Will you have "visiting hours" @ your house after LO comes?

lovemymaddy · March 2010

My friend that had a baby last week was telling me last night how she's realllly overwhelmed at the amount of people that have been visiting in the hospital and once they got home. She said that's it's been pretty much non stop and with the lack of sleep, trying to figure out bfing, and general newborn craziness that's she wishes she would have set certain "visiting hours" for when people could come over so that she and her DH could try to get used to their daughter and life at home on their own, etc. What do you think? Do you think that's a good idea to set some hours for visiting as opposed to it being an open door all of the time?

TravelinMama · March 2010

I think it's a great idea!

str8ota · March 2010

I think visiting hours is a great idea!

Grk_Natasha · March 2010

THe only people I would not want "dropping in" are in my in-laws because I've seen how she was w/my niece and nephew, basically not wanting to put the baby down ever and her know-it-all attitude. So I actually plan on staying with my mom for the first few weeks to get away from her.

Kel&Jay · March 2010

We live about 45 minutes from all of our friends and it's like pulling teeth to get them to come to our house so I don't really see it being an issue for us. My issue is that my mom will be staying with us for a month. She's exhausting! So there will definitely be rules laid down for her.

wntrbride05 · March 2010

I think it is a good idea. I plan to ask that everyone just call about an hour before they come, that way I can decide if it is a good time or not. I hope that it works, but if it doesn't, we'll figure something out.

Jessicamz · March 2010

I definitely think it's a great idea! I would prefer to have very few people over the first couple of weeks if possible. And then I'd like to have visiting hours when we invite people over to see the baby. One girl I know had a "Baby Open House" about 1 month after her baby was born. I thought this was a cute idea!

I'm also worried about the amount of guests at the hospital. DH has a HUGE family and I'm scared every one of them is going to be crowding in the room. I may have to get used to that idea b/c I'm not sure I can control that!

KelzinBoston · March 2010

Definitely might be a good idea.

We just had a call first (and preferably DH, I wanted to be left alone, haha) policy.

This unfortunately did not work for out of town visitors (my family). I kept asking them if they wanted to go to dinner or a play downtown to try to get them out of my hair!

TravelinMama · March 2010

Jessicamz:
I definitely think it's a great idea! I would prefer to have very few people over the first couple of weeks if possible. And then I'd like to have visiting hours when we invite people over to see the baby. One girl I know had a "Baby Open House" about 1 month after her baby was born. I thought this was a cute idea!
I'm also worried about the amount of guests at the hospital. DH has a HUGE family and I'm scared every one of them is going to be crowding in the room. I may have to get used to that idea b/c I'm not sure I can control that!

Girl, if you don't want a whole bunch of people in the room when you're in the hospital you have ever right to a. either speak up and let them know, or b. tell your nurse to ask them to leave. Don't think you have to have a gang of people invading your privacy.

mcjb09 · March 2010

Absolutely a good idea- I plan on telling my immediate family they can come by but to limit other friends/family. Most would call before hand but you never know with a new baby....

vsackett1 · March 2010

Grk_Natasha:
THe only people I would not want "dropping in" are in my in-laws because I've seen how she was w/my niece and nephew, basically not wanting to put the baby down ever and her know-it-all attitude. So I actually plan on staying with my mom for the first few weeks to get away from her.

LOL! Love it!

Jessicamz · March 2010

MarieGranados:
Jessicamz:

I definitely think it's a great idea! I would prefer to have very few people over the first couple of weeks if possible. And then I'd like to have visiting hours when we invite people over to see the baby. One girl I know had a "Baby Open House" about 1 month after her baby was born. I thought this was a cute idea!

I'm also worried about the amount of guests at the hospital. DH has a HUGE family and I'm scared every one of them is going to be crowding in the room. I may have to get used to that idea b/c I'm not sure I can control that!

Girl, if you don't want a whole bunch of people in the room when you're in the hospital you have ever right to a. either speak up and let them know, or b. tell your nurse to ask them to leave. Don't think you have to have a gang of people invading your privacy.

I'm hoping that in the next 7 months I can think of a way to let his family know before I'm in the hospital. Any suggestions? DHs grandfather was in the hospital recently and even after visiting hours there were people completely crowding his hospital room and waiting room! I got a flashforward and was like O-M-G this is going to be me!!! I understand they want to show support, but after just having a baby I really only want the closest closest family there, ya know?

eggymaye · March 2010

Most definitely a good idea. I am scheduled for a c/s and there is NO WAY DH or I are going to allow it to get crazy! The only two people who have a (limited) carte blanche are our moms.

ceramsey · March 2010

*Butting in from PAL* DO IT!!! I completely regret the ways things happened when we came home from the hospital. Not only was family visiting all day for the 2 days while we were in the hospital, but they were there 30 minutes after we got home. My parents were staying the weekend with us, so they were a given, but the IL's, SIL and her husband, BIL and his FI all came over and stayed for about 7 hours!!! And the only time I got to hold him was when I fed him. On top of pp letdown, lack of sleep, etc etc etc, I was so beyond overwhelmed. I will never do that again. Set up visiting times and limit the amount of time they stay. Be firm-it's your baby, you need to get used to each other, being home, the new life, everything. *Butting out*

jdoman · March 2010

Jessicamz:
MarieGranados:
Jessicamz:

I definitely think it's a great idea! I would prefer to have very few people over the first couple of weeks if possible. And then I'd like to have visiting hours when we invite people over to see the baby. One girl I know had a "Baby Open House" about 1 month after her baby was born. I thought this was a cute idea!

I'm also worried about the amount of guests at the hospital. DH has a HUGE family and I'm scared every one of them is going to be crowding in the room. I may have to get used to that idea b/c I'm not sure I can control that!

Girl, if you don't want a whole bunch of people in the room when you're in the hospital you have ever right to a. either speak up and let them know, or b. tell your nurse to ask them to leave. Don't think you have to have a gang of people invading your privacy.

I'm hoping that in the next 7 months I can think of a way to let his family know before I'm in the hospital. Any suggestions? DHs grandfather was in the hospital recently and even after visiting hours there were people completely crowding his hospital room and waiting room! I got a flashforward and was like O-M-G this is going to be me!!! I understand they want to show support, but after just having a baby I really only want the closest closest family there, ya know?

Well, one way to limit the number of people at the hospital is don't call anyone but those that you want at the hospital when you go into labor. And ask them not to spread the word. There is no rule that everyone has to know about the labor/birth in play-by-play style. Then once the baby is born, you can spread the word and ask people to respect your wishes that you'd like notice before they come to visit, and to keep the visits short and during the hours of ___ and ___.

denise_m · March 2010

I think it's a great idea, but I can promise that if I tried it, there would be drama and certain people refusing to come over at all (not that I would care, but DH would) and stupid non-stop crap going on that I would not want to deal with lol

sinisterkat01 · March 2010

I would set some limits. I can imagine that the only people I would have to set limits for would be the parents (grandparents, I mean). I don't think that my friends would feel as if they could do a "drop-by" without asking. We never have an open-door policy here!

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