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Question about how DH deals with your ppd?

ShariJennShariJenn member
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So, I've been on zoloft since September, and at this point I'm feeling pretty much back to myself.  I sorta appreciate every day that i'm in a good mood now, becuase I was depressed for 10 months and just thought that was normal life.  Now that I'm usually in a good mood I get really angry when DH is in a bad mood for a few days in a row.  I just want him to be happy too, so that I can feel like life is back to normal.  I know he's stressed out with work, a wife and a baby, but I just wish things were easier now.

We had the perfect relationship before my PPD and I just want things to be normal again.

Am I alone with this problem?  I feel like when I bring this up to him, he just says "I am in a good mood, what are you talking about?" like I'm crazy.  Maybe it's because I need him to be happy to support my happiness so I don't loose it again (if that makes sense).

 

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Re: Question about how DH deals with your ppd?

  • Smudges*MomSmudges*Mom member

    My situation is different because my DH is deployed, but I thought that I'd respond anyway.  I've dealt with major depression (non-PPD) for years.  I can understand that you want your DH to be happy because it makes it easier for you to remain positive and happy. . . but it seems to me that your mood and how your depression is affecting you should not be so dependent upon your DH's mood.  I know that it is a hard when your husband is not up and positive all the time. . . but that is life and life is seldom perfect.

    Could it be that there are things bothering your DH, but because he feels pressure to "support your happiness" that he does not feel comfortable sharing those concerns with you?  His priority may be to help keep you happy so he is internalizing those worries.

    PPD does effect your relationship, that only stands to reason.  I think that it may be difficult to go back to how things were, especially as you characterize your past relationship as perfect.  If this continues, might you consider couples therapy to help you get to a place in your relationship where you are both comfortable, content, stable and openly communicating?

    I could be way wrong and off base with my comments.  I'm merely going off of what you wrote, but these are things that I picked up on in your post.

    I hope that things get better.  It is hard when life feels like so much work, when, in the past, it didn't seem to be that way.  Hang in there!

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  • LilMissLadybugLilMissLadybug member
    I've dealt with depression for many years. The PPD has helped us communicate more, but it's also been very hard on our marriage. I guess technically it's not considered PPD since DS is 17mos. I get angry and flip out over the dumbest things.
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