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taylor20204
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Who works full time?
taylor20204
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Just wondering how many of us work full time and part time. This is sort of a spin off of the 'undecided about #2' post. I'm considering #2, but I feel like I'm barely hanging on with #1 and working full time. I don't know how people do it!
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Re: Who works full time?
Funny you should mention that. I said something to my mom about how I have baby fever and she replied with "are you sure? You're barely managing with just DD"
I was a little insulted, but she's right.
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
I work 4 days, 32 hours, but my job is demanding and many weeks I end up putting in 40 hours anyway during those 4 days. We will be have another LO and it is a big priority for me to cut back or switch jobs before we do it.
We are paying off debt and saving up so we can have 1-2 more in a few years. DH should be making a lot more money over the next 5 years and we will have a lot of things paid off, so it is realistic that I can make the switch before we have more kids.
Of course, if for some reason I can't cut back I will still have another LO and make it work. . maybe not two more though.
I do, and DH works more than FT since he is managing a restaurant that just opened last week and maybe gets one day off a week, if he is lucky.
And we have 2 kids.
It's sort of like asking a mom of twins, "how do you do it?" Her answer (and mine) would probably be "how can I NOT do it?" You just make it work, because you have to. And you forget what it was like when you only had one DC. It helps that my 2 are not that close in age, DD was almost 4 when DS was born. So it wasn't like I had 2 in diapers, and she was feeding/clothing/toileting herself. They are in the same daycare, so drop off just takes a few minutes longer.
Now, ask me this question again in September, when DD starts Kindergarten, and it will be harder for me to answer. I'll probably have to answer via phone from my new home at the looney bin.
I do, but DH is a SAHD so he gets most of the "traditional" mommy duties. We've talked about having a 2nd (in a few years) and I know that we both really do. I sort of feel bad because he would be the one staying home with the LOs and I feel like I would be adding more to his plate. When we think "how can we do it - we're barely managing one" we remember that we're not the first people to have kids, that others do it all the time, and we'll figure it out.
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DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
I guess I mean that I feel lik I'm just barely making it work...life is crazy, I'm always exhausted, although there are good days and bad days. I love my job and would hate to give it up, but man it is hard doing both! I guess I need to hear that other women are doing it and making it work.
I did after #1. Right now I am working "30"hrs/wk (I end up working more than that) but at the end of April I will be going back f/t.
We will see how it goes. For me getting home in the afternoon will be easier (or should be) because when I work f/t DH and I carpool so we drop off and pick up the kids together. Things get tough when either one of us is alone with them.
I think that if my mom did it with three and with a worse commute, I can do it with two. :-)
I work FT. DH works 30 hr/wk, but DS is in daycare FT. DH works at an after school childcare place, so this week (Spring Break) he was full time. Now, our home is a wreck. His boss is hoping to make him FT soon, and he wants to start grad school. If that happens, I don't know who's going to do the laundry, dishes, etc! We'll figure it out, though.
I don't know if we're going to have #2. We didn't plan on having #1 yet, so we realize that we have little control over whether or not there is a #2 in our future, and how soon. I think it's one of those things that you just do what you have to do when the time comes.
My H and I both work full time - I'm 38 hours and he's 40 hours - we work opposite shifts. It's hard but worth it for us. He is with DD during the day while I work and then we swap her in the afternoon (or on days I work late she goes to my il's and they bring her home after dinner or my mom watches her at my house). We're moving closer to both our jobs and our parents before our next baby arrives so that will be easier. I would love to do part time but it's not an option here right now. Not sure what we'll do when we have our next baby - we need my income, but since we'll be closer to both our jobs we won't have to swap kids in the parking lot of his office, LOL!
One thing we did is hire a cleaning company to clean our home every other week - that has made such a huge difference!
I work F/T and have since my girls were 13 weeks old. I also prep trials when they go to sleep (when I am on trial) so some weeks are really really insane for me but it works out and is totally do-able with 2. (My experience though is with twins, obviously. I sometimes wonder how people do it with a toddler and baby because that to me seems so much more insane than the 2 toddlers I have right now! LOL)
Good Luck!
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
This is us, exactly. BTW, when DD was around your LO's age, we felt the 'barely managing one' a lot more strongly. Once DD got older and a little more independent, it actually started to seem realistic (and, here we are, #2 due end of June). DH is looking forward to it...we'll see how long that lasts, I think he has newborn amnesia.
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Ditto this situation. I was not hanging on at all when #2 came along with bf and ft and no sleep. Then we got a cleaning person and bf tapered off at about 7 months and now life is great. But for me it's that WAH day that keeps me afloat. I can cycle the laundry all day, grocery shop over lunch, straighten, and then I have my weekends to do the fun stuff. Luckily my work is very low stress and sometimes just monitoring what is going on. I love it.
My older child kind of gets the shaft the first half of the evening every night, but once the baby is in bed, he gets 100% attention so it's a fair trade (but not if you ask him).
thanks to jennied
I do! My job is pretty easy with very regular hours but I won't say its a walk in the park. I did think one was more of an adjustment than #2 b/c you are already in the kid routine. I worked #2 into #1s routine - they take baths together every other night, try to nap them at teh same time, bedtime is the same time for both (DH puts the older one to bed while I put the younger one to bed), they go to the same daycare, etc. Its going to get harder when DD1 starts preschool and we have to coordinate all that - but we've decided to delay that till she is 4 to give us one more "easy" year - money and schedule-wise (they are in a home daycare that we love and happens to be inexpensive comparatively).
I think it will pay off down the road when they are playmates and we don't have to occupy them 24/7.
I do! My approach to childcare is to have faith that it'll all work out
DD's been in a fantastic center for about 1 1/2 years. We had to make an adjustment w/ DS arriving, but it's been great so far! DD's in preschool 3 days per week at the center and we have a nanny for M-F for DS. She's a life saver and also helps w/ cooking and cleaning. We've been very fortunate and DD's been able to stay at the center due to the generosity of grandparents.
For the rest of dealing with everything, DS is only 2 months old so I'm still in the exhausted phase
But it so helps that he's starting to get the hang of nighttime sleeping a bit and I keep reminding myself that at some point I'll have full nights of sleep.
Bottom line is I feel pretty settled in my life. Change is fun, but I also need consistency. I love my job, work and preschool are within a few blocks, and I feel like things are manageable. We're done with 2 kids, and I feel like at this point our family is complete.