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Am I being too sensitive?

Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
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So first of all, the vag candy (progesterone) makes me super tired and now overly sensitive and depressed.  I'm not alone on that one I know from the post the other day. 

DH and I went to dinner and movie with his brother and wife (who's more like my best friend, and is pregnant).  She knows all about our struggles with IF, from doctor's appts. to meds I'm taking and side efects, emotional side of it, everything.  When she told me she was pregnant she was even hesitant and cautious of how she said it because of me.  I'm so happy for her, I really am. 

Last night all they could talk about was her pregnancy.  Morning sickness, gaining weight, how they really want a girl (cause they already have a boy) and her husband even asked her if she'd be sad if they had another boy, even what she was going to be dress up as for Halloween, since she'll have a big belly by then.  It was all just too much to take.  I can understand that it's going to come up, but really??  Literally ever other topic was that. 

 

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    I understand that yes they are excited I would be too. But given that they know what you are going through I find it smug and insensitive. I would've cut them off and changed the subject and if they came back to the pregnancy I would remind them that I am extremely happy for them, but they are being rude and insensitive to me. Sorry you had to go through that!
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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo

    imagemari2003:
    I understand that yes they are excited I would be too. But given that they know what you are going through I find it smug and insensitive. I would've cut them off and changed the subject and if they came back to the pregnancy I would remind them that I am extremely happy for them, but they are being rude and insensitive to me. Sorry you had to go through that!

    That's how I'm feeling.  I hate feeling this way, so happy and want to be only happy for them cause I love them, but I try to push aside my feelings, and it doesn't work.  Did that make any sense?  :) 

    Thanks Mari.  I did change the subject when they kept going on and on about having a girl, then they told us we'll probably be the ones to have girls, cause everyone else has boys.  DH didn't get how I was feeling, so he agreed with them and said we can always switch kids on the weekends.  I snapped at him right away, in front of them, and said well all I want is a baby, boy or girl, just a healthy baby is enough for me. 

    How are you hon?

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    Good for you for reminding them what really is important! I'm ok same ole same ole! How are you doing?
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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo

    imagemari2003:
    Good for you for reminding them what really is important! I'm ok same ole same ole! How are you doing?

    I just saw your other post and responded.  That sucks you have to do that now.  I'm doing ok, relaxing today, being lazy.  :)

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    No, I don't thing  you are being too sensitive. Sometimes people get so excited about something in their life that all they can do is talk about it. They don't always thing through what they are saying or doing. Unfortunately as she gets further along in her pregnancy, it will be talked about more and more.

    We live in a fertile's world and they don't always thing about what they are saying or doing will effect us. IF is still so taboo, but I think if we talk about it more, people will realize how much it is a part of our daily lives.

    Next time, maybe you can come up with a way to nicely let them know that the conversation is hurting you?

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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    imageams8099:

    No, I don't thing  you are being too sensitive. Sometimes people get so excited about something in their life that all they can do is talk about it. They don't always thing through what they are saying or doing. Unfortunately as she gets further along in her pregnancy, it will be talked about more and more.

    We live in a fertile's world and they don't always thing about what they are saying or doing will effect us. IF is still so taboo, but I think if we talk about it more, people will realize how much it is a part of our daily lives.

    Next time, maybe you can come up with a way to nicely let them know that the conversation is hurting you?

    Thank you.  :)  I completely agree with what you.  The part that's hard for me is trying to figure out how to tell her it hurts me without sounding jealous or not happy for her pregnancy.

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  • georgiagirl1212georgiagirl1212

    In a word, no.  You are not being too sensitive.  If the situation were different, let's say you had just been dumped by your Fiance and were heartbroken and single.  Your friend, who is currently engaged, expresses her sympathy but then talks nonstop about her wedding, how much she loves her guy, how sweet he is, blah, blah. Not a great friend, IMO.

    Sure, she's happy.  Sure, it's great.  You're not saying you don't ever want to discuss her pregnancy.  But, jeeze, for that to be the only topic of conversation?  That's just selfish, no matter what your own situation is.

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    imageMrs Carrillo:
    imageams8099:

    No, I don't thing  you are being too sensitive. Sometimes people get so excited about something in their life that all they can do is talk about it. They don't always thing through what they are saying or doing. Unfortunately as she gets further along in her pregnancy, it will be talked about more and more.

    We live in a fertile's world and they don't always thing about what they are saying or doing will effect us. IF is still so taboo, but I think if we talk about it more, people will realize how much it is a part of our daily lives.

    Next time, maybe you can come up with a way to nicely let them know that the conversation is hurting you?

    Thank you.  :)  I completely agree with what you.  The part that's hard for me is trying to figure out how to tell her it hurts me without sounding jealous or not happy for her pregnancy.

    Ya, I know what you mean. It is a tough situation. 

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