebirths there with you to supervise...no way is a hospital ever going to allow that to happen there...

We may have to look into home birth opt ions, but I would be willing because I think it would be worth the experience.

minifalda · April 2010

Sorry, but I don't know of any hospital that would allow this for obvious medical and legal reasons. Delivering farm animals doesn't count as medical training. And you have to know that delivering a farm animal and delivering a baby is like night and day.

beckitamialis · April 2010

lylyne21:
with #2 i had him in the hospital and my MW had my dh put on gloves. As soon as DS head came out my DH was there with my MW guiding the baby out. It wasn't planned this way but it all worked out

Wow, see that sounds amazing to me

we are just gunna plan it ahead lol

Momma_S · April 2010

A hospital is not going to allow this and generally homebirths are not covered by insurance. If you're ok with paying for it all out of your own pocket and you really want him to deliver the baby, a home birth is probably your only option.

Tapsalteerie · April 2010

I don't think the hospital is going to be okay with that. If anything were to go wrong, they could be held liable.

beckitamialis · April 2010

Brezza:
Seriously, is this MUD? No hospital is going to allow any person other than your OB or MW to deliver your baby. Far too many legal & insurance issues for them to even consider it.

And delivering a farm animal is probably pretty different from delivering a human.

Well I know for a fact that's not true. I know people who have done it Smile

hudsaunt1 · April 2010

Yum...I would have to ask what in the he!! are you thinking. HUGE liability issues for the hospital. Also, my entire family (including my DH) are farmers, who have delivered everything from calves, colts & fillys & lambs. There is no way that delivering a baby is the same as delivering an animal...sorry.

Mrs.Johns · April 2010

Am I the only one who thinks this is completely crazy?

hudsaunt1 · April 2010

piecesofflare:
Just make sure that he knows that a crowbar is not used in human deliveries.

or chains

Mrs.Johns · April 2010

piecesofflare:

Mrs.Johns:
Am I the only one who thinks this is completely crazy?

Nope.

Thank god. ::::clings to POF:::::

beckitamialis · April 2010

hudsaunt1:
piecesofflare:
Just make sure that he knows that a crowbar is not used in human deliveries.

or chains

K guys, obviously he would know this Smile

Spacebunny19 · April 2010

doubt any hospital would allow it.

my DH faints when he has his own blood drawn. i'm half waiting for him to faint when i deliver. he's a teacher, not an OB/GYN.

and unless your DH is an OB/GYN, or HUMAN midwife you are best not having him deliver your baby.

ZoeyMarie · April 2010

I'd be saying "no" to him. I want my DH up by me when delivery time comes, not down there looking for the baby. Plus, if something goes wrong, he wouldn't know it as quickly as a medical professional. Baby is way too important to risk that for me.

JulietL129 · April 2010

I would have your boyfriend watch a human birth first... because seeing a baby coming out of you (And seeing all of the super fun stuff that goes along with it) isn't the same thing as catching a baby farm animal. If he can handle that, I applaud him because I wouldn't give birth myself if I could see the process- the only reason I agreed is because my head is at the other end :-P

To answer your question though... no, DH will not be delivering our baby (or even cutting the cord- he would pass out cold), and no hospital will let you do it because of liability.

Good luck!

Mrs.Johns · April 2010

And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

DLD102 · April 2010

piecesofflare:

Well, people accidentally have their babies in their toilets when they think they just have to poo, so popping a kid out must be as easy as pooing. And how different can a cow be from a person, really?

I'm with POF...animals, humans, dinosaurs...we're all babies at some point, right?

ToshaGirl · April 2010

Sure, go for it.

And then later for daycare just toss the kid out in the barn.

All the same right?

Jaysus.

lilmgirl · April 2010

beckitamialis · April 2010

Mrs.Johns:
And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

We have talked about that too lol. I don't have a problem, like i said I am more comfortable with him than anyone else in the whole world.

nosoup4u · April 2010

lylyne21:
with #2 i had him in the hospital and my MW had my dh put on gloves. As soon as DS head came out my DH was there with my MW guiding the baby out. It wasn't planned this way but it all worked out

yeah, I've heard of this, with *some* hospital providers (more likely midwives) and homebirth midwives. If it's really important, then seriously look into homebirth - some insurance companies will cover it.

And you may have more luck checking out the message boards at mothering.com, they are a bit more open-minded when it comes to all things labor and birth. hth

beckitamialis · April 2010

JulietL129:
I would have your boyfriend watch a human birth first... because seeing a baby coming out of you (And seeing all of the super fun stuff that goes along with it) isn't the same thing as catching a baby farm animal. If he can handle that, I applaud him because I wouldn't give birth myself if I could see the process- the only reason I agreed is because my head is at the other end :-P
To answer your question though... no, DH will not be delivering our baby (or even cutting the cord- he would pass out cold), and no hospital will let you do it because of liability.
Good luck!

He watched his sister give birth, and since I've been pregnant he has watched a few online. He has a strong stomach and I know he could do it. Lol and thank you for being so kind

canthardlywait426 · April 2010

Mrs.Johns:
piecesofflare:

Mrs.Johns:
Am I the only one who thinks this is completely crazy?

Nope.

Thank god. ::::clings to POF:::::

::joins in the clinging::

Too crazy for me. Just too crazy.

Mrs.Johns · April 2010

beckitamialis:

Mrs.Johns:
And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

We have talked about that too lol. I don't have a problem, like i said I am more comfortable with him than anyone else in the whole world.

I'm sorry but there is a huge difference between being comfortable with someone and crapping on them. To each their own, though!

stephanieroyer · April 2010

Mrs.Johns:
Am I the only one who thinks this is completely crazy?

OMG THIS! like seriously? im reading this trying to figure out if your serious.. crazy.. or just really naive in thinking that a hospital is actually going to let your BF deliver your baby?? i mean honestly.. there is a reason doctors go to school and have degrees.. they are trained to do this your BF on the other hand is NOT. let him stick to the cows.. and leave the humans to the doctors.. wow.. im just.. WOW.

Tink0910 · April 2010

OMG!! I have nothing to say on this. And cows etc are different then people and I dont imagine a hospital lettin him do the delivery! To me there is a reason why doctors go to school to do this leave it to professionals! There is no way in hell I would let DH deliver the baby.

Mt2G1012 · April 2010

Mrs.Johns:
And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

I would like to have sex with my husband again, so I'm with you on this. We know it can and probably will happen, but he doesn't need to have his face and hands in it Indifferent

At OP, whatever you want, it is your baby, but no hospital will let this happen. You will have to have a home birth. If you are ok with the risk to your child since he has no human medical training let alone obgyn training, then go for it.

Caymandreams · April 2010

Wow... just wow.... I'm sure the doctor wouldn't mind if he helped guide the baby out and maybe even caught him/her, but other than that it's not going to happen. And I say make him watch a few documentaries of a human birth and see if he's still up to it. Although ultimately I'm calling MUD.

canthardlywait426 · April 2010

beckitamialis:

Mrs.Johns:
And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

We have talked about that too lol. I don't have a problem, like i said I am more comfortable with him than anyone else in the whole world.

I am also more comfortable with my DH than anyone else in the world. That does NOT mean that I want him anywhere near the punani when Im pushing his kid through it. I would actually like for him to WANT to have sex with me again one day.

And my level of comfort does not fall into a category where Id be ok with pooping on him. Were just not that kinda couple.

beckitamialis · April 2010

CathyMD:
Sure, go for it.

And then later for daycare just toss the kid out in the barn.

All the same right?

Jaysus.

Like I said earlier, obviously he knows it is going to be different. We are not irresponsible for wanting to do this!! We would have supervision, someone right there to take over if need be. Get real

DLD102 · April 2010

Mrs.Johns:
beckitamialis:

Mrs.Johns:
And we haven't even discussed the whole poop thing. I don't think I'd want him anywhere near my anus when I am pushing that hard.

We have talked about that too lol. I don't have a problem, like i said I am more comfortable with him than anyone else in the whole world.

I'm sorry but there is a huge difference between being comfortable with someone and crapping on them. To each their own, though!

::PEES PANTS IN A FIT OF HYSTERICS::

HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

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