Would you be offended if someone said something LONG

HollyDoolittle · April 2010

RobynandJason05/06:
HollyDoolittle:
RobynandJason05/06:
HollyDoolittle:
prettypinkypeonies:

My pedi told me last week we are going to have to expect when dealing with a much bigger kid than the average that people are going to think forever hes older than others so I guess we are starting to experience things. But seriously I could never I would be more pissed that someone said that to you about your kid than someone thinking my kid had ADD because he was running around in an office.

It bothers me that people are that crass but I try to not let it get to me. They think he's behind b/c he's older. I know he's a lot younger than they think and he's super duper smart and advanced for his actual age Wink

KGsky · April 2010

I probably would be offended, primarily because this a-hole who doesn't know what he's talking about feels the need to diagnose my child. I also have seen, however, that a lot of moms whose kids have ADD can be in a state of denial for a while, just dismissing the craziness as "normal toddler behavior" which may be what prettypinkpeonies was alluding to. In any case, I don't think two incidents several months apart a diagnosis makes. Maybe this dude knew somebody whose kid had ADD or heard of someone's experience and thought this made him an expert. That tends to happen a lot. It's o.k. to be offended, not o.k. to get so upset about it. If you know your child is generally well behaved, you just give people like that the side-eye and keep it moving.

JessiRaye · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:

Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.

but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.

If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.

You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo

I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.

Sounds like she did make an effort to keep her child occupied by taking him outside of the office to walk around! Also, I totally agree that 2 children may feed off each other.

To the OP: I probably would be a little annoyed but the guy in the pedi's office kinda sounds like a moron to me. I find it rude how strangers may suggest ADD. I've seen plenty of children acting out and plenty of busy toddlers in public, and I'm very understanding. Sometimes you do what you can do and the kids just have a mind of their own. However, doesn't sound like the behavior at the doctor's office was unacceptable to me.

mabst196 · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:

Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.

but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.

If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.

You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo

I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.

You honestly think any of us just stand there and watch when our kids are screaming? Sometimes you try your best to quiet them and it doesn't work.

Echowysp · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:
Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.

but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.

If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.

You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo

I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.

I'm sure the OP has not even tried to distract her kid and will appreciate your oh-so helpful suggestions. I'm sure she had never even thought to try to curb the behavior. Confused

You're one step ahead of her, even though you don't even have a kid in that developmental stage yet. Cookies for you.

LaLaSweets · April 2010

violetvirgo:
i don't understand why any stranger would find it appropriate to comment on anyone else's child in that way. it's like they were raised with absolutely zero manners or tact.
like the cashier that told the lady she thought her kid was autistic...um?? wtf?
eta: and to answer your question: no it wouldn't bother me. the general public is dumb and apparently a lot of people have a case of verbal diarrhea

I love the verbal diarrhea line. I'm gonna use that today

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

Echowysp:
prettypinkypeonies:

Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.

but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.

If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.

You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo

I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.

I'm sure the OP has not even tried to distract her kid and will appreciate your oh-so helpful suggestions. I'm sure she had never even thought to try to curb the behavior.

You're one step ahead of her, even though you don't even have a kid in that developmental stage yet. Cookies for you.

OMG I love you I almost peed myself and being pg thats not too hard these days. Hey now shes got 1 yr of wonderful parenting under her belt to my almost 12 years she deserves some credit. Remember when her perfect angel acts up she will be the 1st one on here asking for advice. BUT... remember this post because shes a BAD BAD PARENT. GASP...

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

KGsky:
I probably would be offended, primarily because this a-hole who doesn't know what he's talking about feels the need to diagnose my child. I also have seen, however, that a lot of moms whose kids have ADD can be in a state of denial for a while, just dismissing the craziness as "normal toddler behavior" which may be what prettypinkpeonies was alluding to. In any case, I don't think two incidents several months apart a diagnosis makes. Maybe this dude knew somebody whose kid had ADD or heard of someone's experience and thought this made him an expert. That tends to happen a lot. It's o.k. to be offended, not o.k. to get so upset about it. If you know your child is generally well behaved, you just give people like that the side-eye and keep it moving.

Well my older DS has ADD and I know EXACTLY what to look for. So trust me this is more "normal" behavior" than certain "experts" on here claim to be. But my older has a mild case of it and its mainly in school for lack of focus and concentration. I think I agree with the offending part too I wasnt too upset because I think he was just trying to make conversation.

LoriFalce · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:

it's doesn't "balls" it's the truth. I find it extremely interesting that two seperate strangers have commented on his behavior to you. I don't know your kid, but MAYBE instead of getting pissed off at the strangers (AND ME FOR MAKING A VALID POINT) you should take a look at your parenting skills and ask yourself WHY this has happened to you 2x.

Okay, but it's a 70yo woman and a guy who was advocating beating his kid. Sorry, I don't consider those groups that aren't really up on the best and latest parenting techniques.

OP, no, I wouldn't be offended because someone who openly tells me he would beat his child has already lost credibility.

Echowysp · April 2010

RobynandJason05/06:
Echowysp:
prettypinkypeonies:

Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.

but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.

If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.

You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo

I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.

I'm sure the OP has not even tried to distract her kid and will appreciate your oh-so helpful suggestions. I'm sure she had never even thought to try to curb the behavior.

You're one step ahead of her, even though you don't even have a kid in that developmental stage yet. Cookies for you.

OMG I love you I almost peed myself and being pg thats not too hard these days. Hey now shes got 1 yr of wonderful parenting under her belt to my almost 12 years she deserves some credit. Remember when her perfect angel acts up she will be the 1st one on here asking for advice. BUT... remember this post because shes a BAD BAD PARENT. GASP...

I'm also guessing she'd be the first to mama-cat scratch someone's eyes out if someone was rude enough to comment on her kid's (normal) behavior.

Perfect people make perfect children, I guess. It's a hard life.

Toosdai · April 2010

Whatev, PrettyPink. It's not me who is the weirdo.

You can suck it. Twice.

Echowysp · April 2010

RobynandJason05/06:
KGsky:
I probably would be offended, primarily because this a-hole who doesn't know what he's talking about feels the need to diagnose my child. I also have seen, however, that a lot of moms whose kids have ADD can be in a state of denial for a while, just dismissing the craziness as "normal toddler behavior" which may be what prettypinkpeonies was alluding to. In any case, I don't think two incidents several months apart a diagnosis makes. Maybe this dude knew somebody whose kid had ADD or heard of someone's experience and thought this made him an expert. That tends to happen a lot. It's o.k. to be offended, not o.k. to get so upset about it. If you know your child is generally well behaved, you just give people like that the side-eye and keep it moving.

Well my older DS has ADD and I know EXACTLY what to look for. So trust me this is more "normal" behavior" than certain "experts" on here claim to be. But my older has a mild case of it and its mainly in school for lack of focus and concentration. I think I agree with the offending part too I wasnt too upset because I think he was just trying to make conversation.

The whole misconception that active children must mean ADHD is the reason so many kids are being medicated when they don't need to be. It takes a lot more than watching a toddler run around a waiting room to make a diagnosis.

But I'm sure the child beater got his psych degree in between spanking sessions with his kids.

mabst196 · April 2010

Toosdai:

Whatev, PrettyPink. It's not me who is the weirdo.

You can suck it. Twice.

ya toos, LOL

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

Toosdai:

Whatev, PrettyPink. It's not me who is the weirdo.

You can suck it. Twice.

gosh your a weirdo. I will just put my crazy - a$$ kid on her and she will be begging for mercy.

prettypinkypeonies · April 2010

HollyDoolittle:
prettypinkypeonies:

So my 2 yr old was a little crazy he was running around, laughing and trying to open the doors to the office. I feel the appropriate thing to do was leave my older one whos almost 12 in the waiting room and I took my LO out of the office and we held hands and walked around outside

She did what she could with the situation. She was respectful and removed her child from earshot of everybody in the office. She did try. What should she have done in your expert opinion to make it that much better?

i was not referring to this post. I was referring to the post she made about her kid screaming his head off in the grocery store and her getting pissed and telling the cashier to go f*ck off. because THAT was super respecful.

jesus christ on a pogo stick.

I'M the weirdo because I don't tell strangers IRL to get f*ck themselves because my kid is acting up... Um, ok.

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:
HollyDoolittle:
prettypinkypeonies:

So my 2 yr old was a little crazy he was running around, laughing and trying to open the doors to the office. I feel the appropriate thing to do was leave my older one whos almost 12 in the waiting room and I took my LO out of the office and we held hands and walked around outside

She did what she could with the situation. She was respectful and removed her child from earshot of everybody in the office. She did try. What should she have done in your expert opinion to make it that much better?

i was not referring to this post. I was referring to the post she made about her kid screaming his head off in the grocery store and her getting pissed and telling the cashier to go f*ck off. because THAT was super respecful.

jesus christ on a pogo stick.

I'M the weirdo because I don't tell strangers IRL to get f*ck themselves because my kid is acting up... Um, ok.

No it was the 70 yr old woman at the next check out counter that i told to f-off. Get it right. The cashier was laughing. My kid was screaming with laughter it pissed of the old lady get the story right before you put it out there.

DelGrecoBride · April 2010

PPP- How are your points valid? 2 seperate people (with no credibility might I add) One who is 70 years old and the other who said he would beat his sons ass....those individuals comments are supposed to warrant some "thought" on the OP part? um, no.

Robyn, I wouldn't worry about it. like I said...neither of them have enough credibility to cause you to rethink how you are raising your LO...I have told you before...you are doing a great job.

oh and about your LO "being loud" in the grocery store? who wouldn't when there is a 12 year old egging them on?

EuroChick · April 2010

Not sure if people are still reading this post but I thought I would throw in my two cents. Firstly I think the guy was being obnoxious and I would just ignore it, toddlers need to run around. Secondly I think you mentioned your LO was big for his age, people may be more judgemental because he looks older than he really is. My mother has this problem with me when I was growing up. I looked like I was 4 when I was 2-3 and people couldn't understand why I didn't have the patience of a 4 year old...

HollyDoolittle · April 2010

prettypinkypeonies:
HollyDoolittle:
prettypinkypeonies:

i was not referring to this post. I was referring to the post she made about her kid screaming his head off in the grocery store and her getting pissed and telling the cashier to go f*ck off. because THAT was super respecful.

jesus christ on a pogo stick.

I'M the weirdo because I don't tell strangers IRL to get f*ck themselves because my kid is acting up... Um, ok.

No, you're right I'm the weirdo for assuming you were referring to the post in which you were currently replying.

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RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

DelGrecoBride:

PPP- How are your points valid? 2 seperate people (with no credibility might I add) One who is 70 years old and the other who said he would beat his sons ass....those individuals comments are supposed to warrant some "thought" on the OP part? um, no.

Robyn, I wouldn't worry about it. like I said...neither of them have enough credibility to cause you to rethink how you are raising your LO...I have told you before...you are doing a great job.

oh and about your LO "being loud" in the grocery store? who wouldn't when there is a 12 year old egging them on?

thanks Del see what you have too look forward too. The only positive thing is that they are really close in age and can torture you equally. With an 11 yr old and 2 yr old sometimes the 11 yr acts like the baby LOL. But hes got mad love for his little brother hes phennomenal with him. But two boys are CRAZY... I cant beleive your done in a few weeks. OMG.

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

InternetExplorer:
Irelyn?

can I help you??? You dont have to like it I wasnt asking for your opinion. umm ok thanks.

DelGrecoBride · April 2010

RobynandJason05/06:
DelGrecoBride:

PPP- How are your points valid? 2 seperate people (with no credibility might I add) One who is 70 years old and the other who said he would beat his sons ass....those individuals comments are supposed to warrant some "thought" on the OP part? um, no.

Robyn, I wouldn't worry about it. like I said...neither of them have enough credibility to cause you to rethink how you are raising your LO...I have told you before...you are doing a great job.

oh and about your LO "being loud" in the grocery store? who wouldn't when there is a 12 year old egging them on?

thanks Del see what you have too look forward too. The only positive thing is that they are really close in age and can torture you equally. With an 11 yr old and 2 yr old sometimes the 11 yr acts like the baby LOL. But hes got mad love for his little brother hes phennomenal with him. But two boys are CRAZY... I cant beleive your done in a few weeks. OMG.

trust me on this one...you will be one of the first i run to on how to become sane again! lol

and its less than a few weeks! in fact...next wednesday!!!! Surprise

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RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

DelGrecoBride:
RobynandJason05/06:
DelGrecoBride:

PPP- How are your points valid? 2 seperate people (with no credibility might I add) One who is 70 years old and the other who said he would beat his sons ass....those individuals comments are supposed to warrant some "thought" on the OP part? um, no.

Robyn, I wouldn't worry about it. like I said...neither of them have enough credibility to cause you to rethink how you are raising your LO...I have told you before...you are doing a great job.

oh and about your LO "being loud" in the grocery store? who wouldn't when there is a 12 year old egging them on?

thanks Del see what you have too look forward too. The only positive thing is that they are really close in age and can torture you equally. With an 11 yr old and 2 yr old sometimes the 11 yr acts like the baby LOL. But hes got mad love for his little brother hes phennomenal with him. But two boys are CRAZY... I cant beleive your done in a few weeks. OMG.

trust me on this one...you will be one of the first i run to on how to become sane again! lol

and its less than a few weeks! in fact...next wednesday!!!!

induction or c-section??? OMG you must be like either oh so ready or let this kid bake for another 9 months so we can enjoy Brock just a little more. I am soooo scared honestly. Everyday I say to my DH OMG its going to be crazy though Justin will be 2 1/2 and its a decent age from what i hear between kids but hes got sooo much one on one attention that I almost feel bad its going to be split. UGGH. We are having a scheduled c-section at 38 weeks.

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

InternetExplorer:
RobynandJason05/06:

InternetExplorer:
Irelyn?

can I help you??? You dont have to like it I wasnt asking for your opinion. umm ok thanks.

LOL.

So are you misspelling Ireland or are you going for "rage, wrath, anger-Lyn" ???

going for part 2 of your response. I personally knew what it meant already. We love name it flows beautifully with the 1st and last and its not like you go around calling your kid by its middle name all the time. But once again you are entitled to not like it and its not your kids name its ours.

prettypinkypeonies · April 2010

InternetExplorer:
RobynandJason05/06:

InternetExplorer:
Irelyn?

can I help you??? You dont have to like it I wasnt asking for your opinion. umm ok thanks.

So are you misspelling Ireland or are you going for "rage, wrath, anger-Lyn" ???

i'm going with the rage and wrath on this one.. be careful, she might just go off on you.. god forbid you question anything.. SHE'S BEEN A PARENT FOR 12 YEARS! SHE KNOWS!

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prettypinkypeonies · April 2010

InternetExplorer:
prettypinkypeonies:
InternetExplorer:
RobynandJason05/06:

InternetExplorer:
Irelyn?

can I help you??? You dont have to like it I wasnt asking for your opinion. umm ok thanks.

So are you misspelling Ireland or are you going for "rage, wrath, anger-Lyn" ???

i'm going with the rage and wrath on this one.. be careful, she might just go off on you.. god forbid you question anything.. SHE'S BEEN A PARENT FOR 12 YEARS! SHE KNOWS!

zomg, PPP, stop being such a douchecanoe. Robin did the right thing in this situation. She might actually be a fruitloop, but the one who's acting lulu in this post is YOU.

douchcanoe? Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

RobynandJason05/06 · April 2010

InternetExplorer:
prettypinkypeonies:
InternetExplorer:
RobynandJason05/06:

InternetExplorer:
Irelyn?

can I help you??? You dont have to like it I wasnt asking for your opinion. umm ok thanks.

So are you misspelling Ireland or are you going for "rage, wrath, anger-Lyn" ???

i'm going with the rage and wrath on this one.. be careful, she might just go off on you.. god forbid you question anything.. SHE'S BEEN A PARENT FOR 12 YEARS! SHE KNOWS!

zomg, PPP, stop being such a douchecanoe. Robin did the right thing in this situation. She might actually be a fruitloop, but the one who's acting lulu in this post is YOU.

WTH am i a fruitloop???? Please explain. Have you ever dealt with me IRL have you ever had dealings with me in my posts that make me sound fruity. I am confused. I dont have any problems on these boards but if you feel like I am fruitloop please explain. I guess I am missing something. FWIW seriously lets not make fun of peoples kids names that really is rude.

But yes 12 years of parenting makes me a little more experienced than 1 yr of parenting. What we decided as a husband and wife to name our baby regardless of the meaning once again is our choice. There are plenty of names I come across on here daily that I shake my head at but would never insult somebody by being hurtful about their unborn babies name.

gatogrrl · April 2010

Ten zillion people have already replied, but I wanted to say I think you did just the right thing. I would not be offended or upset but dismiss this guy as a busybody. Whose opinion I would ignore completely because he says he beats his kid. What a weirdo.

LilMissLadybug · April 2010

LoriFalce:
prettypinkypeonies:

it's doesn't "balls" it's the truth. I find it extremely interesting that two seperate strangers have commented on his behavior to you. I don't know your kid, but MAYBE instead of getting pissed off at the strangers (AND ME FOR MAKING A VALID POINT) you should take a look at your parenting skills and ask yourself WHY this has happened to you 2x.

Okay, but it's a 70yo woman and a guy who was advocating beating his kid. Sorry, I don't consider those groups that aren't really up on the best and latest parenting techniques.

OP, no, I wouldn't be offended because someone who openly tells me he would beat his child has already lost credibility.

THIS.

LoriFalce · April 2010

RobynandJason05/06:
WTH am i a fruitloop???? Please explain. Have you ever dealt with me IRL have you ever had dealings with me in my posts that make me sound fruity. I am confused. I dont have any problems on these boards but if you feel like I am fruitloop please explain. I guess I am missing something. FWIW seriously lets not make fun of peoples kids names that really is rude.
But yes 12 years of parenting makes me a little more experienced than 1 yr of parenting. What we decided as a husband and wife to name our baby regardless of the meaning once again is our choice. There are plenty of names I come across on here daily that I shake my head at but would never insult somebody by being hurtful about their unborn babies name.

I think IE's point is...ANY of us might be a few bananas shy of a fruit salad. No one knows. All we can say is that in situation X, Y is understandable and Z is BSC. In the situation you described, well, most of us think you handled it okay.

And then there's Peonies.

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