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How long will you wait...

creed612creed612
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...after delivery to take LO to a family get together?  My EDD is 3/25, and we are already being harassed about coming to Easter Dinner.  DH and I both are thinking that we want to just stay home this year since Easter is only 10 days later (and yes, I know that I might not go on my EDD).  But still, how soon is too soon to expose LO to the rest of the world?
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  • babycranebabycrane
    My doctor won't let me leave my house for two weeks after the baby is born. I am glad about that too. I don't want to bring my baby out till about 2-3 weeks after she is born. This is your decision. Don't let anyone pressure you at all. If you don't want to go, I don't think you should. Parents know best right?
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  • Married2003Married2003 member
    If the weather is nice and the LO is healthy, I'd take it to family's.  After a week being home, I'd want to venture out.
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  • mbtortormbtortor

    Not to mention that you may be too tired/sore to deal with all that.  Even if you can avoid all the relatives harassing the baby, you really may  not be up to it.  The first 2 weeks are tough and you're exhausted.  I tore and had hemeroids so I was really uncomfortable too.

    We're playing Easter by ear... Depending on when the baby is actually born and how I feel.  Can you be tetative until you have a better idea what things are going to be like? Also, is it a big dinner- how many family members? Will you be able to sit on the couch and rest if you decide to go? 

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  • Erika6504Erika6504
    How many people will be there?  I took DD to Thanksgiving at my brother's house when she was 9 days old.  It was just immediate family and not a big deal.  I don't consider immediate family "the rest of the world".
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  • pRCaGDpRCaGD
    my uncle is a doctor and made a big stink about us not letting anyone near LO for 8-12 weeks because he just doesn't have the immune system to protect himself yet.  I thought that was quite extreme.  On the other hand, only 10 days is the other extreme.
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  • Dec31stBrideDec31stBride

    You know, I think it really depends on several variables -

    LOs health - if baby is born healthy / no major complications, I say go for it

    How far do you have to travel for Easter dinner? Closer is better!!

    How many people will be there? Does anyone have a cold?

    How exhausted are you and DH? 10 days in - you'll probably be super tired - try for an early dinner and early departure (or take a nap while everyone passes around the baby!).

    DS was born in the winter. I totally forget when we took him to someone's house, but we had a steady stream of visitors at home, and he got passed around quite a bit.

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  • karenza27karenza27
    i wont be taking LO anywhere except to her dr apps until after 6wks. she is the most important thing and i want her to be healthy. i think family will stop by our house for easter since they dont want us to take baby out either. i hope they are not expecting food or anything...
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  • AllieJeanAllieJean
    It really depends. I will not take LO to DH's family right away because there are sooo many young kids there and they all like to be right in a baby's face. My family has mostly kids in middle school and older who would be a bit calmer and not be in my kids face if they were sick.
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  • IrishBrideNDIrishBrideND member
    We will go to Easter, but it will just be my mom and step dad and one other couple I view as grandparents. It won't be a big thing.
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  • KKWISCKKWISC member
    I would not decide anything until the day before the get together. I have a couple family events between 1-3 weeks after EDD and I'm not promising anything. It all depends on how me and LO feel that day.
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  • bakedlaurabeanbakedlaurabean member
    Depending on how I am feeling, I would take LO. It's just a family gathering at one of their houses, so it should be fine. Then again, it depends on how big your family is. Our family gatherings are not very big, so I would be comfortable with that.
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  • lucisparentslucisparents member
    My family lives 4hrs away, but we plan to visit one month after my EDD. In your case I would go if LO is 14 days old, just in case.
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member
    Not a decision I'm making ahead of time. I'll see how I'm feeling and how the baby is doing. We'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
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  • JennicapJennicap member
    Our first event is my niece's first communion May 8th, due date is April 6th so cookie will be 2-4 weeks old unless I go early. I also plan on wearing the baby the entire time

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  • MelonieKMelonieK
    We took DD1 out when she was 6 days old.  One week checkup, lunch out at our favorite Mexican restaurant, and a visit to the grandparents'.  It was a great day, but I was completely worn out by the time we got home.
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  • LeighAnne1941LeighAnne1941

    I plan on having a meet the baby for my extended family the weekend after we get home from the hospital.  It will be at my house and I will do very little besides sit there and visit.

    Given that DD is in daycare I figure it will be germ central from day 1 at our house.

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  • AlishaRichelleAlishaRichelle

    We will probably go to a few Easter get togethers (each of our families and our priest invited us over), but I am planning on wearing DD for most of the time and not really letting people hold her.

    Of course, it all depends on how we are both doing at that point.  She'll be 2-3 weeks old.

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  • MrsWindyCityMrsWindyCity member
    We're not planning on going anywhere for a while. There is NO way we will even attempt Easter (if LO even comes on time, that is). There's a better chance we will visit my ILs 2 hours away than my family, who is 6 hours away, but I think mostly people will be coming to us for a while. 
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  • MontrealWingMontrealWing
    We went to Starbucks on the way home from the hospital with DS. We went out to lunch the following day and dinner every day after that. I had no problems exposing DS to the world and will do the same with this LO.
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  • jacquelinethornejacquelinethorne
    We went to family get togethers right after each of our babies were born. I am incredibly picky about people touching our babies and our families are really understanding that I'm a total germophobe. They're great about washing their hands before they hold our baby and since I have breastfed our babies, I have always had the option to demand baby back and claim it is to nurse. That's the other bonus of nursing, baby gets great immunities from mommy! If you're not comfortable taking baby out to Easter dinner then you shouldn't feel like you have to. Do what works for you, DH and LO.
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  • CalMum_MommaCalMum_Momma
    We have already been invited to a family gathering the weekend after LO is due, but the hosts are totally understanding that we may not be attending. They do have an LO of their own who is almost 1 year old, so they get it. No harrassment from anyone else.
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  • stefani19stefani19
    i said no family or vistors for a week after the birth.. so me and my husband can have quility time with LO! After that people are free to come and visit and clean my house lol
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  • cajungirl0717cajungirl0717

    My EDD is 4/4. I already told my family that I would not be driving in for just a weekend since I leave work at 4:30 and get to family 4 hours away at 8:45 at night. It won't be that quick with a newborn. So Memorial Day is at the end of May, depending on how she is doing. If not, 4th of July.

    Now as far as rest of the world, probably when pediatrician says its ok.

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