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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Would you be offended if someone said something LONG
to you about your DC? Today i was at the doctors office for my older DS and took my LO whos just 2. So my 2 yr old was a little crazy he was running around, laughing and trying to open the doors to the office. I feel the appropriate thing to do was leave my older one whos almost 12 in the waiting room and I took my LO out of the office and we held hands and walked around outside.
A guy who was in the waiting room with his younger son came up to me and said you have patience. I said well.. I know when to remove him and I felt he was acting up. He said i would have beat my sons a$$ in front of everyone. I said well.. thats not gonna make the situation better I figured it was better to leave and let him chill out.
He said have you thought of having him tested for ADD? I said umm excuse me just turned 2. Its kinda normal for a toddler to run around. He said well I am sure my son is going to be a crazy man too. I said probably and walked away.
I called my DH and I said i am kinda upset someone would have the balls to say that. He said yeah if I was there he wouldnt have. But would you have been offended if someone said that to you ? I am pretty upset.
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Re: Would you be offended if someone said something LONG
Is this same kid that was screaming at the grocery store??
Did you go off on him, too?
I would be concerned that 2 seperate people during 2 completely seperate situations have commented on your kids behavior.. Maybe your kid is a terror and you don't want to admit it?
I'd be annoyed, but figure the dude just didn't have much (recent, anyway) experience with toddlers.
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Offended that some stupid stranger thinks your kid has ADD? No.
I never would have had that long of a convo though. As soon as he told me I had patience I would have said "thank you" and walked away. I don't talk to strangers.
i don't understand why any stranger would find it appropriate to comment on anyone else's child in that way. it's like they were raised with absolutely zero manners or tact.
like the cashier that told the lady she thought her kid was autistic...um?? wtf?
eta: and to answer your question: no it wouldn't bother me. the general public is dumb and apparently a lot of people have a case of verbal diarrhea
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No. Comments from random strangers do not bother me.
Yes this is the child that was laughing and screaming in the grocery store with his older brother, while at 70 year old woman got pissed off. Excuse me I dont find my kid a "terror" as you are putting it. Your baby is only one if I am reading correctly. So I am assuming your child is perfect and is not yet in the stage of acting out or running around.
You've got some balls, you know that? My kid runs around like a nut screaming sometimes. She isn't a terror, she's a toddler.
Shes also referring to an incident several months back that I took my kids to the grocery store and my older DS was playing with my younger DS in the grocery cart and my younger DS was screaming and laughing. Yeah it was totally annoying but a lady told me to do something with him. I went completely off on her. But this guy was smoking a cigarette outside just having a random convo there was no rude comments between either of us.
Same here. I would have let it go in one ear and out the other. At the doctor, my kid sits in the chair and either watches whatever video is on in the waiting room, plays with toys, or looks at books we brought. She definitely doesn't run around like that.
Edited b/c I read your follow up post about the grocery store antics.
word. i've been told on several occassions that my kid is "such a good toddler! So easy!". yeah. guess what? she still shrieks with laughter and wants to open doors and drawers in the pedi's office. lol.
it must be nice to have a statue for a kid.
eta: and it's clear she did something about it (i.e. removing him from the situation) it's not like she was all, "meh, i think i'll do something, but only if he breaks something".
I remember that. My kid screams sometimes in a shopping cart too. I think its normal. Annoying, but normal.
it's doesn't "balls" it's the truth. I find it extremely interesting that two seperate strangers have commented on his behavior to you. I don't know your kid, but MAYBE instead of getting pissed off at the strangers (AND ME FOR MAKING A VALID POINT) you should take a look at your parenting skills and ask yourself WHY this has happened to you 2x.
i'm sort of fascinated by the fact that there are a few posters in this thread that don't seem to have children that shriek, explore, run, jump or scream.
WOW thats a pretty strong statement questioning my parenting skills. Majority of the time my LO is very well behaved in public. I didnt have any rude comments to the 2nd guy. It was a conversation outside. You need to learn to read better. But I dont expect everyone to agree with I post or anyone else posts. Thats why its your opinion. Whatever. I am confident with my parenting skills and my horribly acting toddler. I have to go beat him right now hes asking for food.
yes because all toddlers should just sit and be quiet. They aren't allowed to have strong personalities. Of course it's all the parenting and not the fact some kids are strong willed.
if you noticed its really just one. thats ok. I dont really care shes trying to get a rise out of me whatever its no big deal. Her child was created with the perfect gene and the rest of us have unperfect children.
Maybe in my case it is because there is very rarely a wait longer than 5 minutes at our pedi, and so I can keep her attention for that short amount of time with the books, toys or videos in the waiting room. I am sure that given another 5-10 minutes of wait time she might be doing the same thing. I don't know, because she's always just sat there and played quietly. At the grocery store, she generally behaves because she's not riding in the cart. She walks along with me and helps get things off the shelves and puts them in the cart. When I used to make her ride in the cart, she'd get upset, scream, etc. and throw stuff out, so I found an alternative way to get my shopping done.
Not a big fan of the just wait comment, but my 15 month old was pretty well behaved. Good luck with her when she is two. Or maybe she'll just sit there like a bump on a log.
i wish it was only a 5 min wait I purposely made the appt at 745 in the morning so I didnt have deal with an hour wait. As for shopping hes wonderful at the store BUT.... I now put in the carts that are like race cars so hes driving them and I rarely take my older one because they feed off of each other. Grocery shopping is normally done with DH and I on the weekend with the LO early in the morning where its actually pleasant.
Exactly! And I have two of them. I try everything to keep them distracted but the last place a toddler wants to be is the Dr.'s waiting room or stuck in a grocery cart at the grocery store!!!! They want to run around and play!
An HOUR? OMG. That would make ME want to run around and look in doors! Haha! Those "special carts" are such a pain in the butt to steer, but they help! We had a cart similar to that at Target the other day and DD rode in one seat and her baby doll rode in the other!
Some people look very approachable and maybe this is the case with her?? maybe she lives in a small town (didn't look before replying) and people feel comfortable adding their two cents?? Also who are the people who have said something to her, a 80 year old lady and a guy who's first response is to spank his kids into submission!
Would I be offended? Probably not...this man obviously has no experience with a toddler to know behaviors.
For a toddler, ADD is a way of life, not a diagnosis! They're ALL like that!
I'm also intrigued by the kids who aren't like that. I'm thinking that they just haven't gotten to that stage of life just yet, or they are in the minority. Every toddler I have ever met (and I used to teach toddlers) gets like that sometimes.
Am I the only one wishing PrettyPink's kid goes Ape Shizz on her in public this weekend?
Robyn - I wouldn't be offended by anything a stranger said to me, whether they are on the internets or IRL. You shouldn't either.
LOL. OO I wish our Target had the cool carts that the grocery stores does. I have waited 3 hours at this office and its a large practice but I have learned my lesson that the only appt you can make is the literally the 1st one to at least get out within an hour.
thanks sweety and Morgan is beautiful as always.
Yeah, cuz toddlers *never* act up in public. Only the "terrors".
I've had more than 2 strangers say something to me about my kid being "slow" or "behind" and how it's ok, he'll catch up someday. So does that mean I need to have my kid tested and look at my poor lack of parenting and teaching too? Maybe b/c these random strangers are so wise they know so much more than me?
You do have balls and no tact and no class.
And Robyn, yes it would have offended me that someone would have the gall to inform me that I need a lesson from them, a complete and total stranger who knows nothign about me or my child, how I should be handling discipline.
ETA: Robyn, I'm glad to see you. I haven't "talked" to you in a while.
She should ask why *normal* toddler behavior (running around, trying to open things and screaming with laughter) are happening? Um, try just checking out her ticker. She's got a 2 YEAR old. It's normal behavior and your day will come soon enough.
This.
See I cany fathom every saying anything to anyone when it comes to their children. Especially someone I dont know. I cant beleive someone would say things to you about your child being behind or slow. Thats just plain rude. Trust me I have no problem speaking my mind and I had no ill words between this guy and myself this morning.
I have been hanging on the August board. I think I know why now LOL. No seriously I have had great experiences on here I rarely get people panties in a wad on here but thats ok. Opinions are like a-holes everyone has one and shes entitled to think I have bad parenting skills but I bet she wouldnt say that to me directly she will bash me on the internet because shes hoping she will get a billion other people to follow her perfect self and kid.
I can't fathom it either. I don't know them, their story, their position, their experiences. These people look at my son and think his speech and development is "behind" b/c he looks 3 or 4 years old. They don't realize he's was only 1 at the time, just about to turn 2.
People don't know jack about you, your life, your child. I would never lack the class to walk up to a perfect stranger that was not personally invovled with me in someway and school them on how I think their life is best run.
Look, my kid is no statue. He likes to yell, run around, explore, get into crap he's not supposed to.
but, when I'm out in public, I try to make an effort to be respectful of the people around me. Not everyone wants to hear a screaming kid. I don't even like to hear a screaming kid.
If he screams in the cart, I at least TRY to get him to quiet down. Distract him with a toy, my sunglasses, my wallet, food, etc. I've been known to bust out my makeup bag to let him play with that stuff. if that doesn't work, you best believe I'm hauling ass to try and get my shopping done as fast as possible. I'm not wasting time telling stranger's to go eff themselves.
You can wish my kid goes ape shiit on me, that's fine.. Weirdo
I stand by what I said. I find it very interesting that this child's behavior has been bad enough to warrent two different people making comments about it. Maybe the OP has really bad luck. I don't know. it doesn't sound that way to me.
After the mass bannings I kind of quit here too. Most everybody is on the new board and it's much slower here now. Glad to see you're doing well. Won't be long until your little girl is here. Exciting.
see I am thinking this guy thought Justin was 3 or 4 not just 2. Because like your child my son is very tall for his age hes the size of 3 1/2 yr old so I can "understand" where someone would think OMG this kid is out of control or not behaving correctly. But when you say he just turned 2 this guy was like I am sure my son is going to be a crazy man like that too. Because I can guarantee his son was not much younger than Justin.
My pedi told me last week we are going to have to expect when dealing with a much bigger kid than the average that people are going to think forever hes older than others so I guess we are starting to experience things. But seriously I could never I would be more pissed that someone said that to you about your kid than someone thinking my kid had ADD because he was running around in an office.
So my 2 yr old was a little crazy he was running around, laughing and trying to open the doors to the office. I feel the appropriate thing to do was leave my older one whos almost 12 in the waiting room and I took my LO out of the office and we held hands and walked around outside
She did what she could with the situation. She was respectful and removed her child from earshot of everybody in the office. She did try. What should she have done in your expert opinion to make it that much better?