Things you are sick of hearing....

Lilystar82 · March 2010

I just had a really close friend of mine say the dreaded "Lil dont you think if you just STOPPED trying so hard you would get pregnant?"

Nope - pretty sure the sperm has to swim up there to get pregnant. So stop trying = not pregnant. Then again she looks at her husband sideways and gets KU.

What are you completely sick of hearing?

NBNurse · March 2010

I hate when people ask, "So when are you guys going to start trying?" None of your business!

Chick7806 · March 2010

Ugh! I for sure hate the one you mentioned. I hate- maybe next month? Blah! Maybe, but that doesn't make *this* disappointment any easier... But then again, I guess people are just trying to help me look on the bright side...

a.graves · March 2010

Oh my best friend had this gem to say to me the other day.

"Why are you not pregnant yet? What are you doing wrong." This was the look she got in return - Indifferent

e_uecker · March 2010

a.graves:

Oh my best friend had this gem to say to me the other day.

"Why are you not pregnant yet? What are you doing wrong." This was the look she got in return -

Ouch! Who even thinks thats ok to say?

Lilystar82 · March 2010

a.graves:

Oh my best friend had this gem to say to me the other day.

"Why are you not pregnant yet? What are you doing wrong." This was the look she got in return -

That would have taken all my restraint not to whack her. Ugh.

steffwd124 · March 2010

I had a co-worker who was deep into first tri MS say to me "Be glad that you're not pregnant, it's horrible" Granted, she was sick and probably didn't mean it, but frankly i'd give my left leg to be sick for the reason she was

Mrs.Umm · March 2010

Relax, it will happen when it's meant to.

UGH!

ermaderma · March 2010

For me, it's "are you really going to wait for DH to get a job before trying to get pregnant?"

Um, yeah. We are.

a.graves · March 2010

Oh trust me I almost killed her. She knows why it is so hard for me to get pregnant so for her to say that was unbelievable.

LittleDucky · March 2010

I have a friend who is pregnant and I am sick of her saying how easily she gets pregnant (like the "well, all dh has to do is look at me and I get pregnant" sort of thing). I'm only on cycle 1, so who knows if I'll have an easy time getting pregnant or not, but it seems insensitive just because there's no way for her to know whether I'm having an easy time getting KU or not.

I'm also sick of hearing hints from my mom about how badly she wants to be a grandmother. She doesn't know we're TTC, but still.

Edited for grammar

Bunniehug · March 2010

N_RN:
I hate when people ask, "So when are you guys going to start trying?" None of your business!

This!!!!

ermaderma · March 2010

steffwd124:
I had a co-worker who was deep into first tri MS say to me "Be glad that you're not pregnant, it's horrible" Granted, she was sick and probably didn't mean it, but frankly i'd give my left leg to be sick for the reason she was

And this. DH's cousin did this throughout her entire pregnancy, saying "her life was over" and "she would never have fun again." (Can you tell her pg was unplanned? lol)

But, I am happy to say that she has completely changed, for the better, since her son was born

Ya Never Know · March 2010

This is the worst one I've received so far:

"Some people I know that tried to have a baby were trying so hard that they made themselves infertile. Just stop trying so hard."

Lilystar82 · March 2010

Mrs.Umm:

Relax, it will happen when it's meant to.

UGH!

Oh my friend totally threw that one in as well - just relax! If I could've gone through the phone I would have.

Lilystar82 · March 2010

Ya Never Know:

This is the worst one I've received so far:

"Some people I know that tried to have a baby were trying so hard that they made themselves infertile. Just stop trying so hard."

FFS - that would've totally earned a throat punch.

sunandsurfmama · March 2010

People who don't know we are TTC, who tell me that we are "selfish for not having kids". Pretty much indicting that I am living the high life with no room for kids because I cannot be bothered with them.

If they only knew...

Babydust08 · March 2010

Lilystar82:

I just had a really close friend of mine say the dreaded "Lil dont you think if you just STOPPED trying so hard you would get pregnant?"

Nope - pretty sure the sperm has to swim up there to get pregnant. So stop trying = not pregnant. Then again she looks at her husband sideways and gets KU.

What are you completely sick of hearing?

This was a hot topic over in 1st tri today! LOL

My sister gave me that dreaded saying this weekend. I started to cry when she told me that. Sometimes I wonder if people who can't relate or don't know what else to say resort to "Just stop trying so hard." GRRR. I told her to never say that to me again.

a.graves · March 2010

Ya Never Know:
This is the worst one I've received so far:
"Some people I know that tried to have a baby were trying so hard that they made themselves infertile. Just stop trying so hard."

ZOMG!!! For real?!?!! Wow. If someone had said that to me I might of snapped back with, "Yeah it is totally not the endometriosis or the PCOS that is making me infertile."

That sucks! Sorry someone said that to you.

Babydust08 · March 2010

kdodge423:
Ya Never Know:

This is the worst one I've received so far:

"Some people I know that tried to have a baby were trying so hard that they made themselves infertile. Just stop trying so hard."

I want this person's address.

And bail money.

Awesome Yes

AllSmiles1210 · March 2010

Here are some I heard this weekend:

-"Are you pregnant yet?" (No.) "Well, are you trying hard enough?"

-"Do you believe in God? Because if you pray hard enough and stop thinking about it then it will happen."

-"Stop trying so hard and let nature take it's course."

-"You guys just need to have sex every other day so you always have sperm in there. It will happen if you do that."

mchupie · March 2010

Mrs.Umm:

Relax, it will happen when it's meant to.

UGH!

Hate this. HATE.

Lilystar82 · March 2010

fmgrice:

Here are some I heard this weekend:

-"Are you pregnant yet?" (No.) "Well, are you trying hard enough?"

-"Do you believe in God? Because if you pray hard enough and stop thinking about it then it will happen."

-"Stop trying so hard and let nature take it's course."

-"You guys just need to have sex every other day so you always have sperm in there. It will happen if you do that."

That's my other fan favorite. "God's plan for you doesnt include children yet."

Thanks. So. Much. for clarifying "Gods Plan" for me.

a.graves · March 2010

kdodge423:
Ya Never Know:

This is the worst one I've received so far:

"Some people I know that tried to have a baby were trying so hard that they made themselves infertile. Just stop trying so hard."

I want this person's address.

And bail money.

Yes

jess0610 · March 2010

My mom blabbed to my whole family that we're TTC. It's only been three months yet my aunt says to me a couple of weeks ago: "If you aren't pregnant yet, maybe you don't have our good genes". Thanks, that really made me feel great:(

Babydust08 · March 2010

Lilystar82:
fmgrice:

Here are some I heard this weekend:

-"Are you pregnant yet?" (No.) "Well, are you trying hard enough?"

-"Do you believe in God? Because if you pray hard enough and stop thinking about it then it will happen."

-"Stop trying so hard and let nature take it's course."

-"You guys just need to have sex every other day so you always have sperm in there. It will happen if you do that."

That's my other fan favorite. "God's plan for you doesnt include children yet."

Thanks. So. Much. for clarifying "Gods Plan" for me.

People are insane and dumb, that's the conclusion I've come to.

MCH77 · March 2010

This is exactly why I have not told people that we are TTC. I don't think that I could take their "advice." I really could end up hurting someone.

NBNurse · March 2010

Someone once said to me (who didn't know I was TTC), "I believe that people get pregnant when they're ready." What about all those people who don't take of their kids, abuse them, etc?!

a.graves · March 2010

jess0610:
My mom blabbed to my whole family that we're TTC. It's only been three months yet my aunt says to me a couple of weeks ago: "If you aren't pregnant yet, maybe you don't have our good genes". Thanks, that really made me feel great:(

WTF is wrong with people? Do they not think before they vomit this crap?

bry238 · March 2010

um...my family telling me my 19 year old sister is going to get pregnant before me. thanks mom, thats so sweet.

jennyhazz · March 2010

Lilystar82:
fmgrice:

Here are some I heard this weekend:

-"Are you pregnant yet?" (No.) "Well, are you trying hard enough?"

-"Do you believe in God? Because if you pray hard enough and stop thinking about it then it will happen."

-"Stop trying so hard and let nature take it's course."

-"You guys just need to have sex every other day so you always have sperm in there. It will happen if you do that."

That's my other fan favorite. "God's plan for you doesnt include children yet."

Thanks. So. Much. for clarifying "Gods Plan" for me.

This. I love it when people tell me what God has in store for me. As if keeping track of this process biologically isn't hard enough at times.

Kellina · March 2010

Well, since we have a 14 mo old, I either hear "when are you having another?" or "don't have another too soon, we need to enjoy this one first."

I really like the 2nd comment- soooo baby #2 doesn't really count, then? b/c they will have ZERO alone time with us, while DS will have at least 2 YEARS...

Can't win I guess!

LolliLately · March 2010

Before we were TTC, DH's best friend told me to "just stop taking the pill" without telling DH. Ummm...no. We are partners in this and will start when we are ready, thankyouverymuch.

I also hate "What are you drinking?" It's like my beverage choice is a pee stick. Beer = BFN, pop = BFP.

KatieM1106 · March 2010

I share this because I know that so many of you have also had losses:

"The good news is that you can get pregnant."

Thanks.

lckcdc3 · March 2010

a.graves:

Oh my best friend had this gem to say to me the other day.

"Why are you not pregnant yet? What are you doing wrong." This was the look she got in return -

Yep I've gotten the "you must be doing it wrong" before. That is probably number 1.

Milliways · March 2010

I hate when people say "When it is meant to be it will happen." Insert God or not.

So explain teenagers and crackheads to me, how it was meant to be for them and not for me? Me, happily married, gainfully employeed, responsible yet not meant to be...

KeriMac · March 2010

A "friend" recently said that DH and I were being "mean" for not giving DD a sibling yet... I didn't know whether to cry or punch her. I am sure this will also be a hot topic at her 2nd birthday party.

KeriMac · March 2010

KatieM1106:

I share this because I know that so many of you have also had losses:

"The good news is that you can get pregnant."

Thanks.

GAG!!!!! I hate this too!!!

bhead81 · March 2010

steffwd124:
I had a co-worker who was deep into first tri MS say to me "Be glad that you're not pregnant, it's horrible" Granted, she was sick and probably didn't mean it, but frankly i'd give my left leg to be sick for the reason she was

I completely understand you on this one. One of my friends is pregnant and she keeps complaining about how horrible it is and that I should enjoy every moment I am not pregnant. I just want to smack her sometimes. She knows what I am going through but still doesn't seem to understand that I would give almost ANYTHING to be pregnant.

pinkflipflops44 · March 2010

My mother saying she wants to be a grandma.. and that I don't apparently want to have kids anytime soon. dagger meet heart.

karaknr · March 2010

Getting unsolicited "Enjoy your marriage and youth, you guys are WAY to young to have kids. It would be stupid of you to get PG now."

Ummm... I realize that my being 23 and DH 27 arent very "up there" ages, but considering our financial status and current base we are stationed at as well as our own opinions and desires, WE feel like it's the right time. But the part that gets me is that NO ONE knows we will be TTC when DH gets back. They just tell us this sh*t for the hell of it!

On the flip side, people telling someone older or who already has a child that they need to have another kid. EXCUSE ME?!? Do you walk in our shoes? Do you pay our bills? Are you married to my spouse? Do you live my life?

Until you do, please keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself.

My other fav is my IL's saying "You guys can't have kids yet because we want to enjoy my BIL and SIL's kids first..." Indifferent Sorry, not planning on reproducing around your schedule, if it happens too "soon" for you, feel free not to be involved.

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