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Attachment Parenting
DH and MIL fight and mommy vent. You've been warned.
Ugh. DH got into a fight with his mom over how little they see LO and much my mom sees her. They don't really take care of their home (as far as their pet dog goes) and WE really don't want LO in the floor over there. I don't like being there anyway, and DH fights with them a lot. They also live two miles away and come over here every so often, but will drive 3 hours to visit DH's brother's baby. Both MIL and FIL go on these trips. FIL has been to this house once since DH moved in three years ago. DH doesn't get along with his extended family either so us not going to visit all of them was brought up, too.
Then it was on me! Of course I take LO to see my mom, but I went over there a lot before she was born and before I was pregnant. I am friends with my mom. I like to spend time with her, baby or no baby. And I don't have to worry about a little rat on steriods attacking her if she is in the floor over there.
Now, on to my mom. She has not been the most supportive of my bfing ventures at all. I quit and relactated and now LO is EBF! So I was talking to my mom today about how she has been fussy and the only thing that calmed her down at one point was to nurse even though she had just eaten an hour and a half earlier. So my mom says, well maybe she is getting a lot of liquid, but is not satisfied. Thanks mom. Just put that comment right up there with, I wish you could just pump and give it to her, and why don't you just fix her a little bottle when she acts like that. She is not supportive of my decision to wait on solids until six months, either. I would really like to be able to speak to my mother about the raising of my child, but I can't take her being so unsupportive and judgemental about it.
Thanks for reading.
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Re: DH and MIL fight and mommy vent. You've been warned.
Oh that sounds frustrating on all fronts!
I really have nothing to offer but Congrats on relactating. You know that your mother's "advice" is bunk so just block it out and know that you're doing the right thing for your familly.
I LOL'ed at that!
But how frustrating! One good thing is it sounds like you and DH are on the same page and at least you 2 aren't fighting. My MIL and I have had some epic blowouts - I try not to let them bring me down. Sometimes its just too much!
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Yep! This was/is us too! At that age, it was a welcome break if DD went that long between feedings. That sounds typical of a BFed baby. Even now, at over a YEAR, we're nursing pretty often in the evening (it's mostly for comfort, as I work part time and she's been away from me for the afternoon).
As for you MIL, I understand. I don't like DD crawling around at MIL's house either-she never vacuums and there is SO much clutter. Gives me the shivers just thinking about it. Can your DH be totally honest with her about the rat and the dirty-ness of the house? Some people just can't be reasoned with though. You need to do what's best (and healthiest!) for your LO, and getting bitten by a rat is not it.
As for your mom, it sounds like you have a great relationship with her. Can you explain to her why it's important to you that you BF and nicely ask that she support you? Based on the relationship you've described here, it sounds like she may be open to listening and then respecting your choice (or at least she should be!) Perhaps some articles on the benefits of BFing for LO and for you would change her tune. Good luck!