Unpopular opinion Thursday!

NFL_Wife · March 2010

Ok ladies, let's hear those unpopular opinions!!! And make them good this week!! Wink

CW<3JW · March 2010

I'm extremely jealous at the number of women having their babies this week. Only because I feel like it's my turn. And most of them were not due until after me.

I am happy for them, but pitying myself!

NFL_Wife · March 2010

No one has any opinions today?? Ok, I'll start...

I think it is ridiculous when I hear soon to be moms talking about packing tons of makeup, hair products, blow dryers, etc in their hospital bags. You are going there to have a freaking baby, not a beauty contest! I understand wanting to look descent, but seriously? After having DS I was so tired/amazed/etc that I didn't care what I looked like. I sure as hell wasn't going to spend lots of time with someone else holding my hours-old child so I could make myself pretty.

greengirl0909 · March 2010

Here we go: I think it's terrible when gals come on here and rip on their DH/SO. Wouldn't it hurt your feelings if he was somewhere complaining about you whining about your feet or cramps? Don't you love this person? Didn't you pledge to be with him for better or worse? Even when my DH does something that grumpifies me, I'm not going to burn him on a public board, even if they are all strangers. I just find it disrespectful.

Furthermore, I get so frustrated with those ladies with a SO and have been in the relationship just a short time and are SHOCKED when he turns out to be jerk, doesn't care about the baby, stops coming around, and so on. Seriously? You're shocked by this? Some older/married men can't handle the responsibility of fatherhood, you really thought the guy you'd been dating 3 months was going to step up?

DorisLevine · March 2010

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

MCC1010 · March 2010

I find it ridiculous when women write extensive birthing plans nitpicking every freaking detail of the birth of thier baby. Like you are really going to be concerned about the scent in the room or what music is playing when you are in the labor. I saw someone complain about making sure they had non-smoking nurses only. Come on!

ktsnshn · March 2010

I hate all the flaming and negative comments. Seriously, if you read something that you don't agree with, can't you just keep you mouth shut and move on?

Calypso312 · March 2010

I think it's irresponsible to have a child with someone if you're not married to them. Children need stability and security and I just feel like a marriage provides more of that than a non-married relationship.

babyinhbg · March 2010

I cant stand ladies who complain when they learn all about labor BEFORE they even have the baby. Didn't you relaize when you got pregnant that eventually you got to get the baby out...by whatever means!

blckwhtyllwgirl · March 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:
Here we go: I think it's terrible when gals come on here and rip on their DH/SO. Wouldn't it hurt your feelings if he was somewhere complaining about you whining about your feet or cramps? Don't you love this person? Didn't you pledge to be with him for better or worse? Even when my DH does something that grumpifies me, I'm not going to burn him on a public board, even if they are all strangers. I just find it disrespectful.

Furthermore, I get so frustrated with those ladies with a SO and have been in the relationship just a short time and are SHOCKED when he turns out to be jerk, doesn't care about the baby, stops coming around, and so on. Seriously? You're shocked by this? Some older/married men can't handle the responsibility of fatherhood, you really thought the guy you'd been dating 3 months was going to step up?

Totally agree with this! DH frustrates me sometimes, but some of the things I see ladies post really surprises me.

CashewsMommy · March 2010

DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

I think 3D ultrasounds pictures are creepy. I really think all babies in them are super creepy looking. I know that if I get one done, i'll think the same thing about my own child too.

NFL_Wife · March 2010

I think I might have posted this last week too, but I cannot stand when women come on here and say they are being induced/getting a procedure/having a section/etc "because their doc said I could" or "I don't know why, its what my doctor said to do..."

It's called INFORMED consent ladies. It's your body and your baby. Of course we should trust the doctors, they are the experts and that's why they are there. However, it is YOUR responsibility to become educated and ask questions. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do, including unnecessary medical procedures.

It's just amazing to me that women can be so passive about their own bodies and babies.

StrawberryAlarmClock · March 2010

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

ali_bl-nov05 · March 2010

I think it is dumb to wait until he baby is born to name him/her. Are you honestly going to look ar your baby and think "I don't think he looks like an Isaac, after all", who does??!! how much of his/her personality will you be able to grasp on a few hours so that you can name your kid accordingly?, seriously...

NFL_Wife · March 2010

CashewsMommy:
DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

I think 3D ultrasounds pictures are creepy. I really think all babies in them are super creepy looking. I know that if I get one done, i'll think the same thing about my own child too.

ITA about the 3D u/s. It especially makes me laugh when people say they can tell LO has their nose, or DH's ears or whatever, just from the pic. All babies look like little aliens in there!!!

BabyH2010 · March 2010

I don't like looking at myself in the mirror anymore. DH, MIL, my mother, etc. all keep saying how I'm a beautiful pregnant lady - but I just don't feel it. Sometimes I cry in the bathtub when I see my swollen feet, and the other day I had a meltdown when I dropped a magazine and didn't want to bend over to pick it up. I don't want to be selfish - but I'm starting to be "over" this pregnancy..... I'm not cut out to do this to my body.

ChristinaD09 · March 2010

CashewsMommy:
DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

I think 3D ultrasounds pictures are creepy. I really think all babies in them are super creepy looking. I know that if I get one done, i'll think the same thing about my own child too.

I agree. But I finally gave in to DH's wishes so we're getting one done today. And I'm totally going to post them all over facebook immediately, despite how much I hate looking at them myself. I know I'll just be that excited to show off which one of us he looks like...

MCC1010 · March 2010

StrawberryAlarmClock:

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

You need a $5 dollar license to fish for god'sake!!!!

tdenen · March 2010

DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

THIS!!! I don't understand half of it! I get so frustrated when I open a post that is nothing but a bunch of letters! WORDS PEOPLE! Big Smile

misscharlotte04 · March 2010

I kind of have a two in one...

I think since I was referred to have growth ultrasounds then what the Dr "estimates" my baby's weight to be at - I am not going to second guess them. They are the medical professional and have to use their skills and the technology available to them to make their best assesment. I see lots of people who are all "don't believe them, they are off" Well, if I can't believe what my Dr/Techs tell me, then why the heck do we have Dr appointments?

This ties into the whole recommending a c-section due to size of the baby (and I was on the fence last week about it, but have thought about my risks and options). I was told by my Dr I have cephalopelvic disproportion and has all along told me I have a "larger than average baby". He is the Dr, he is the one who went to medical school and has delivered hundreds of babies, and yes even though I would ultimately like to try for a vaginal delivery - if my Dr (who I chose and should trust) is recommending a c-section for the health and safety of my baby, I am going to listen to him.

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babyinhbg · March 2010

BabyH2010:
I don't like looking at myself in the mirror anymore. DH, MIL, my mother, etc. all keep saying how I'm a beautiful pregnant lady - but I just don't feel it. Sometimes I cry in the bathtub when I see my swollen feet, and the other day I had a meltdown when I dropped a magazine and didn't want to bend over to pick it up. I don't want to be selfish - but I'm starting to be "over" this pregnancy..... I'm not cut out to do this to my body.

babyinhbg · March 2010

BabyH2010:
I don't like looking at myself in the mirror anymore. DH, MIL, my mother, etc. all keep saying how I'm a beautiful pregnant lady - but I just don't feel it. Sometimes I cry in the bathtub when I see my swollen feet, and the other day I had a meltdown when I dropped a magazine and didn't want to bend over to pick it up. I don't want to be selfish - but I'm starting to be "over" this pregnancy..... I'm not cut out to do this to my body.

claire1983 · March 2010

StrawberryAlarmClock:

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

This exactly, except take out the 'horrible'. I think if that could be done, it would be great!! You have to pass a test to drive but anybody can become responsible for another little human's life.

rackel411 · March 2010

I think all of the "should I call my doctor..." posts are rather silly. YES! Ladies on this board are very helpful, but if you are in doubt don't spend the time posting a concern and waiting for a response. Doctors went to school for this! They deal with it all the time. Call them! That's what you are paying them the big bucks for, right?

ChristinaD09 · March 2010

NFL_Wife:
CashewsMommy:
DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

I think 3D ultrasounds pictures are creepy. I really think all babies in them are super creepy looking. I know that if I get one done, i'll think the same thing about my own child too.

ITA about the 3D u/s. It especially makes me laugh when people say they can tell LO has their nose, or DH's ears or whatever, just from the pic. All babies look like little aliens in there!!!

I definitely think they all look like aliens when its not your own. But I do think you can sometimes tell features that are really prominent. My ultrasound tech at 20 weeks said our baby had incredibly long fingers--so he got my fingers instead of DH's short, stubby ones. That's kinda cool to know! We'll see what I think of the one today, but my co-worker told me yesterday that when her sis had a 3D one done (they just had a baby), that it was shocking how much you could tell.

babyinhbg · March 2010

BabyH2010:
I don't like looking at myself in the mirror anymore. DH, MIL, my mother, etc. all keep saying how I'm a beautiful pregnant lady - but I just don't feel it. Sometimes I cry in the bathtub when I see my swollen feet, and the other day I had a meltdown when I dropped a magazine and didn't want to bend over to pick it up. I don't want to be selfish - but I'm starting to be "over" this pregnancy..... I'm not cut out to do this to my body.

Ditto, love my little on to death but im starting to miss my old clothes...and im only 10 lbs heavier but feel like 50 lbs

penelopepink09 · March 2010

Let's see... I don't want anyone... not a single soul... to visit me and LO after we come home from the hospital for atleast the first 3-4 days. I am going to have my hands full with a newborn and DD who's almost 3... I will be in NO mood to entertain guests whatsoever. If I need the help, I will ask for it, but I will probably lose my *** if people just pop in as often as they do now. I can't tell you how many people show up to my house unannounced no matter how many times I've asked them to call first. They'll be getting a rude awakening when I either A. Don't answer the door, or B. Scream in their face to leave me the hell alone.

But after those first few days, I'll be welcoming visitors.

three4me · March 2010

NFL_Wife:
CashewsMommy:
DorisLevine:

1. I hate most of the abbreviations on The Bump, esp. DH, DS, DD, etc. I refuse to use them and just say "husband" or "kid" or "son".

2. I think ultrasound pictures are creepy.

I think 3D ultrasounds pictures are creepy. I really think all babies in them are super creepy looking. I know that if I get one done, i'll think the same thing about my own child too.

ITA about the 3D u/s. It especially makes me laugh when people say they can tell LO has their nose, or DH's ears or whatever, just from the pic. All babies look like little aliens in there!!!

I also agree with the 3D/4D u/s. I don't necessarily think they look creepy but I do think all the babies look alike.

silverrox15 · March 2010

MCC1010:
StrawberryAlarmClock:

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

You need a $5 dollar license to fish for god'sake!!!!

this is totally unrelated but ours is 15$! man im jealous of the 5 $.

ok i hate how i was slightly overweight PP (well 15lbs i guess that isnt too slight) and my doc said i can only gain 15lbs during this pregnancy. now im up to 8lbs and cry everytime i get on the scale and panic before appointments worrying that im going to gain more and more weight and that he will yell at me or something...

tanstaett · March 2010

guppysown@yahoo.com:

Here we go: I think it's terrible when gals come on here and rip on their DH/SO. Wouldn't it hurt your feelings if he was somewhere complaining about you whining about your feet or cramps? Don't you love this person? Didn't you pledge to be with him for better or worse? Even when my DH does something that grumpifies me, I'm not going to burn him on a public board, even if they are all strangers. I just find it disrespectful.

Furthermore, I get so frustrated with those ladies with a SO and have been in the relationship just a short time and are SHOCKED when he turns out to be jerk, doesn't care about the baby, stops coming around, and so on. Seriously? You're shocked by this? Some older/married men can't handle the responsibility of fatherhood, you really thought the guy you'd been dating 3 months was going to step up?

I totally agree with this. I think it makes a woman look extremely low when they publicly flame their SO. DH and I definitely have our moments, but I never complain about him to others. I am in a marriage with him and we work out our issues between the two of us. I would be extremely crushed if my husband was talking about me in a negative way to his friends/family/or on public boards, I am sure that most woman would feel the same way.

rlscheck · March 2010

I hate it when some pregnant women are so non-chalant about gaining too much weight.

1. Excess fat does damage to your body whether you want to believe that or not.

2. If you do lose all the extra fat you don't undo the damage that it does.

3. You are not guaranteed to lose it all after the pregnancy. I hate this myth

I hate it even more when women assume their doctors are judging them by gaining too much or are trying to make them feel bad. Um, your doctor is looking out for your health and your babies. Get over it.

claire1983 · March 2010

tanstaett:
guppysown@yahoo.com:

Here we go: I think it's terrible when gals come on here and rip on their DH/SO. Wouldn't it hurt your feelings if he was somewhere complaining about you whining about your feet or cramps? Don't you love this person? Didn't you pledge to be with him for better or worse? Even when my DH does something that grumpifies me, I'm not going to burn him on a public board, even if they are all strangers. I just find it disrespectful.

Furthermore, I get so frustrated with those ladies with a SO and have been in the relationship just a short time and are SHOCKED when he turns out to be jerk, doesn't care about the baby, stops coming around, and so on. Seriously? You're shocked by this? Some older/married men can't handle the responsibility of fatherhood, you really thought the guy you'd been dating 3 months was going to step up?

I totally agree with this. I think it makes a woman look extremely low when they publicly flame their SO. DH and I definitely have our moments, but I never complain about him to others. I am in a marriage with him and we work out our issues between the two of us. I would be extremely crushed if my husband was talking about me in a negative way to his friends/family/or on public boards, I am sure that most woman would feel the same way.

I agree with this and I disagree as well. I don't think I have ever aired any serious grievance about my hubby but I don't always think it's a problem when others do either. I am lucky that I can discuss things with my DH when we have issues but some women aren't as lucky in their relationships and have to talk to others and since most of us have no idea who we are in real life or know who their SO's are...it's not like telling airing your dirty laundry is going to come back to haunt you right?

greengirl0909 · March 2010

StrawberryAlarmClock:

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

I LOVE this idea. I know, it'd never fly and there would be tons of complications and I would hate some of the restrictions it would put on us, but man there are lots of reasons to support it!

kelcat · March 2010

NFL_Wife:
No one has any opinions today?? Ok, I'll start...

I think it is ridiculous when I hear soon to be moms talking about packing tons of makeup, hair products, blow dryers, etc in their hospital bags. You are going there to have a freaking baby, not a beauty contest! I understand wanting to look descent, but seriously? After having DS I was so tired/amazed/etc that I didn't care what I looked like. I sure as hell wasn't going to spend lots of time with someone else holding my hours-old child so I could make myself pretty.

I totally agree with you. I think if I manage to remember to brush my hair and teeth that will be a huge accomplishment!

I also really can't stand when girls complain about the thought of having a c-section. My mom and I had this discussion yesterday (she is a former L & D nurse). If I have a c-section it will be totally fine. I don't know any dr that would just say lets cut you open and get this kid out. Most drs will not do a c-section unless it is necessary for one reason or another. I know this is a very unpopular view, but I don't care.

MCC1010 · March 2010

I hate the personal attacks on people. i think they are pointless. You do not know this person just because you both post on a public board. I hate the judgmental bitchy comments for no reason other than to be bitchy. If you have a point to make - make it without insulting the other person. I don't see why that is so hard?

Also you opinion is no more important than anyone elses. You are not an expert regardless of how many kids you have or don't have. get over yourself.

vanverth · March 2010

The little girls who get on her and are living with their parents or in-laws and the complain because they want them to do something around the house. I am 40 years old, I work 40 hours a week, drive 30 minutes to and from work, supervise 6 people, do psychotherapy 7 hours a day, and then have to go home and do the chores that are needed to do at home. (TG hubby has taken over the cooking) and they are whining because they are asked to do something around the house. Or, God forbid, someone is telling them how to be pregnant or raise this child. If you are living under someone's roof and paying no bills, that is your rent, listening to them give you unwaited advise. Don't like it, don't get pregnant without a means to support yourself or get out of their house. Then you can do stuff your way.

MrsWindyCity · March 2010

When I see what some women on here are eating for dinner/throughout the day, I am seriously amazed they haven't gained like 75 lbs. Of course, part of that could be jealousy considering I eat one thin mint and the scale shoots up a lb automatically.

If I have to scroll through your sig, it's too long. And one pregnancy ticker is enough.

CalMum_Momma · March 2010

I agree about the bitchiness and cliquiness that seems to be pervasive on the bump. Sometimes I feel like people haven't gotten out of middle school mode! What happened to treating people with dignity and respect!? If you don't have anything nice to say, then REALLY don't say anythings at all! Saying something like "This doesn't even deserve a response", or "I really have nothing nice to say about this", is just as rude as saying what you really think. We're all pregnant, and all have our bad days, so lets try and be a little nicer to each other, and patient with each other, k?

misscharlotte04 · March 2010

MCC1010:

I hate the personal attacks on people. i think they are pointless. You do not know this person just because you both post on a public board. I hate the judgmental bitchy comments for no reason other than to be bitchy. If you have a point to make - make it without insulting the other person. I don't see why that is so hard?

Also you opinion is no more important than anyone elses. You are not an expert regardless of how many kids you have or don't have. get over yourself.

Yes

CalMum_Momma · March 2010

silverrox15:
MCC1010:
StrawberryAlarmClock:

I think we should all be given Norplant at puberty and you have to take some classes to get it removed: Nutrition, Parenting, Home Economics, etc....

OK...not really. That's a HORRIBLE thing to do to people, but it does stink that the single most important job on the planet requires zero training and any idiot is allowed to do it.

You need a $5 dollar license to fish for god'sake!!!!

this is totally unrelated but ours is 15$! man im jealous of the 5 $.

ok i hate how i was slightly overweight PP (well 15lbs i guess that isnt too slight) and my doc said i can only gain 15lbs during this pregnancy. now im up to 8lbs and cry everytime i get on the scale and panic before appointments worrying that im going to gain more and more weight and that he will yell at me or something...

The fishing license post caught my attention too...they are over $20 now for us!!! I wish I could fish for $5!!

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