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OMG- how do I stop the WHINING?!

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Seriously?  It's ridiculous. Matthew whines about every.freaking.thing. "No, me want Daaaaady to put me to bed." "I want the candy nooooow." "I don't waaaaant milk."   Ok, really?  This *just* started, and we know it's probably b/c he is finally talking more and more, and he can whine, so he is. We are trying to put a stop to the whiny cry when he doesn't get every little thing he wants.   What is working for you girls?  Or am I screwed?  Hmm
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Matthew James 1/11/07
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Re: OMG- how do I stop the WHINING?!

  • docmay25docmay25 member

    I wish I knew.  I have read to ignore it, but that is so hard.  And if I ignore her she just continues because she thinks I can't hear her.  I do tell her that I need to hear big girl voice, but that just ends it for that sentence.  When she starts with something else the whining starts again. 

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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    We matter of factly tell her to use her normal Sam voice or she won't get what she's asking for.  We tell her that whining hurts our ears and isn't nice to listen to.  Once in a while we'll whine back at her to let her hear what it sounds like, make a joke about it & make her laugh, and then tell her "see?  that's no fun, that's why we like to hear your normal Sam voice".
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  • KrisBriMcBunnyKrisBriMcBunny member
    when you find the secret let me know...been dealing with this for like ever!  Somebody just effing shoot me and put me out of my misery!
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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    It helps when I tell my kids I can't understand them and need them to talk like a big boy/girl so that I can understand them and help them. 
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  • Bride2b2004Bride2b2004 member
    I say "I listen to words, not whines" and usually that works.  I will walk away and not do whatever is being whined at me.  I just can't stand to listen to it and I will not respond to it (unless it is an emergency or he is ill).  I have always responded to whining this way and I think the consistency has helped this approach work.  Don't get me wrong, I still hear A LOT of whining (some days more than others) but usually it ends with the reminder and when it doesn't get him what he wants... and he knows using his words in a nice voice will work much better.
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  • *Amy**Amy*

    imageKoriBrett:
    We matter of factly tell her to use her normal Sam voice or she won't get what she's asking for.  We tell her that whining hurts our ears and isn't nice to listen to.  Once in a while we'll whine back at her to let her hear what it sounds like, make a joke about it & make her laugh, and then tell her "see?  that's no fun, that's why we like to hear your normal Sam voice".

     When I whine back at Anthony, Anthony laughs and Jackson starts to cry.  Apparently my whining is awful. LOL

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