Birth Stories
Natural/Home Birth stories?
Hi ladies, I am absolutely interested in having a natural birth (and possibly a home birth).
I am having trouble finding relevant birth stories... would you link me to yours?
THANKS!
I am having trouble finding relevant birth stories... would you link me to yours?
THANKS!
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Re: Natural/Home Birth stories?
Even writing this does not do it justice...and i cannot put into words the gratitide I feel for my lovely midwife and amazing family. Both the prenatal and post partum care is unparalleled to any hospital care you would EVER receive. The entire process was by far life changing both during my pregnancy and afterward. Ivan Hendrix is my everything and he received the most gentle, natural and 'normal' birth possible...
Read on:
I was assuming all along I would give birth early. My mom and sister both had - I thought at least a week early. Here I was at 37 weeks staying at my parents (where I was to give birth) with John, my boyfriend and partner. We eagerly anticipated the beginning of my labor. Every day I would have many contractions, lots of aches and pains, but no 'real' labor. This frustration is hard to explain. It is like your body 'wants' to begin, but everything is not in sync. All the hormones from both you and the baby have not yet 'clicked'. So you just wait... the frustration mounting... by week 40 I decided to go back home and wait some more. At least I would be near to my things, especially my cats that I dearly missed.
As my due date of Sept. 26 came and went many tears flowed... I no longer was sleeping much, the aches and pains sometimes overwhelmed me. John massaged me often, hugged me and wiped my tears. He just was amazing through everything?so patient. He, of course, also was so anxious. I just kept thinking 'this baby is NEVER coming out'!
Finally, at 41 weeks we decided to start natural labor inducing methods (yes, no pitocin!) with the guidance of my midwife... the final one which seemed to get things really going being nipple stimulation! Every 5 min. for an hour. I did this the night before I went into labor and the morning of... while sitting on my birth ball. I stood up after an hour that morning and felt some cramping and fluid began to flow. I thought this was my water breaking - but found out later it was not - just cervical fluid. But, man I was SO excited! I knew this was FINALLY IT!!
So, I called my midwife that afternoon and let her know the developments. This was Monday, October 8th. She told me to keep an eye on my contractions - if they begin to come every 4 min. lasting a minute for one hour she would be on her way. So... John and I stayed at home until about 4 - then I felt we should head over to my parents house. We got there about 5 pm - contractions still mild, but pretty regular. I sat down with the family and had some chicken soup. My sister had been at my parents with my nephew that day, and instead of heading home she stayed with me - she was to act as my doula and overall labor support, being she to had a previous home birth.
At about 7 pm we called my midwife to let her know the contractions were coming strong now - and were very regular. She headed over with her apprentice - by the time she got there I was IN PAIN. The contractions were hard to get through - I just moaned through them. With John and my sister helping me - giving me ice chips, drinks, bites of food (yes, food!) massages, cold cloths. I took showers, I got in and out of the tub, I walked, I laid down - you name it - just to get through each wave of my body contracting. You can't describe this feeling in words - only a woman who has felt contractions knows the sensation. Yes, it is 'pain', but it is different than typical pain as most know it.
So... I just kept contracting - trying not to be overwhelmed. The midwife and/or her apprentice checked me periodically - and I had A LOT more dilating to go... the night passed and became daylight. I no longer knew what hour it was ... what time. All clocks were turned away from me. I didn't care. I just wanted to know I was progressing. I remember my MW (midwife) checking me and telling me that my cervix was not opening fully. She asked me if I wanted her to break my water - that perhaps this might help. I agreed. After my water broke the contractions began coming harder and closer together. After more position changes (more than you can imagine - squatting, laying on side (the worst one!), sitting on birth ball, sitting on toilet, sitting on birth stool, walking, kneeling, sitting in tub...) I wanted her to check the cervix again. Much to our dismay, she told me the 'lip' of the cervix was still there... this meant - the baby was not descending. Ugh!! I was SO upset. She wanted me to rest... I cried. I wanted to die.
Nothing is harder in the world than trying to sleep through contractions! BUT, amazingly my body would let me get a half hour here and there... enough to allow me to keep going. This was the point (I believe this was Tuesday night - about 24 hours in) that I really was questioning if I could keep going. I just wanted the pain to end and I wanted the baby out. My MW really thought at this point that the length of the labor was really due to the baby's positioning. She felt something was up with the way he was trying to descend... I was SO upset. I didn't know what day it was... I couldn't focus on anyone. I drifted in and out of sanity. It was crazy. BUT, I knew my only other choice was to go to the hospital. My MW supported me. She told me what would happen at the hospital. She talked through everything. She wanted it to be my decision. She understood my feelings. She empathized. She would be there no matter what I decided.
I talked to my MW and John and my family for a long time. I was so torn. I thought I couldn't go on. BUT, something in me decided to try and rest one more time. To allow my MW to try and again manually open my cervix (ugh! this sucked!!) while I contracted and began to push the baby down. This was the only solution. If I went to the hospital, it would be an uphill battle. Checking in while in agony, filling out paperwork, dealing with the attitudes of the staff because I had already been in labor for so long at home (and had pushed for several hours already), not knowing if they would want to give me a c-section, not knowing when/if I would get pain medication or of they would try and use forceps or suction - and number one in my mind - how my baby and I would be treated both during and after delivery. The main reason I wanted to birth at home was for the baby ? second was for me to feel I was in control. I just couldn't do it. I couldn't go.
So... I rested...
Then, after my MW worked again with my cervix, I began to want to push - this was in the middle of the night Tues/Wed morning. My sister was truly my strength during this time. I started to give over to the pain. The contractions OVERWHELMED me - they pushed me up into the air and back down again - they were pain, but they were relief. I KNEW something good was happening to my body - that I was FINALLY progressing. John and my sister and MW all took turns holding me while I had these insane contractions. I sat on the toilet contracting for at least an hour ? this really got things going. I had my MW check me to make sure my issue with the cervix was gone? and it was!! She told me to keep pushing. So, I squatted, I walked, I kneeled, I laid down with my legs in the air, you name it and I did it - and I could feel his head!! ME - I could feel it!!!
So, I ended up in the bed (had planned a water birth, but DID NOT CARE at this point!) - typical laying down style, but the best position for me and the baby since we weren't really even sure what position he was in coming down... I held my own legs. John held my head. My mom and sister my hands/arms. My sister did reiki on me. Energy from the universe overwhelmed me! Everyone helping me to gain the strength to push Ivan down. After 3 full hours of pushing (6 total to address cervical issue) - Ivan arrived!!! Everyone telling me how much hair he had - how they could see him coming - I knew I was doing it!! He came out - it HURT LIKE HELL, but I got him here - he and I worked together to bring him into the world ... he cried. He looked at me and John intently... he was big and beautiful... he laid on my bare chest ... both of us together... I couldn't believe it - he was finally here.
Those 41 hours of pain, of frustration and tough decisions... of not knowing if I could do it... they have forever changed me as a person. As a woman. I feel reborn. I feel like the things in life that used to matter don't anymore. My family is closer now than ever before ... John and I have this amazing love and respect for each other. All this was given to me by my son. My beautiful son and the amazing birth experience we had together. Yes, his darn hands and arms were in the way - crossed over his chest and up by his face during descent - a little bruised when he came out - this is why I labored for so long, but, now that I look at it and have had time to reflect, I would have it no other way... Ivan is a miracle. He has forever changed me as a person and I can never thank him enough for that gift.
My midwife visited me the next day - went over my labor length and times, talked to me about my strength. She told me had I gone to the hospital she is sure they would have performed a c-section. They only let you push for 2 hours at the hospital ? and forget all the position changes. I avoided major surgery and much psychological damage. I know that there are times when babies need to be born this way - but, I am proof that there are times when a WOMAN can birth her own baby, in her own way if you just allow her the opportunity ? even a 9 lb. baby! Not every woman and child needs to be saved by a Dr. or surgeon. My baby NEVER once had a dip in his heart rate. He was happy and healthy all during labor. He just had a hard time getting here. Ivan and I are proof that if you allow a birth to occur naturally and in its own way - it will happen, and will happen in a profound and amazing way.
I am forever changed...
just make sure you have a really strong support system. my family and midwife got me through everything... and the position changes are KEY. being able to move about and go to the 'place in your head' you need to go is what it is all about!
and prenatal yoga (which i really did not do lol) and visiting a chiro (this is did!) that specializes in pregnancy are really important to be sure you are aligned and ready for birth. hands and knees are also imp. and knees to chest as you get closer to birth. if you see a really good midwife they will tell you all this... and READ READ READ about natural birth - esp. anything my ina may gaskin. empower yourself w/ knowledge!!!
https://books.google.com/books?id=uQoHAAAACAAJ&dq=inauthor:Ina+inauthor:May+inauthor:Gaskin
you can do it mama!!!!
www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com
maybe even witness a live birth if you have the opportunity?
I say deliver at a hospital that allows a midwife and encourages med free birth. They are not easy to find, but they do exist! I went on to give birth to my daughter pain medication free, IV free in a hospital where we were both safe!!!! My follow up care was fantastic. Please do more research. I know that this does not happen often, but why take the risk?
I delivered Elisabeth Carlisle on Monday, June 11 (her due date). I had been having contractions 5-7 minutes apart starting Saturday evening, all day and night on Sunday, so we went to the dr. on Monday morning and I was 5 cm and in labor. So we went to the hospital, and they broke my water around 10:30 AM. By noon, I was having contractions every 3 minutes, and they were getting quite painful. So I did a lot of laboring on the exercise ball and also leaning on the ball with it resting on the bed. By 1:30 they were getting really bad, I was 7 cm, and they were quite painful, so we went to the tub. That felt AWESOME. It helped my back labor so much. While in there, they really started to ramp up and I was getting so uncomfortable, and just could NOT find a comfortable position at all. Then after about an hour in the tub, I started getting the urge to push, and told DH he needed to go get the nurse because I seriously needed to push. He was like, "no, Lis, just fight through it..." and I gave him "the look" and said, "go get the nurse." So he ran and grabbed the nurse and we got out of the tub and checked me and I was ready to push. After a half an hour of pushing, she was here! I pushed out her head and shoulders and got to raise her onto my chest myself. She weighed 7 pounds 3 ounces, was 20 1/2 inches long, and scored a TEN on her Apgar. I am convinced one of the reasons she was so alert right away and scored a ten was because I did not have any drugs in my system...
It was an AMAZING experience, and I am so proud of myself for going without pain meds. We are just crazy about her and nursing is going well... it is hard but very gratifying to see how happy you can make your baby by providing what they need. My biggest piece of advice to everyone is to just believe in yourself and know what you are capable of doing and let you and your body do it. My doctor and the nurses were awesome and never once tried to push drugs on me... they were so supportive and the entire experience was way more enjoyable than I was prepared for... I want to do it again right now!!
Lisa and Eddie -
Your birth story of your daughter sounds very similar to mine and your daughter has the same name and SPELLING - is she a firecracker? My Elisabeth drips personality. She is very outgoing and just draws people to her. How about you??
Gina
your case is rare, but also, home birth midwives are highly skilled to deal w/ emerg. such as hemorraging. i do not know your case spec., but i know most midwives carry pitocin, which is what stops bleeding. they are also highly skilled in dealing w/ any problems w/ baby as well...
op - please don't let this scare you. a good, exp. home birth mw will know what to do in this situation... my mw has delivered over 1000 babies w/ ONE emerg. transport - which turned out fine. any other tranports were for pain mngmnt.