"Planning" birth-dates for kids

DEBBIE33CASEY · April 2010

I know it can be impossible to sometimes plan these things but would you like your children's bdays to be close together or far apart. For example, DD's bday is April 28th and I'd like the next baby to be at least one month away from her. So like nothing closer than a Feb birthday or June bday. Does that make sense? So when we're TTC#2 I might avoid the months close to an EDD around DD's bday.

My reasoning is that it takes me so dang long to plan anything I want to have time to plan everything out for memorable bday parties. So I would rather DC#2 not have a March/April/May bday.

I know it's kinda frivalous to be thinking about this stuff and I should be grateful about even getting PG with #2. Or I should focus on having a healthy baby, not thinking about planning a birth-date. But it's fun to think about this kinda stuff for me!

What about you?

leslie13510 · April 2010

I say aim for them having the same birthday. It's much easier to just plan one party.

Starlette1983 · April 2010

I am going to try to have our kids b-days separate from each other. ?DS birthday is only a week after my twin SD's birthday, and the whole time I was PG I was so paranoid about them all having the same ?birthday... next time I would love to have it a bit more spaced out (at least for peace of mind, lol!)

Mrs.Carlybella · April 2010

My sister and I are 2 weeks apart date wise and it was great b/c we would have joint parties at the house for family and smaller separate parties with friends (sleepover, movies, etc)

For our kids- B is in June and I love that time of a year for a bday. I would rather plan to try to avoid a bday near xmas than a bday near B's bday LOL

cari12 · April 2010

When we were pregnant with DD since she was due in June, DH's birthday is in April and my birthday is in August, we joked that we should plan our future kids for October, December and February so we have a birthday every other month. DD was born early (late May) but #2 is due in October so maybe we really will have to try for December & February babies next!

My parents say they planned my siblings and I, we were all due 23 months apart exactly to the due date (I was due 8/10, my sister was due 7/10, and then my brother was due 6/10 in our respective birth years, and we were all born in the week before our due dates).

Lesley0228 · April 2010

I liked having a summer baby and would like my second to have a nice warm weather birthday too. So I figure if we start trying when DD is 2 then as long as we can conceive within 6 mo, #2 would have a bday between March and September. I don't plan to avoid sex in late Sept though, so I guess if they end up with similar/same birthday then oh well.

MuckDiva · April 2010

I am a teacher and wanted a late spring/early summer baby. DD was born on 7/8/09 (talk about cool birthdates!) and we are not sure when we want to TTC #2 but I'd like a late spring/early summer baby again. If I can avoid July great but it will not be end of the world. If we have a April baby that means I would have to get preg in July (CRAP!!)

My sister and I are 13 months apart and my parents always made sure we had our parties a month apart.

deeanneharris · April 2010

I am really, really busy at work for a majority of the year but especially Oct-Feb and May-July so I will not TTC when I will have a due date then.

grinsandgiggles · April 2010

DS's birthday is in June. I'd love to have one born in summer (outdoor parties are nice), but not the same month. However, I don't really want to deal with pregnancy in the summer either. I got to avoid most of it with DS. So we're going to try for late spring or July/August (and I'll stay in a/c lol)...if we have another that is lol I do know that I want to avoid winter. My birthday is 2 weeks after Christmas. My parties were always cancelled due to snow and I always got crappy birthday presents as a kid lol (I think because everyone was always broke after the holidays).

Jules G · April 2010

I honestly don't care if LOs birthday's are around the same time or not. I don't however want to be pregnant all summer again so I guess I wouldn't want them close together for that reason. Guess momma is being a little selfish on that one. LOL! Seriously though, I suppose I just wouldn't want them to be on the same day or anything. I would want each DC to have her/his own special day.

pink.dutch.tulips · April 2010

i can go either way .. if we have another, i'll be in mid to late30's, i'll just be happy to have a healthy baby.

my brother and i are 3 years and 4 days apart .. that meant 10 days of birthday cake in the house when we were kids Party!!!

my younger sister is a may bday (my brother and i are both august) and my other sister is a november bday. thankfully bdays were quiet family celebrations.

jolis_petits_bijoux · April 2010

As of now, we're one and done. If we change our minds, we've kind of thought that we'd try to plan the next baby to not arrive in the beginning of the summer.

We live up north where we basically have a 9 month winter, so we enjoy those few 3 months of summer - getting to go to the beach, trips, just being OUTSIDE, etc. DS was born in June, and though it did have its benefits (not having to bundle him up to take him out when he was newborn), I'd like to avoid having another summer baby (especially an early summer baby). You're kind of stuck at home and inside for a few months - we were, anyway, DS was colicky, plus no sunscreen on newborns - so we didn't go out and do much with him until he was a little older.

So I figure, if we were to have another baby, I'd try to avoid May-July if possible. If we had another LO like DS, we're going to be stuck around the house for 2 or 3 months. Might as well make those months be in the dead of winter when we're stuck in the house anyway due to 4 feet of snow accumulation. Especially now that we have Logan, I'd rather try not to take away his summer fun

Sorry for the long-winded answer. To put it simply, I'd plan the timing of another baby around when I'd like their newborn period to be, not future birthday parties when LO is older. A January, February, or March baby would be ideal.

JLGY · April 2010

I definitely want the next one to be born in late spring or summer because of warm weather birthdays. It's much easier to plan summer parties around here - there's lots to do when it's hot.

izzybella · April 2010

I planned DS's birth to be after May 23rd (no joke-- I was graduating with my Masters and the 23rd was my graduation date!)). He was due 5/24 and born 5/26.