Anyone else had a "postpartum" meltdown?

Re: Anyone else had a "postpartum" meltdown?

• finally2006

  March 2010

  It gets better.  They get on a schedule and they become a lot more fun.  You will get through it.

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• NastyAnnie

  March 2010

  *Hugs*

  Breathe.

  Everybody has a meltdown sometimes, and you shouldn't feel guilty for your feelings. You're going to be fine.

  Make sure you do something for yourself ASAP. Find some time to go for a walk without LO, maybe go get coffee, or a pedi, or something... You need you time. You need to feel human. Don't feel guilty about that.

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• Ciconrad member

  March 2010

  With DS #1 I had meltdowns every once and awhile until he was about 5 months old and started sleeping better.  Your hormones are still out of whack, you are more tired than you ever have been, you have more responsibility than you ever have.  It's a major life change and everything you thought is normal.  I love my son too but he was a challenging newborn and there were many times I thought "What did I get myself into?  Life was easy before this!"

  I agree with pps, find some time for yourself.  Having an hour or two away will do wonders for you.  By the end you will be missing your LO and excited and refreshed to come home.  

  

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• missw22

  March 2010

  I am right there with you on these postpartum meltdowns ,but I agree with pps you really have to make a little time for yourself even if its something as simple as taking a walk outside.

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• MarthaP18 member

  March 2010

  I think we all lose it sometimes. It's very overwhelming at first, but it definitely DOES get better. Hang in there, and if you're really feeling depressed and overwhelmed, talk to your doctor about it.

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• mdearrington

  March 2010

  yes. I am only a few weeks into mommyhood but I've had a few days that I've hated everything. The best advice I ever got was to give Dh the baby for an hour, go for a drive with the windows down and the stereo as loud as possible to your favorite artist. I personally love Kenny Chesney. Hang in there!
  

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• law8296 member

  March 2010

  Certainly- several.  Mine usually stem from the constant lack of sleep and/or lack of quality sleep.  My DS is a very loud sleeper- by this what I THINK I mean (I'm still trying to figure it out) is that he grunts and clears his throat what seems constantly through the night.  I am a very light sleeper before baby; now with monitor right beside me- even more so.  Baby blues and frustration, etc. for me definitely come from lack of sleep.  I can certainly sympathize with your feelings of frustration, possibly resentment, etc.  I would suggest as someone else did to make some time for yourself- do you have someone DH or someone else who can watch little one for an hour or two?

  I'd also encourage you to find a support group (my hospital has one every tuesday with a free lunch) AND/OR call your Dr. to discuss how you're feeling and what they suggest---and also comforting is a mother you know who's been through it before.

  I'm in the same place with the feelings of frustration---certainly hoping it gets better soon (the sleep issues for me mainly).
  

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• DaisyGrl13

  March 2010

  It really helps if you have someone you can talk to.  I was calling my mom all the time the first few weeks.  And then the first day I didn't cry, I called her at 2 am (whilst feeding LO) and was like guess what mom...I didn't cry today.  It was great to just vent my feelings to her.

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• Jolaine83 member

  March 2010

  Thank you for posting this!  This was completely me this morning.

  As DH was trying to leave for work - I completely melted down after DS wouldn't even let me finish his breakfast before starting to scream demanding his own.  Right now, he's feeding every 1 1/2 to 2 hrs, so it's sometimes impossible to know if he's going to make it to the 2 hr mark or not. 

  I tried to explain it to DH that I never had a chance to just relax and heal from labor and delivery.  The last time I'd slept for more than 3 hrs at a time was the night after giving birth - and that's only because I had a melt down from being in pain (they switched me to vicodin (sp?) that night) and the nurse offered to just keep DS in the nursery all night and feed him formula. 

  I'm going to be (am already) a SAHM and while I told DH it'll get easier and I know it, right now it's the hardest thing the world.  I'm not only with DS all day but DH gives me a break to make supper and I use the rest of the time to catch up on housework, then I have him all night.  DS is officially feeding on demand (he was a slow gainer) and instead of going longer at night, he is going every 2 hrs.  When I was waking him up to feed before, we were going 3-4 hrs.  And I know he's getting enough to eat (technically) since he's still gaining an oz a day. 

  Ugh!  I really hope it gets easier soon!  As I told DH, I could hand off DS to him for a few hours, but since I'm on a 2 hr leash feeding-wise, I'd have to be prepared to run as soon as he's off the boob and be on call to return if he decided he was hungry sooner.

  Vent over...
  

  Lucas Arlo - 2/26/10, Cordelia Jane - 1/20/12 

  #3 is due 8/27/14

  
  

  
  

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