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Mother-in-law baby stress

barharborbridebarharborbride
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Ok. Have to vent.

My mother in law is driving me nuts with my first pregnancy! She's very nice and all, but I'm feeling smothered.

She calls early in the mornings on my days off to tell me not to eat certain things (which, I already know... I read!). She wants to buy me things, but not the things I want or need even though she asks. She wants to see me all the time. And the belly touching... oy.

 This is the first grandchild. And I understand being excited, but my own mother is being way more easy going and laid back about everything. I'm only 4 1/2 months along... I still have a long haul to go.

 Anyone else dealing with people in your life who are driving you nuts over your baby? How can I politely tell her to ease up?

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Re: Mother-in-law baby stress

  • saturdaynightdoubletreesaturdaynightdoubletree member
    GL!!! I don't imagine it will get any better once the baby is here. As far as family, they all pretty much left me alone while I was pregnant... but I'm a teacher and the kids LOVED to rub my belly (I hated it!). It's a hard thing to politely say, no matter how hard you try. Maybe you could tell her you're nauseous and she should stay away Devil haha. I'm sorry, wish I could be helpful.
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  • jCamsquaredjCamsquared

    My ILs always drive me nuts, so it's nothing new. But my mom has been driving me nuts because she and I have always been very close, so she assumes that she just knows exactly how we plan to do everything with this child. She would be wrong. And every time she says about doing something one way and we want to do it another, she ignores our wishes.

    For example, we are going to cloth diaper. She thinks it's ridiculous. She flat out told me 'well at my house we'll use disposables.' I was like actually, that's not a decision you get to make. This is our child.

    Basically I have no real advice for you, just wanted you to know you're far from alone :-) For the most part I just try to smile and nod and ignore when people give unsolicited advice, but it's tough when it's family.

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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    ughh we lived with the ILs until I was about 6mos PG. we bought a house an moved aroudn then, but she was a crazy stalker as well. she was always asking when the next appt was and as soon as we got hom she would come running down the stairs to see how everything was and what happened. "um nothing. weight check, blood pressure and heartbeat check. same as last time" If I were you I would just stop answering the phone. This is what I do now.
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