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For the mamas whose husbands/family smokes.
https://www.babiestoday.com/articles/immunizations-and-health/third-hand-smoke-and-babies-6353/3/
My husband is a smoker. Since we've found out we're pregnant, he's been smoking in our garage and not in the car with me... He tries not to smoke around me at all... which I appreciate... BUT...
This morning we got into a big argument because he thinks I'm "being paranoid" when I tell him he has to wash his hands after smoking before he can hold the baby...
This discussion started because he forgot to close the door that leads from the garage into the house and the whole house smelled like his cigarette smoke...
So, the above link is an article you can print out and give to your husbands or family to teach them about the dangers of third-hand smoke.
If anyone has any other information for me to show my husband, I'd really appreciate it!
Thanks.
BFP#1 2/23/09. Natural MC on 3/20/09 @ 8wks
BFP#2 8/10/09. Born 4/23/2010
BFP#3 2/26/12. Stick Baby Stick!
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Re: For the mamas whose husbands/family smokes.
I have the same problem with my Mom. And it hurts our relationship because while I know she won't smoke around LO, she doesn't comprehend the effects of third hand smoke. And she smokes in her house. Everytime I try to explain it to her she just shuts down. And she's slightly dilusional. I know a lot of people say that about their parents, but my Mother really is. I love her so much, but this is definitely a huge problem we have.
My DH smokes too and we have a similar arrangement. He doesn't smoke in the house or in the car anymore. The car was important to me because even if he smokes while neither I or LO are in it, it will get into the carseat, etc. He understood.
We've also talked about the hand washing issue. He understands and also plans to use extra antibacterial creams, etc.
I'm still nervous about how this is going to go so I'll be curious to see other responses. (and btw, thanks for posting this... i know so many people here are so completely against smoking that I've been reluctant to)
I *had* the same problem. DH finally quit 9 weeks ago, it was very tough for him (and on us). FWIW, I made him wash his hands and brush his teeth before he was allowed to hold/play with DD.
I also had his car detailed and installed a car seat in it to get him to completely stop smoking in there. Last resort to get him to quit before this LO arrived was to use DD...He would come inside from smoking and I would have her go up to him and say, "Please no smoke Dada." Crappy tactic, but it worked!
Umm you are not being paranoid. You are protecting your baby since the baby can't protect his/herself.
My step-dad smokes. My mom will be watching LO when I am at work. We've already had a calm/rational/fact-based discussion with him about 3rd hand smoke & how we'd like him to wash up (hands & face) & change clothing before handling LO. He understood completely.
Your husband is in denial if he thinks you are overreacting.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
Soooo.... I just emailed him that article and this was his response:
I will take every precaution.Except for showering every time I have a cigarette. But please stop reading these articles. This is not a scientific study, proven to be fact. I could find article's that could link a thousand things to dangers that can be posed to a baby. Mankind has survived, we used to live in caves... UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!Time to slap on a patch and chew some gum for the sake of the baby.
His response is BS, "Taking every precaution except..." is not every precaution. Baby's have very sensitive lungs, he needs to get that through his thick skull.
My DH smokes, and has tried hard to quit, but the best he's been able to do is cut down drastically.
Yesterday we bought him one of the electronic cigarette things, I'd rather he didn't need it but since there is no smoke or tabacco I feel like its a good comprimise.