Labor scares the crap out of me

eandm0826 · March 2010

I'm terrified of labor. Probably because I have such a low pain threshold. When they can give me the drugs, I want the drugs. But the pain before the drugs? Yep - I'm going to be that screaming woman.

I try to talk to my husband about it and he always say, "It will be fine." Ugh - don't tell me it's going to be fine. Is he going to be pushing a watermelon through straw? I know - he's just trying to be nice.

noah-bear · March 2010

I have a very low pain threshold. I had an unmedicated induced birth! It is doable! You have to believe in yourself. If you're wanting the meds, you still have to deal with some things, but it's better.

I was that screaming girl. lol. I was scaring others next to me.

rider5344 · March 2010

I know this sounds cliche but after it is all said and done, you kinda "gloss over" the pain. You don't forget it, but the joy afterwards makes it kind of not exist.

DLD102 · March 2010

rider5344:
I know this sounds cliche but after it is all said and done, you kinda "gloss over" the pain. You don't forget it, but the joy afterwards makes it kind of not exist.

Yup, this.

I will never forget the pain, but obviously, we are willing to do it again.

Everyone's afraid of the unknown and quite frankly, I'm not looking forward to the actual labor part. But the joy of holding your newborn is totally amazing and worth it.

CelticWife · March 2010

This may sound odd, but when you are in labor you are too busy to think much about it. You just take one contraction as it comes and forget about everything else.

I have an incredibly low pain threshold. I wanted an epi right away. But it took a while for the guy to come to my room, and I did really well on my own. Unlike a stubbed toe, or stitches, or a broken limb, it is pain with a purpose; seeing your baby. And your pain tolerance goes up accordingly. Mine did.

I would really recommend a doula for you.

Marmarbug · March 2010

Really I think that it was not as scary as I thought it would be.

Or I may have forgotten. I had an emergency c-section after 12 hours of back labor.

At 34 weeks. Really you will forget most of it.

I am more afraid of the spinal block! I was knocked out last time due to how sick I was getting.

senecamom · March 2010

Yeah, I'm definitely scared to give birth again. I was induced with Pitocin, and didn't have an epidural with DD. It hurt like a b!tch, but it was over relatively quickly...less than 4 hours hours from contractions to delivery. No complications. I hoping it goes quicker this time around, and plan on getting my narcotics before I start screaming. The Nubain really helped. :-) And once you're at the point of pushing, you just want that baby *out* of you!

Mrs.B2003 · March 2010

My labor with DD was pretty easy...from start (water breaking) to finish is was less than 4 hours with no drugs! I have to admit...even with 1 easy labor under my belt, I am still petrified too! I feel like I couldn't get lucky twice, so I am expecting the worse!!

brizee8485 · March 2010

splinter:
My labor with DD was pretty easy...from start (water breaking) to finish is was less than 4 hours with no drugs! I have to admit...even with 1 easy labor under my belt, I am still petrified too! I feel like I couldn't get lucky twice, so I am expecting the worse!!

I feel the exact same way. The labor with my son was 3 1/2 hours from water breaking to delivery with no drugs except Pitocin. I am so nervous for this next labor because, like you, I don't think I'll get lucky twice and have an easy delivery the second time around! Here's to hoping! :-)

cja06 · March 2010

Yeah, my labor was 27 hours with 3 hours of pushing. I did have an epi and I have a high pain threshold, so the actual contractions weren't bad. It was the pushing with no progress for hours that was exhausting and frustrating. I also remember having to be in all these weird positions, virtually naked - showing everything to the world. I am surprised that my husband will still have sex with me.

Labor wasn't that bad, it was the few days after when everything was leaking and the stitches were so sore and going to the bathroom was a major ordeal that took a good 20 minutes (just to pee). That's the part I'm not looking forward to repeating.

MSC03 · March 2010

I'm looking forward to labor, but it might be because I was brought up to believe it was a beautiful, wonderful, exciting thing. I was there when my sister was born, too and my aunt was my mom's doula.

Maybe it would help you to learn a little about childbirth (NOT from Baby Story or some other sensationalized TV show that makes it appear terrifying) to give you a different perspective on child birth.

misskaydee · March 2010

Labor terrifies me too! I was having a mini-panic attack when I had my blood taken, I hate needles, the sight of blood, and the thought of something tearing or ripping really freaks me out.

Jody81 · March 2010

I'm such a baby I cry when I get a flu shot. So yes, I was terrified of L&D. I was most terrified of the Epi. My mom said she didn't want to be with me during labor because I was such a baby.

I proved everyone wrong! I had no medication until I was 7cm, I got Nubain (like laughing gas through an IV), and didn't get an Epi until I was 9cm and I didn't even feel it go in. I was not really in pain at anytime, the Nurse couldn't believe I was laughing or smiling during contractions with no meds. You're adreneline kicks in and you will be fine! I remember how at ease I was when my labor started, and how calm I became.

Now my pain tolerance is better all around, I'm not afraid of needles anymore and can tolerate much more than before baby.

In the words of your husband...you'll be fine!!!

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