Baby showers with each child

lillyhd · March 2010

I think all children are a gift and should be celebrated I have had 2 showers I had one with my 1st and then when I got married DH and I had a baby and it was his first we had and now 3 years later we are having a baby only thing is this baby is #3 and its a boy as is the 1st 2nd is a girl ...

what do think a 3rd shower for the 3rd baby ??

Wendy525 · March 2010

I would do that same. If someone wants to throw a shower for you, I saw enjoy this special time with your friends and family and celebrate the upcoming birth of your 3rd baby!

angelnumber8 · March 2010

I think you are right every baby should be celebrated not just your first.Whats the LO going to think when they see pics from a siblings baby shower and none from theirs.

AlishaMay · March 2010

Unless someone is willing to throw one for you, IMO it would be tacky to throw yourself a third shower.

I agree that every baby should be celebrated, but when I think of a shower, it's really more to provide the mom to be with everything she needs for the baby. Seeing as this is your third child I would imagine you have most of what you need.

I've heard of second or third time moms having someone throw them a 'sprinkle' to just get what they need for the new gender - but even this is questionable IMO. But I say a welcome baby home party after the birth would be perfectly acceptable, and you'll probably get some boy stuff without having a party specifically for gift giving.

Congrats on your 3rd!!!

lillyhd · March 2010

Thats what I thought but a good friend said she thought I was being greedy! Sad

but a different friend is throwing the shower for me

MrsH44 · March 2010

I know a lot of people feel that you should only have a shower with your first baby, but I don't agree with that. I don't think you should expect a shower when you're having a second or third (and so on), but I agree that every child should be celebrated and that a shower would be nice. I have several friends that have had showers for each of their children (especially when they are several years apart or of the opposite sex) and I think it's great! Plus I always hated having to wear/use hand me downs, so I'm going to try to avoid that for my children (within reason), I think every child is unique and special and deserves their own things.

allyandpat2010 · March 2010

Showers are mostly for receiving gifts of things you need for the baby. I am assuming you have most of that. Most people have a "sprinkle" or a "introducing baby" party once baby is born, where gifts aren't expected.

BeckyTheEngineer · March 2010

So you already decided that you are having a third shower... so what is your question?

LCB34 · March 2010

BeckyTheEngineer:
So you already decided that you are having a third shower... so what is your question?

I am curious as well.

Also, you can celebrate a baby by some means other than a baby shower. Host a meet the baby party yourself or have a small dinner with your close friends.

A full out shower for a 3rd baby is super tacky. Not b/c it is tacky to celebrate the baby but b/c it is tacky to ask to be showered with things that you already have by the time you are on baby #3.

MrsEmm · March 2010

i was embarrassed at the thought of one honestly. But my family is insisting on throwing one - so i will insist on keeping it small and be thankful. We have 2 girls and are expecting a boy as well. We have all the baby gear that we need since the last baby is only 16 mos.?

lillyhd · March 2010

we need the same things for this baby just as anyone else its been 9 years since weve had a baby boy we do have things such a swing bouncer but the other things like clothes blankets crib sheets that we still have are very girly as I have donated most if not all of my boy things .... I hadnt really decided to have a shower a friend told me she was throwing my a shower and I just accepted

LCB34 · March 2010

lillyhd:

we need the same things for this baby just as anyone else its been 9 years since weve had a baby boy we do have things such a swing bouncer but the other things like clothes blankets crib sheets that we still have are very girly as I have donated most if not all of my boy things .... I hadnt really decided to have a shower a friend told me she was throwing my a shower and I just accepted

So you were just looking for people to agree with you and assure that it isn't tacky? Not actual opinions like you asked for?

aldyn · March 2010

Unless there is a significant time gap between children, having subsequent child showers are one of the easiest ways to get a ticket to tackytown in my opinion. It's massively gift-grabby.

A "meet the baby" party at your home where no gifts are expected is a far more appropriate way to celebrate your new baby.

angelnumber8 · March 2010

I think showers should be to celebrate the baby,gifts should be what they want to buy.So by having a "sprinkle or introducing " party, that baby doesn't deserve to get gifts just cuz he is not the first.thats just wrong.Every baby needs things and expensive items should be purchased by the parents to be.My opinion

Wilwarin · March 2010

Yes, every baby should be celebrated. That does not translate into: every mom needs a shower and gifts for every baby. Have a little "meet the baby" party after you get home and don't expect gifts.

Regarding having showers for babies born years after the first, now that seems OK to me. My mom had my brother 8 years after me and her friends really thought she needed a shower.

frklsbride · March 2010

i think a "welcome baby!" party that doesn't involve presents (or where people bring diapers) would be more appropriate for a third kid.

lillyhd · March 2010

I dont want a bunch of gifts Im more interested in the food and the get together rather than the gifts themselves . I dont want people to bring gifts necassarily bc I too thought after 3 although my other children are 9 and 3 that it seems as Im asking alot Im not familiar with the "sprinkle" I was more thinking if any gifts at all a diaper shower

frklsbride · March 2010

angelnumber8:
I think showers should be to celebrate the baby,gifts should be what they want to buy.So by having a "sprinkle or introducing " party, that baby doesn't deserve to get gifts just cuz he is not the first.thats just wrong.Every baby needs things and expensive items should be purchased by the parents to be.My opinion

this is why children have birthday parties. shower gifts are for the parents, not the baby

Kailah · March 2010

I don't know...around here "showers" are less about gifts & more about taking time to be together. I know my friends/family would be disappointed if we didn't have a get together. (A friend is throwing ours) So, if that's the case, I think it is perfectly ok to have a "shower" for each baby.

lillyhd · March 2010

No I want opinions ! I feel very uncomfortable just thinking of recieving gifts for baby I would rather have a get together rather than a full blown baby shower since it is my third it just seems rude to send out invites for a shower where people think they are to bring gifts thats not what I want. I agree that every baby needs to be celebrated but a celebration doesnt require gifts So yes I wanted opinions if its tacky to have 3 baby showers and If we are to have a get together before baby what would you do and what do you call this sort of thing

allyandpat2010 · March 2010

lillyhd:

No I want opinions ! I feel very uncomfortable just thinking of recieving gifts for baby I would rather have a get together rather than a full blown baby shower since it is my third it just seems rude to send out invites for a shower where people think they are to bring gifts thats not what I want. I agree that every baby needs to be celebrated but a celebration doesnt require gifts So yes I wanted opinions if its tacky to have 3 baby showers and If we are to have a get together before baby what would you do and what do you call this sort of thing

Have a diaper party after baby is born where everyone can see him and oooh and aaahhhh. lol

Sept17.05Bride · March 2010

Baby shower for child #3= Super tacky!

lillyhd · March 2010

Thanks ladies ! I agree asking people to bring gifts the 3 time is a bit over the top a BBQ after the baby seems much less tacky and greedy However since I didnt ask for this baby shower how do I go about telling her um thanks but no thanks without seeming hurtful?

618mom22boys · March 2010

I had a shower with both DS1 and DS2 but they are 8 years apart. i was told by my MIL today that if baby #3 is a girl there will be another shower.

summerskysmom · March 2010

Hi ladies, I am also having my 3rd girl that is and was wondering about the baby shower thing. Honestly, alot of people are going through hard times right now and i don't expect them to throw me one. And, i don't feel like throwing myself a babyshower is appropriate either.( I had to make a comment to my MIL about this one- asking when my next baby shower was) I agree on the celebration of a new one, but i feel like if i do have another baby shower it is like being greedy. I still have the baby items from my two other daughters. I like the idea of a welcome home baby/ meet baby party instead.

babyblueize314 · March 2010

I think if someone throws a shower for you, you shouldn't register. Theres no reason to ask people for big ticket items when you still have them from the last baby. If they choose to attend, let them bring what they want.

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