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Bookworm75
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Ready to come out - re: Divorce
Bookworm75
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You've probably noticed that I've not been on the board much since Nov. The reason for that is that the day after Thanksgiving, we decided to seperate (while living in the same house, mind you, due to $$). I had been sleeping in the guest room upstairs for most of 2009 anyway. The decision to seperate quickly turned into a final split/divorce. It will be final in less than 30 days. I moved into an apt and he's renting a house, we just sold our house and closed on it Wed. I've been in a dark place for a while now and I'm not out of the woods yet, but I'm trying to hang in there. Anyway, I just felt ready to come out and tell you all about it and explain my absence. I won't go into details about the "why" part, b/c there are some here that know us in real life and I don't want to air our dirty laundry on a public site. Those that I know IRL, I don't mind sharing when we see each other in person. I will tell you that there is a VERY good reason for this and it is not fixable.
So, there you go. 7 yrs in the trash, starting over at age 34 w/2 kids, ages 1 and 3. Awesome.
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Re: Ready to come out - re: Divorce
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wow. i was just thinking about you yesterday and wondering where you had gone. i figured you werent on much anymore b/c your kids were getting older. im sorry to hear about your divorce and hope that things brighten up for you soon. ill be saying several prayers for nesties tonight.
I'm sorry too. I hope your heart is able to heal and the smiling little faces that love you to bits help!
7 years that gave you 2 beautiful children.
But I am still very sorry. I wish you the very best with the next chapter.
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Sucky sucky suck. I'm so sorry Tanya.
Lots of hugs, I was wondering where you'd been. I'm sorry it had to be for a reason such as this.
You're beautiful, I know you won't have any problems finding someone else when you're ready, but I *get* what you mean about having to start over and with kids too.
That's the sh!tty part. I'm sorry the kids have to go through this at such a young age.
Good luck to you. I wish you nothing but the best. More hugs.
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I am so very sorry. I understand what you are going through. I left my ex-H when DD was 5 months old. I'm right there with you. 35 years old, one child and starting all over. If there is anything I can do, even if it is just listen, please feel free to send me an email. emabend (at) hotmail (dot) com
I realize this probably sounds totally cliche but it gets easier. Regardless of my past and all of the issues with my ex, I am so very thankful I have my daughter. She is worth every last heartache of our marriage and divorce.
<hugs> I really am so very sorry.
This.. I'm so sorry to hear it.
Aw, I'm sorry. That 'wasted years' feeling is hard to get over. But look at the bright side. The kids are young enough so that this won't affect them to much. By the time they are able to remember things....like 5 and 6 years old...everything will seem perfectly normal. Better to separate now before they know the difference.
::hugs::
Me too. MrsBeckO always knows just what to say.
I do think of you often and I'm glad you're back! I still adore my "new" pink boppy cover
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I had been wondering about you as well. I am so sorry you're going through this.
As I'm sure you well know, your gorgeous babies are more than worth any pain and suffering you're going through right now.
And trust me, you're still very marketable. You are who you are and will be a bigger person for it when all is said and done.
Take care and stick around... there's plenty of other women here in similar situations. We don't discriminate.
I was wondering about you just the other day too. I figured you were busy with the babes and your real estate. I wish I had reached out.
I agree with MrsBeckO. It's hard not to feel like those 7 years are in the trash, but they gave you the most precious gifts, those beautiful children.
I'm so sorry for you and your little ones that you have to go through this. Please let me know if you need anything to help you out of your dark place. You're a beautiful strong woman and you'll get through it and be happier.
Hugs,
~NDK~
I'm very sorry to hear that this is why you've been scarce. I figured your kiddos were keeping you busy and I was hoping you were doing well professionally. You can do this and better days are coming!
FWIW, I'm glad the house has officially sold. That's one less stressor on the situation.
FCB is right, we don't discriminate, so if we can help in any way, please feel free to stick around. Take care of yourself and your little ones!
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult it all is.
As I'm sure you're probably aware, I knew it was happening but didn't want to say anything on the boards when you hadn't. I don't know any of the why's if that makes you feel better.
((hugs))
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