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hterry85
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F/U to SIL drama
hterry85
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A refresher on the backstory: SIL (DH's younger sister, M) got pregnant at 18, she's now 19. Hasn't heard from the BF since the day she found out she was pregnant. Even during the pregnancy, SIL really didn't not want the baby (J) She seriously considered adoption, but MIL talked her out of it.
J is now almost 6 months old, and MIL (as well as BIL and his wife H, who also live there) have been the only ones to take care of her. M simply does not come home for days at a time. BIL said that a few weeks back him, M, and J were the only ones home. He gets out of the shower and J is in her crib screaming (her crib is in M's room) M is asleep on the couch with her pillow over her head.
So SIL H is also 19, and the two girls do not get along. H is known for running her mouth when no one else can hear her and then being the innocent one when someone finally goes off on her. She started running her mouth to M, who was holding J in her carrier. She literally drops the carrier to ground and attacks her. (There are no witnesses as to who actually started it, no charges are being filed on either side) but that night M took off with J and her drug dealer of a boyfriend. She took NOTHING of Js. Most importantly she has no medical card, no WIC paperwork, and no bottles/formula. This has been about a week now. As you can imagine, MIL is just heartbroken without that baby. But I am seriously worried for this baby and her safety. DH knew this guy in HS (they were actually friends at one time) and he had been shipped off for awhile for his meth addiction. And SIL has no idea (or desire) how to take care of this baby. MIL and FIL have already met with an lawyer to try and get guardianship, which I think they will have no problem with. After M took off they found empty bags with pot reside, alchohol (she got an underage drinking ticket just a couple months ago) and illegal knives all in her room. The same room the baby was sleeping in. SIL also has a DHS case worker than came to the house regularly, when SIL even bothered to be there. She has already agreed to testify if needed that SIL was hardly ever there when she visited, and when she was refused to have anything to do with the baby.
Please keep little J in your T&P, I'll be sure to update you all!
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Re: F/U to SIL drama
Wow. What a mess. I wonder if MIL is regretting talking her daughter into keeping a baby she so clearly doesn't want.
Many prayers go out to that baby girl. I pray that she is returned safely and quickly.
I don't think she regrets that, because then J wouldn't be a part of her life at all. But SIL went back and fourth when J was first born about signing over guardianship then, but MIL thought it was more ppd than anything, and that should would come around. She does regret not taking advantage of that when she had the chance.