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Flammable confession

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This is mostly because I'm having a pity party right now. 

As I am on CD5 of cycle #25, I secretly hope for twins.  The following reasons are:

1) It took DH 5 years to greenlight TTC

2) I am 38, he's 40 (he does have a 20 year old son)

3) He's much enthused about TTC that he would like more than one child.  

If we are successful, I don't think I can go through TTC again for a second time.  I often read the Multiples board and wishing for twins is frowned upon.  And I understand why.  Who wants a possibly high-risk pregnancy or spending time in the NICU with premature babies?  I totally get that.  But that does not stop thoughts of twins dancing around in my head.

DH will need surgery soon to correct a pinched nerve in his neck so we will have to put off TTC for who knows how long.

I won't even put on a flame retardant suit.  I'm dipping my drawers in gasoline for this one.  ;)

 

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  • robinsokjrobinsokj member
    I dont flame people for wanting a twin pregnancy, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone.  And mine has been relatively easy compared to most
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  • buckinbuckin

    I don't know, I dont' stand by with a torch for twin wishes that make sense. I can understand people who have issues getting pregnant, are older wanting to go ahead and have two in one pregnancy so they don't have to struggle again.

    I think its those who just think its fun blah blah blah who are more flameworthy. You actually have some legitimate reasons for being happy if it were the case.

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  • Danikat15Danikat15 member

    No flames here.  I understand the risks that come with having twins, but I still find it to be one of life's most amazing things.  My dad and his twin sister have a bond so close, they know when something is up with the other one, even though they live hours away.  And nothing compared to watching my twin cousins interact with each other in the womb.  Yes, having twins does involve a lot of risks, I know, but I still think it's a miracle.

    Now would I personally want twins?  No, I made sure at every ultrasound that there wasn't an extra baby hiding in there.

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  • stayceestaycee member

    at TTC for 20months I totally wanted twins.   I was a tad disappointed when it wasn't twins with 6 mature follies.

    but honestly, after having the one... I don't think I could handle twins - and now the thought absolutely terrifies me.

    If we go through treatment again, I think I will freak if we get twins.  Freak, then learn to adapt I guess.

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  • leslie13510leslie13510
    I won't flame you.  There are many reasons to wish for twins, and honestly I like that we got a "2 for 1" deal with everything I had gone through to finally have a healthy pregnancy.  I will only flame those who are actively trying to have twins (i.e. doing IF treatments when they don't need to) and/or blowing off the dangers and risks of a twin pregnancy. 
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  • iteachkiteachk member
    imagestaycee:

    but honestly, after having the one... I don't think I could handle twins - and now the thought absolutely terrifies me.

    THIS EXACTLY.  Indifferent

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