Is it weird that I don't want to reveal my favorite baby names? (vent)

DLD102 · March 2010

I really love the names we have picked out and fear that people will say, "Oh yeah, I think I'll use that." (It happens all the time on the Baby Names board).

And this is not to say, names aren't fair game, I have just taken a while to choose them and think people should do the same, NOT "That's a really good idea! I think I'll name my child that" which is weird in my opinion.

From my perspective, you needed someone to say, "I really like this name" for you to say, "that's the one I'm choosing"?

Odd. Or maybe I'm alone in this.

Sweets2005 · March 2010

I don't really like sharing my names IRL. I could care less what a bunch of bumpies care about my names, tho!

danienross · March 2010

if its a stranger that i'll probably never meet (like here on the boards) i might find it a little strange but not completely crazy. but a person i've met in real life, now that would really bother me!

tryingandhoping · March 2010

You're not. I'm guarding my girls names with my life (so to speak). We have a boys name in mind but I'm not sold. In that case, I want to hear other peoples ideas so if I liked yours, I'd probably steal it. Ha!

NMDA · March 2010

Just please, for your childs' sake, do not name him Easton if your last name is Weston.

saturdaynightdoubletree · March 2010

I didn't tell my list. I leaked a name or two to my aunt the 1st time around... and she found all kinds of reasons it was a bad name... so I learned my lesson. Everyone has an opinion... it's yours that matters (and DH a little bit!) I don't share any names because our list will probably be the same for every pregnancy, and I don't want SIL or anyone else "stealing" a name.

CelticWife · March 2010

I get where you are coming from. You spent a lot of time on those names, and you really want your LO to have a unique and thoughtful name. When other people just use it, you feel like they are dishonoring your well thought-out choice. (A friend of mine feels this way, although I do not.)

At the same time, you got your names from somewhere; whether it be a book, tv show, movie, friend, or family. They have to get their names somewhere, just like you did.

And, if you have a common last name, I can pretty much guarantee there will be at least one other child on this planet with the same name combination or one that is fairly close to it.

NMDA · March 2010

Oh, and I am protecting my girls name. Partly b/c it is hippie-dippie and I don't want it made fun of, and partly b/c it is awesome and I don't want someone else to use it, lol.

DLD102 · March 2010

NMDA:
Just please, for your childs' sake, do not name him Easton if your last name is Weston.

HA! What about Harry Beaver for a boy?

btacoma · March 2010

I was at a birthday party for my little cousin one year and called to my daughter who was crawling across the floor. Her name is Nyah. A pregnant woman looked over at me and asked me what on earth made me name my daughter Nyah and I said I thought it was beautiful. She said it sounded horrible and without hesitation told her to go F^&! herself. The folllowing year we were all back at the same birthday party when I heard someone call out "Nyah" and looked up assuming they were calling my daughter. However she was referring to a baby crawling across the floor. Sure enough this rude woman had stolen my name. Had it been anyone else I would have been ok with it......meh whatever my daughter is cuter

hopeful:) · March 2010

You are not alone. I don't plan on sharing because I'm not interested in peoples' opinions.

DLD102 · March 2010

CelticWife:

I get where you are coming from. You spent a lot of time on those names, and you really want your LO to have a unique and thoughtful name. When other people just use it, you feel like they are dishonoring your well thought-out choice. (A friend of mine feels this way, although I do not.)

At the same time, you got your names from somewhere; whether it be a book, tv show, movie, friend, or family. They have to get their names somewhere, just like you did.

And, if you have a common last name, I can pretty much guarantee there will be at least one other child on this planet with the same name combination or one that is fairly close to it.

I see where you're coming from. And I agree.

But, when someone puts actual thought into it, whether it be because of a family member or heritage, it peeves me to no end, when someone jumps on THAT bandwagon because they're too lazy to come up with one of their own.

Neighner20 · March 2010

IRL any time I plan on telling someone the names we have picked I preface it with 'now I don't want to know if you don't like them'. It's worked so far.

TAMLVSCARL · March 2010

I wouldn't care if someone from a message board stole my name (stranger so what diff does it really make?!) but in real life relationships, yes I would hide it

DLD102 · March 2010

btacoma:
I was at a birthday party for my little cousin one year and called to my daughter who was crawling across the floor. Her name is Nyah. A pregnant woman looked over at me and asked me what on earth made me name my daughter Nyah and I said I thought it was beautiful. She said it sounded horrible and without hesitation told her to go F^&! herself. The folllowing year we were all back at the same birthday party when I heard someone call out "Nyah" and looked up assuming they were calling my daughter. However she was referring to a baby crawling across the floor. Sure enough this rude woman had stolen my name. Had it been anyone else I would have been ok with it......meh whatever my daughter is cuter

CASE IN POINT, right there! Oh, I would be so mad!

You're a better person than I....

KJmashup · March 2010

Eric&Abby:
IRL any time I plan on telling someone the names we have picked I preface it with 'now I don't want to know if you don't like them'. It's worked so far.

FWIW, I LOVE the names you have picked out. Smile

ETA: OP, no, you're not alone. For me personally, I consider it an issue of fear of criticism, which I know I need to get over.

FutureThoughts · March 2010

we won't be sharing names because 1) don't want other's input - this is a decision for us, and 2) I dislike announcing the name of the baby before s/he's actually born - it's a superstitious thing I guess.

Call me old fashioned, but I think it's bad ju-ju to name, and announce the name, before the baby is here. Then again, I also really don't like getting the nursery all done before hand either...still haven't figured out how I'm going to swing that when the time comes! Hope my family comes through decorating while I'm in the hospital with future-baby I guess lol.

NMDA · March 2010

My ex BFF stole my boy name. I have always said that if I had another baby and it was a boy, his name would be Liam. She named her boy Liam almost 2 years ago. When I said something, she looked at me and said 'Well, you're done having kids though, aren't you? Why are you mad?' Seriously? That's ok though. Liam is so freaking popular now, she can have it. But she's still a biitch.

MissNikki007 · March 2010

hopeful:):
You are not alone. I don't plan on sharing because I'm not interested in peoples' opinions.

Exactly this.

btacoma · March 2010

NMDA:
My ex BFF stole my boy name. I have always said that if I had another baby and it was a boy, his name would be Liam. She named her boy Liam almost 2 years ago. When I said something, she looked at me and said 'Well, you're done having kids though, aren't you? Why are you mad?' Seriously? That's ok though. Liam is so freaking popular now, she can have it. But she's still a biitch.

I almost named my last son Liam and changed it to Callum right before he was born cause it was too popular. Let her have it. You know whats a nice boys name. It's a version of Liam and it's Wilem. I still like that name.

NMDA · March 2010

zukolivie:

NMDA:
Oh, and I am protecting my girls name. Partly b/c it is hippie-dippie and I don't want it made fun of, and partly b/c it is awesome and I don't want someone else to use it, lol.

I'm not trying to be rude, but if you are embarassed about the name you've picked out and won't discuss it for fear of being teased, why are you considering naming your child that?

If you are worried about YOU getting teased, why aren't you worried about your child being teased?

Again - not trying to be rude, just seeking to understand.

LOL, it's totally not tease worthy. And I'm not embarrassed. I just don't want to hear what others have to say about it, b/c I like it. Simple as that.

Mrs.M317 · March 2010

btacoma:
I was at a birthday party for my little cousin one year and called to my daughter who was crawling across the floor. Her name is Nyah. A pregnant woman looked over at me and asked me what on earth made me name my daughter Nyah and I said I thought it was beautiful. She said it sounded horrible and without hesitation told her to go F^&! herself. The folllowing year we were all back at the same birthday party when I heard someone call out "Nyah" and looked up assuming they were calling my daughter. However she was referring to a baby crawling across the floor. Sure enough this rude woman had stolen my name. Had it been anyone else I would have been ok with it......meh whatever my daughter is cuter

Hilarious. People never cease to amaze me with their craziness...

NMDA · March 2010

I guess 'made fun of' wasn't the right term to use. More like, I don't give a shiit if others like it or not, lol.

skyejo · March 2010

I've mentioned my names in posts but never started a do-you-like-my-baby-names post. I love my names and don't want to hear opinions on them because they are set.

I wouldn't mind having a bumpie steal my name since it's a bunch of strangers, but we're not leaking the names at all in real life until the baby is born. I don't want people IRL to steal the name and I also don't want to hear why the name is bad, what I should name it instead, blah blah blah.

OscarQ · March 2010

Not weird at all. I'm protecting my girl name at all costs. Even told MIL this past weekend that we had the girl name, DH had picked it out and he'd be very upset with me if I shared it with anyone. DH is seriously paranoid that someone we know will like it and use it first if we share. He's also worried it'll get popular as soon as DD is born. And yes, I'm less than 8 weeks and we have no clue if it's a girl or not.

BTW - my husband and his father both have the middle name Aidan. 10 years ago when we first started dating it was our first choice for a boy's name. I think the sudden popularity of that name in the past few years has fueled DH's paranoia.

tiareloch · March 2010

I won't share my names with anyone but DH. We have already picked our "top 4" since we're team green and we have 2 for a boy and 2 for a girl. I know there is a chance we would change our minds but I still am keeping them mostly a secret from people I know IRL.

Like someone else said though, I don't mind going into the message forums and saying them becuase it is bumpies i will probably never meet. haha!

MJHershey · March 2010

btacoma:
I was at a birthday party for my little cousin one year and called to my daughter who was crawling across the floor. Her name is Nyah. A pregnant woman looked over at me and asked me what on earth made me name my daughter Nyah and I said I thought it was beautiful. She said it sounded horrible and without hesitation told her to go F^&! herself. The folllowing year we were all back at the same birthday party when I heard someone call out "Nyah" and looked up assuming they were calling my daughter. However she was referring to a baby crawling across the floor. Sure enough this rude woman had stolen my name. Had it been anyone else I would have been ok with it......meh whatever my daughter is cuter

WOW. What a witch!! FWIW, Naiya was a contender for our girl name for a loong time. We only recently grew past it in favor of another name. So, I have to say, I think it's a gorgeous name.

I don't know if we are sharing names with anyone we have not already tossed ideas around with (other TTC or pregnant couples we are close to), I don't want to share names with MIL because she is the most opinionated woman on the planet. Stick out tongue

Spacebunny19 · March 2010

It's not weird you don't want to reveal your fave names. For me, I'm not terribly worried about name-stealers (I only know a few women who are pregnant and farther along than I am, so I am not worried that one of them will hear my choices and snag them and beat me to the delivery room. Anyone 'stealing' the name after my kid is named, well, you can't prevent that anyway. Once the kid is born people will pick the name or not.

What I am worried about is too many negative nellies. Everyone wants their pick and wants to criticize any name they don't love. As if you had a say in naming any of THEIR kids. I told my mom about a name I liked (and DH didn't, so it doesn't matter) and my mom said how much she hated it and then told my dad and she then told me my dad said that 'he forbade' me from naming the baby that. I'm sure he was half-kidding but the thing is, there was nothing wrong with the name. It just wasn't his preference. But nobody is going to say "I don't like the name" after the kid is named it, because then it's rude (unless it's that beeyotch in the prior post who stole the name Nyah). (It was not a tease-worthy name.)

And the side thing that goes with that is the whole negative connotations thing. There are enough negative connotations I have with various names--an ex boyfriend, an ex-girlfriend, a mean girl from camp, whatever, that "ruins" perfectly good names. The last thing you want is MORE people's negative connotations. Like, I really like a name but my sis had an ex boyfriend by that name, so that's out. If I already KNOW it, I'm stuck with it. But when you start telling people in advance, you get stuck.

But polite friends know to keep that to themselves: For example, my best friend was going to name his daughter Sophia. Then he learned that his wife's aunt has a poodle by that name. So they nixed it. So they picked the name Brianna. Told me. I said I have a cousin by that name, what a pretty name. (All true.) What i didn't tell him is that my parents' dog is also named Brianna. Because I'm not an a$$hat.

veronicacorningstone · March 2010

I know I will probably not tell friends, I'm not sure about the bump. I mean, I really don't care if strangers on the boards steal the name because it's not like there's a copyright to it. However, I'd be irritated if I told a friend and they used it.

I did mention two girls names to my mom. She said, "Oh. Well what about..." and proceeded to mention another name. Grrrr. The way I see it, I don't give a flip what friends or family think about the name. It's my decision. (Well, DH's too.)

BUT, if I say I'm going to name my child Julia Gulia, please flame me mercilessly.

PenguinKaty · March 2010

I'm planning on keeping my name choices a secret in real life (mostly because my in-laws would find something negative to say). As far as getting advice on the boards, I might... especially since hubs is on the hunt for names with a certain number of syllables. Ugh!

HawaiiLover · March 2010

We don't share since we have had 2 names stolen in the past. One was a first name that my cousin used 2 years ago and the other was a first and middle stolen by a family friend. We put a lot of thought into names (First and middle) and we really want our names to be a bit unique, not strange just not top 100 popular. And we have decided to not tell anyone our chosen names since we know 4 people who are pregnant and due before me

bohemianbeauty7 · March 2010

NMDA:
My ex BFF stole my boy name. I have always said that if I had another baby and it was a boy, his name would be Liam. She named her boy Liam almost 2 years ago. When I said something, she looked at me and said 'Well, you're done having kids though, aren't you? Why are you mad?' Seriously? That's ok though. Liam is so freaking popular now, she can have it. But she's still a biitch.

Ugh. I hate people like this. My ex's sister stole my first baby name with the comment that, "I didn't have a baby yet, so I didn't need the name." (of course, now he's my ex so it doesn't matter so much but it really pissed me off at the time) and currently my sister has been threatening to use my no. 1 baby girl name. These people are lame. That's why I'm not telling the other names I like. Strangers on the bump=who cares, but people in my own family stealing my names=PISSED

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