Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
AliciaMomof4
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Re: Twin Babies Birth Weights?
36w0d, c-section for IUGR
girl: 4 lb, 13 oz
boy: 4 lb, 3 oz
wore preemie clothes until about 2 months of age / 7 lbs (newborn diapers)
wore newborn until about 3 months of age / 9 lbs (size 1 diapers)
wore 0-3 months until 5 months of age / 11 lbs (size 1-2 "in between" diapers)
now at 5 months they are in 3-6 month clothes and we've just started using size 2 diapers.
38w exactly, Jacob (A) was 6lb and William (B) was 5lb 5oz. Some people ask how big they are and when I tell them they always say how they were such big babies because most twins are born around 3-4 pounds, I don't know where they get their info, but whatever.
ETA: They wore preemie for 2w and then NB for the next 6w.
born at 38w1d
6lb 6oz and 7lb 15.6oz. not small at all
I did have a few preemie outfits ready in case they were small- and they were able to fit into them in their first week home, so they did wear them once : )
people are aholes.
my singleton was 7lb 4oz and was born at 36w --- so I also have big babies in general (i was a 9lb baby born on my due date)
On average, twins are born right around 36w and average birth weight for twins is 5lbs6oz.
That said, mine were born at 37w6d via scheduled induction. They weighed 6lbs10oz (19.75" long) and 6lbs7oz (20" long).
A: 6 lbs. 4 oz.
B: 6 lbs. 13 oz.
Born at 37w6d. We put them right into NB clothes. My singleton boys were 9 lbs. 2 oz. and 8 lbs. 14 oz.
I figured we'd pass on buying preemie clothes and if we ended up needing them I'd have someone make a trip to buy some. Since we didn't end up needing them, I'm glad I didn't have any to return! : )
36w4d
Samuel (Baby A) 6lbs 11oz and Jakob (Baby
6lbs 3oz
They wore newborn for a few weeks and then 0-3.
33w 4d
Ava was 4lbs 5oz
Lauryn was 5lb 5oz
they wore preemie for about a month and then the weight gain really started and they were in newborn size
31weeks 5 days... my girls weighed 2.11 lbs and 3 lbs
they wore preemie clothes until about 10 weeks old
Mine were born at 38w1d.
A: 6lbs 5 oz
B: 5lbs 12 oz
They wore newborn until 5 weeks (and about 8-9lbs) and are still in 0-3 month clothes (and about 12 lbs for DD and probably close to 15lbs for DS)
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
6 lb. 12 oz. and 5 lb. 3 oz. (38 weeks on the dot)
Anastasia (smaller) wore preemie stuff for maybe a week.
36w 3d, 5 lbs 10 oz and 5 lbs 11 oz, they were too big for premie (up to 5 lbs) but were swimming in NB for awhile. gerber ran small so those fit best at first.
GL!
36 weeks 1 day Baby A Girl was 6#13oz 19 1/2 in Baby B Boy was 7#3oz 19 in
vaginal, induced delivery.
came home in newborn clothes and newborn diapers. at 3 weeks, they do not fit into their coming home outfit but some of the newborn clothes are a little big on them. still in newborn diapers but can fit into a 1 (pretty big though) only wore preemie onesies once or twice b/c they are stretchy other than that, never wore preemie clothes b/c they were already too big!
my singleton was 3#8oz at 29 weeks...big for his gestational age.
good luck girl and don't worry!
35w6d
DS was 7 lbs -- newborn clothes
DD was 5lbs 4oz -- preemie clothes for about a month
Ryan was 5 lbs 15 oz
Keira was 6 lbs 9 oz
They were born at 37w3d
My boys were born at 38 weeks (planned c-section)
Benjamin (Baby A) was 6 lb 11 oz.
Jacob (Baby
was 5 lb 12 oz.
The both dropped a lot of weight the first week and were in preemie clothes for awhile. Jacob wore them for at least a month or two.
Born @ 37 weeks
DS - 6lbs 1oz
DD - 5lbs 2oz
They were on track to be bigger but I developed Pre-E which limited their progress growth wise. They were on track to be 8lbs each (eek!) but that wouldn't have been unreasonable because DH was a 9lb baby 3 weeks early (double eek!)
GL.
34 weeks
A 5lbs 1oz
B 4lbs 13oz
They went straight to newborn because they were too long for preemie clothes!
37w3d
Baby A: 6lbs 2 oz
Baby B: 4lbs 12 oz (IUGR)
Baby A wore a couple of preemie outfits for a couple of weeks. Baby B was in preemie stuff for the first month. They then stayed in newborn until 3 months.
I had my boys at 37w4d and one was 6lb11oz and the other was 5lb3oz. The smaller boy fits well into preemie shirts, but he is long, so the preemie sleepers are not ideal for him. Either way, he can wear newborn clothes, they are just a bit big.
37w6d
6lb 4oz, 5lb 2oz
Beta #1 15dpo 298, Beta #2 18dpo 1048
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37 weeks 5 days 5lbs15oz and 6lbs 3oz
Just take care of yourself, take your vitamins, eat healthy and get lots of rest! good luck on baking those babies:)
38 weeks, 5 lb 2 oz and 7 lb 7 oz. Only Baby A needed premee clothes and only briefly becuase he gained weight fast. We just got a few onesies to fit him.
38 weeks, C-section
They were 6 lbs 2 oz and 6 lbs 11 oz. We never wore preemie clothes, newborn lasted us a while though. And newborn diapers also
The boys were born at 38w2d. Eli weighed 6 lbs. 12 oz. and Ben weighed 5 lbs. 13 oz. Neither wore preemie clothes. They went straight to NB.
If you go full term, they have every bit as good a chance as a singleton to be good sized babies. A lot of girls on here have had 6-7+ lbs. twins.
37w 1d c-section due to pre-e
Fiona- Baby A- 5 lb 13 oz 19 in
Caitlin- Baby B- 5 lb 6 oz 20.5 in
They were preemie clothes for 4-6 weeks then into newborn. They will be 3 months tomorrow and are just now growing out of the newborn and 0-3 are starting to fit them now. They were prefectly healthy and came home with me 3 days pp
37 w 4 d
Baby A 5lb 5oz
Baby B 6lb 5oz
Born at 37 weeks 3 days
Tristan 6 lbs 4 ounces
Zxavier 6 lbs 1 ounce
My boys were born at 36 weeks and 2 days. Their weights are in my siggy below.
They wore preemie size for the first couple weeks and then moved to newborn. However, all my preemie clothes were handed down from my SIL who had a 26 weeker. I did not buy any and would have made it fine without them.
My boys mostly wore long sleeved wrapped t-shirts and swaddled receiving blankets for the first few weeks and I really only put on the preemie clothes when we went to the pedi.