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My sister doesn't care :(

beachgal0114beachgal0114
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Okay, I know that everyone isn't going to care about our struggles with IF or that we're doing IVF right now.  But it really bugs me that my sister knows what's going on and doesn't seem to care. I e-mailed her (at my parents' suggestion--they claim she's interested) to let her know our ER was coming up and how I was doing.  She hasn't offered one ounce of support, not even a text to say good luck.  I guess in her defense, she and BIL don't ever want kids, and she's not too keen on them.  Her reaction when I told her a few weeks ago that we were doing IVF was kind of a bland "oh, that's good" and then she changed the subject.  Still, I've been there for her many times in the past and always try to encourage and support her.  It hurts that she can't offer the same in return.
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Re: My sister doesn't care :(

  • Missy0708Missy0708

    I know just how you feel unfortunately. My sis (3 yrs younger) already has 4 kids (one the first try with all 4) so she does not get it at all.  I am lucky to have a very supportive brother, husband, in-laws and friends though so I try not to let her indifference get to me.  We are just not close anymore which kind of sucks...

    The worst is when she complains about all of her kids, that is hard to take.

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  • erinandbrockverinandbrockv
    Im sorry hon. My sister doesnt understand what so ever-she had no problem having both her kids and she acts the same way as yours. She has asked a few questions, but she continues to make horrible comments in front of me too like how "I better have one before she has #3" Yeah like I havnt been trying! It is just so hard and I think sometimes they just dont know how to act. Hang in there.
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  • wishingforpositive21wishingforpositive21
    I am so sorry you have to deal with this!  I know exactly what you are going through, just in a different situation!  Both my sister and my sister in law have babies!  So anytime I try to talk about my IF and what is going on they start talking about their babies!  I'm like are you serious!  Don't worry sweetie we are ALL here for you ;) PM me anytime... I will be excited for you!!!  HUGS!
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  • QuiltingBeeQuiltingBee
    I'm so sorry. I reached out to my sister about our IF and haven't heard a word from her.  I figure she has her own things going on, and maybe she doesn't know what to say...but it's still disappointing. 
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  • AshleyR2452AshleyR2452
    I'm sorry you have to deal with this!  I know how you feel.  I emailed my sister about what you're going through, and she just didn't respond.  She just emailed me a week later about something totally unrelated.
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  • SallyAnneSSallyAnneS member

    I'm sorry to hear that your sister is being so insensitive.  My sister in-laws both on DH side were very insensitive to us when they announced their pregnancies.  The first sister (which use to be my bff) said she was pregnant so I better hurry up so that we can go on mat leave together (as if I'm not trying) and the second pretty much yelled that she was pg when my DH asked her if she was going to be drinking at the Christmas party.  It was the same day his GP told him he might have sperm issues.

     BIG HUGS and GL!

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