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Etiquette on who pays for birthday dinner?

EXL311EXL311 member
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I've invited a group of my friends to have dinner with me for my birthday.  I was deciding between doing something at home (possibly ordering Olive Garden) or actually going out to an Olive Garden.  If I'm inviting them to go out with me to a restaurant for dinner does that imply I should pay for everyone?
Dee Dee DS Elijah Xin 3/11/05 DD Evangeline Mei 8/24/06
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Re: Etiquette on who pays for birthday dinner?

  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    Yeah it does imply that you'll pay.
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  • EXL311EXL311 member
    So is there a way to have people join you for your birthday without implying that you'll pay for them?
    Dee Dee DS Elijah Xin 3/11/05 DD Evangeline Mei 8/24/06
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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett

    Probably but I have no idea how you'd say it nicely LOL  I'm horrid at that kind of thing, sorry.

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  • AggieCoupleAggieCouple member
    I am of the opinion that an invitation in general implies the guests should not be expected to pay.  But if the event might be one which involves gifts (even if you don't mean it to), then everything else should definitely be paid for.  
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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member

    imageEXL311:
    So is there a way to have people join you for your birthday without implying that you'll pay for them?

    Whenever my family meets for a birthday dinner someone always says, "Hey we are all meeting up at "where ever" for "so and so's" birthday. You're welcome to join us."

    We have never assumed any one person was paying for the entire meal.

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  • EXL311EXL311 member
    Thanks for the input so far.  Most of the people who will be there, including DH and I, are med students so none of us have a ton of money.  If I did it at home and just ordered food from OG then it would probably be cheaper than actually going out but our house isn't that big and if we did go out I could invite more people to come out with us.  I don't want gifts at all I just thought it would be nice to have a lot of my friends at dinner with me to celebrate my birthday.  I guess I'll have to ponder over this because it's not really feasible for me to pay for 12-20 people, though I do know for certain several of my friends wouldn't let me pay for them.
    Dee Dee DS Elijah Xin 3/11/05 DD Evangeline Mei 8/24/06
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  • EXL311EXL311 member
    imageemilykristene2006:

    imageEXL311:
    So is there a way to have people join you for your birthday without implying that you'll pay for them?

    Whenever my family meets for a birthday dinner someone always says, "Hey we are all meeting up at "where ever" for "so and so's" birthday. You're welcome to join us."

    We have never assumed any one person was paying for the entire meal.

    I do like this idea.  I was trying to think of a way like that to say it that sounds more informal I guess.

    Dee Dee DS Elijah Xin 3/11/05 DD Evangeline Mei 8/24/06
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