Drinking and Children Clicky!

SurveySays · March 2010

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princess101 · March 2010

Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

weelass24 · March 2010

I'm caught in between a house where alcohol was rarely consumed and the European way of dealing with it and a drinking age of 18 and where is it totally acceptable for your 8 year old to understand what drunk and a hang over are.

MNgirl326 · March 2010

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

Emie28 · March 2010

abartow:

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

I do not think your kids need to see you drinking in order to teach them to drink responsibly. Neither my parents nor dh's drank in front of us growing up, but we were taught to be responsible people and our parents talked to us about drinking responsibly.

With that said, I think that having a glass of wine with dinner from time to time is not going to be a big deal in our house, but we probably won't drink much else in front of our kids.

princess101 · March 2010

abartow:
princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

The same way I think I can teach them to be responsible about pot (or not do it at all) without me having to smoke it occasionally.

I think you can teach kids without having to do something yourself. If my kids see me with a glass of wine, fine...but getting drunk or drinking socially with my kids around isn't for me. I think it makes it enticing to kids to want to be like you when they see you having fun drinking and being stupid.

MNgirl326 · March 2010

Emie28:
abartow:

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

I do not think your kids need to see you drinking in order to teach them to drink responsibly. Neither my parents nor dh's drank in front of us growing up, but we were taught to be responsible people and our parents talked to us about drinking responsibly.

With that said, I think that having a glass of wine with dinner from time to time is not going to be a big deal in our house, but we probably won't drink much else in front of our kids.

makes sense. For me, I grew up with parents who did not drink in access, but they did have an occasial glass of wine or other drink. So, that is how I was taught to drink, by watching them drink and being responsbile about it.

Like I said, what ever works for you.

MNgirl326 · March 2010

princess101:
abartow:

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

The same way I think I can teach them to be responsible about pot (or not do it at all) without me having to smoke it occasionally.

I think you can teach kids without having to do something yourself. If my kids see me with a glass of wine, fine...but getting drunk or drinking socially with my kids around isn't for me. I think it makes it enticing to kids to want to be like you when they see you having fun drinking and being stupid.

Point taken

WinsyWade · March 2010

princess101:
abartow:

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

The same way I think I can teach them to be responsible about pot (or not do it at all) without me having to smoke it occasionally.

I think you can teach kids without having to do something yourself. If my kids see me with a glass of wine, fine...but getting drunk or drinking socially with my kids around isn't for me. I think it makes it enticing to kids to want to be like you when they see you having fun drinking and being stupid.

Pot is illeagal. There is nothing responsible about smoking it in front of your children or not. I don't understand how drinking relates to smoking pot. It's apples to oranges.

princess101 · March 2010

WinsyWade:
princess101:
abartow:

princess101:
Other- I don't think you should have alcohol around kids period. Even as teenagers. I think you can drink outside the home or when your kids are sleeping or when they're being watched by someone else. I don't plan to have alcohol around my kids.

I am not judging, I think whatever works for you is fine and I am not going to tell you what to do.

I just have a question. How do you plan to teach your kids how to be a responsiblie drinker if they never see you drink responsibly? I am just curious.

The same way I think I can teach them to be responsible about pot (or not do it at all) without me having to smoke it occasionally.

I think you can teach kids without having to do something yourself. If my kids see me with a glass of wine, fine...but getting drunk or drinking socially with my kids around isn't for me. I think it makes it enticing to kids to want to be like you when they see you having fun drinking and being stupid.

Pot is illeagal. There is nothing responsible about smoking it in front of your children or not. I don't understand how drinking relates to smoking pot. It's apples to oranges.

It's illegal for now. It is so common where we live and in many areas that I think it has to be addressed as an intoxicating substance just like alcohol does. Both impair you and both are a problem.

I don't think it's apples to oranges just because one is technically illegal.

GBCK · March 2010

I think the evidence in the studies I've read pretty firmly on the side of moderation and exposure...

I think never letting kids see you drink creates a 'forbidden fruit' aspect that's nore dangerous than them seeing adults enjoying something responsibly.

But to a certain extent, I always consider this a 'whatever lifts your skirt' thing as long as people don't smack my glass of wine out of my hand, act like idiots, or feed Beauford rum and coke.

princess101 · March 2010

GBCK:
I think the evidence in the studies I've read pretty firmly on the side of moderation and exposure...
I think never letting kids see you drink creates a 'forbidden fruit' aspect that's nore dangerous than them seeing adults enjoying something responsibly.
But to a certain extent, I always consider this a 'whatever lifts your skirt' thing as long as people don't smack my glass of wine out of my hand, act like idiots, or feed Beauford rum and coke.

I agree with the forbidden fruit thing and like I said, I don't mind if my child sees me with a glass of wine at dinner but putting alcohol into a party type setting is not for me. I don't think saying it's "an adult only type thing" helps either because it makes it more appealing to kids as well. I think it depends what context you're drinking in.

EaglesGirl65 · March 2010

Drinking is also a cultural thing. Some parts of the country (and world) are very accepting, others frown upon it.

I grew up with a family that would drink casually and socially. It was never an issue. Mom and dad would have wine or rum in their hot cider because they were old enough to and we weren't. End of story. I accidentally drank out of my dad's cider once when I was young. Ick! Getting a chug of Captain when you are eight and aren't expecting it is terrible. Apparently I started to cry because it tasted like mouth wash.

charlies-angel · March 2010

princess101:
GBCK:

I agree with the forbidden fruit thing and like I said, I don't mind if my child sees me with a glass of wine at dinner but putting alcohol into a party type setting is not for me. I don't think saying it's "an adult only type thing" helps either because it makes it more appealing to kids as well. I think it depends what context you're drinking in.

I guess I am confused by your first post. I thought you said that parents should only drink when their kids are asleep or not around...and that alcohol should not be around children at all...period? But wine at dinner is ok? Maybe I missed something.

Either way, I don't see a problem with having a drink or having alcohol in the house when you have children. I don't plan to get drunk in front of them though.

princess101 · March 2010

charlies-angel:
princess101:
GBCK:

I agree with the forbidden fruit thing and like I said, I don't mind if my child sees me with a glass of wine at dinner but putting alcohol into a party type setting is not for me. I don't think saying it's "an adult only type thing" helps either because it makes it more appealing to kids as well. I think it depends what context you're drinking in.

I guess I am confused by your first post. I thought you said that parents should only drink when their kids are asleep or not around...and that alcohol should not be around children at all...period? But wine at dinner is ok? Maybe I missed something.

Either way, I don't see a problem with having a drink or having alcohol in the house when you have children. I don't plan to get drunk in front of them though.

I know, it came off wrong. I meant in a party type setting or fun social drinking type of setting. That's never ok with me. A casual drink at dinner is ok. I just don't think getting drunk in front of kids is ever ok.

caffinated_tulip · March 2010

When I grew up, there was always alcohol in the house. Dad had a rum and coke and a cigar on the deck every night when the weather was warm and when there were barbeques there were always beers and margaritas. I never saw either of my parents drunk (though I do recall my mother having a hangover once or twice).

What I think saved me a lot, especially in college was that drinking was never taboo. I was always allowed to drink with my parents if I wanted to. At home, and under close supervision. I just never wanted to. Occasionally I'd have a mudslide but that was about it.

Drinking was never a big deal to me, and to this day, I don't drink but a little bit every now and again. I never snuck booze around or flew off the handle .

I plan on handling alcohol the same way around my kids.

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