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Guilty Feelings

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I am driving myself nuts - sometimes I cant help but feel that I may not be spending enough time with DD, stimulating her, playing with her, etc.  Today she slept alot. (of course she did have shots yesterday) and I feel that I didnt get too much time with her.  Sometimes she fusses and we will put her in her swing which then leads to her fallign asleep...are we provoking sleep?  And at bedtime, like right now, she is over in her crib - awake; I feel like maybe I shouldnt let her lie there and should rather be playing with her. But yet, would like to establish some type of bedtime routine.  Help!?!?! I sometimes feel like a lousy mother. I just want to be the best I can be. Anyone else struggling with such issues?

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  • sleepingbeauty825sleepingbeauty825 member
    I feel the same way about the same things!! I can't imagine he would doze in his bouncy chair unless he was tired though... I don't know but there has GOT to be worse mothers than me out there.
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  • HaysleyHaysley

    DH and I just had a conversation about this.  When she's been awake for longer than an hour, we worry that we're overstimulating her and making her over-tired.  Then, when we try to put her down and she stays awake in her crib, we worry about, like you said, not playing with her enough.

    I just finished reading the Baby Whisperer and I am waiting for DH to read it before we attempt a collaborative routine.

     In other words, you're not alone! :) 

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  • erin922erin922 member
    I feel this way too sometimes, especially this week.  I have been fighting to get her to nap in her crib while keeping somewhat of a routine which is turning into a big fat FAIL.  So I feel like I am spending the entire afternoon trying to just feed her, soothe her, put her down for a nap, repeat.  I feel like I should just say screw it and make some playtime in the mix, but I know that won't help matters either.  She is always the happiest first thing in the morning so I make sure to spend a good amount of time with her playing games, singing, etc.  That way if I don't get to do much more playing the rest of the day, I don't feel like I did absolutely nothing with her.  I also will wake her a little earlier than the bedtime routine and make sure we get at least 10-15 minutes of playtime in.  That usually helps with making her a little tired and by the time it's time to go down, she is definitely ready and out like a light.  You are NOT a lousy mother you are doing what is best for her.  Also DD slept for almost 3 days straight after her shots....just let her be and let the vaccines run their course through her. 
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