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Help with getting others to understand

Hi Ladies

I have prenatal depression and I have started seeing a therapist and have an appointment with a psychologist who specializes in treating it. But my problem is my baby's father (he was my boyfriend but we are separated right now). I don't know how to get him to understand how I was acting was because of the depression and it wasn't me. I tried sending him articles and explaining my situation to him but nothing is working. He says he doesn't know if he can trust me now because when I was really bad and at my worse I left to go stay with my sister because I freaked out. I was also told that I have a higher risk of PPD and not having his support now and the thought of having PPD and not having his support then is making it even worse for me. 

Does anyone have any suggestions? How did some of your s/o handle your prenatal depression or ppd? 


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Re: Help with getting others to understand

  • i'd take him to your next appointment.  PPD is mental illness, not just a sad feeling.  if hearing it from a health professional doesn't help him understand then you need to re-configure your support team with people who will actually SUPPORT you. 

    speaking of support, i found a PPD support group to be so very helpful.  there were some PG ladies there so it's not just for those who've given birth.  google around or ask your dr if there is one near you.



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  • I agree with the PP. You HAVE to surround yourself with people who are supportive, this is something that doesn't just go away on it's own. I spent way too long talking with a friend who was unsupportive and I think it made my situation worse. I think having him come to your next appt. is such a good idea, if he is willing. My DH came to an appt with me and said afterwards he understood so much better.
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  • I had a lot of problems with this. My husband thought I just simply need to relax and my depression would go away. I go to a psychiatrist and take medication for my anxiety and depression. My husband still doesn't agree with it, but I have learned to accept that he may never will. I get support from my mom, aunt and a friend if I am having issues about depression. I would find a group of people to support you during hard times. Hopefully your significant other will come around
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