MIL taking time off work??

KaliBali04 · February 2010

Is your MIL taking time off work when the baby comes? I overheard her talking to DH today (not a secret conversation or anything), but she was talking about how she was going to talk time off work when the baby arrived.

This is my first, so I might be WAY off base, but I always imagined our first couple of weeks at home to be just me and DH. Of course, we'll have visitors and such, but by no means would I expect people to be taking off work!

MIL lives less that a 1/2 hour from us, so it's not like she is traveling to see the baby or anything.

In a fit of rage I told him that he better tell her not to take off work because I'm not going to feel guilty if she's sitting at home wasting her time off. ANybody in a similar situation? How are you dealing with it? (I don't know if MIL realizes this is her grandbaby, not HER baby)

TxTeacher · February 2010

MIL was not there when DS was born, and this time around she told me she has taken the ENTIRE MONTH of April off--I'm due April 11!! She lives about 2.5 hours away, and I think she is planning on staying a couple of weeks. I think she feels bad bc I don't have my mom--she passed away almost 11 years ago.

krstokes · February 2010

Actually I've heard of quite a few grandmothers doing this. I'd go BSC if mine did, but to each their own. If MIL wants to take time off she probably will regardless what your DH tells her. In any event I would go ahead and put guidelines down for visitation and drop-ins before LO comes. That way confrontations and unexpected pop-ins wont happen.

jescgrl · February 2010

Yes, she is. This is our 2nd so she is taking time off to be an extra set of hands. She is only taking a few days off b/c she is the only one in her position at her work... but those days it'll be great to have her!

IrishBrideND · February 2010

MIl and FIL will both take at least a few days off. They live about 8 hours away so if they want to see LO they essentially have to.

They won't stay with us though.

coey03 · February 2010

yes, 1 or 2 weeks. DH is home the first two weeks after the baby arrives, so we set up guidelines around no extended visits during those first 2 weeks. After that she'll stay with us for 1-2 weeks.

Pearlgirl · February 2010

I actually asked my MIL to take a couple days off work. She has 60 sick days so she had plenty of time. This is my third and I am having a c-section. She is going to watch my daughter and son at home for me while I have the c-section so that my husband and mom can be at the hospital. I have to be in the hospital for four days so having her around will make things a lot easier I kknow with vaginal births the recovery isn't as brutal but with c-sections, you definately need all the hands you can get. Technically I won't be able to pick up either of my older kids for about 6 weeks after but I think I realistically will probably pick them up much sooner out of neccessity.

Danikat15 · February 2010

Well, I'm in a unique situation. My mom and grandpop will be driving down sometime next week and will be staying with us for a couple of weeks. But they like 16 hours away.

I figure that I will be happy to get the help and will be very sad to see them leave.

greeneyes9800 · February 2010

MIL didn't want to be called until after DD was born. They didn't even want to know I was in labor. They visited the day after she was born, in the hospital. Then the day after we came home, they visited again. After that, she didn't even call for three weeks!!!!!!!!!!!! It might have something to do with the fact that I screamed at her when she almost dropped DD. But still, she should have at least called to check on her own son.

kpadlick · February 2010

I know EXACTLY how you feel! My MIL told my hubby that she already requested the week off when I am due and that she will take more time off if needed. And she only lives 10 minutes away from us. I told him that she is going to be disappointed to be spending the week at home by herself, because she is not going to be spending our first week home with baby at our house! She has also told me and DH in front of other people "I WILL be in the room when the baby is born but don't worry I will stay by your head". Needless to say she will NOT be in there. The way I see it, it's your baby so don't be afraid to stand your ground.

Shortcake2675 · February 2010

My mom and stepmom are each coming for a week around when the baby is born. We live 1500 miles away, so they aren't planning to be here for the birth.

My MIL is coming for 2 WEEKS!! in July, which is freaking me out a little. But I'm sure it will be fine.

MH is hoping to not use all his vacation time when the baby comes (this does not upset me), so I'm welcoming the help from my mom and stepmom.

lucisparents · February 2010

Yes she is...that's what I get for giving her a grandbaby.

laumholl · February 2010

My mom is taking a week off to help out...which I am eternally grateful for since this is our first. MIL lives about 5 minutes away and her work is maybe 10-15 minutes away so there's really no need for her to take off all day since my mom will be here.

IrishBrideND · February 2010

Honestly I'm looking forward to the help...from my mom and MIL. I'll take whatever I can get.

MCC1010 · February 2010

my MIL has decided to retire from teaching as she now has a "grandchild to play with." My in laws live over 4 hours a day so I have no idea how she is planning on pulling that off. Don't get me wrong I want her to see her grandchild and be involved but there is no way I want them here ALL the time,

Emily88 · February 2010

My MIL told my SIL that she would QUIT HER JOB if I needed her to babysit or something. She lives 1.5 hours away. I don't know her plans for after the baby is born but I'm a little nervous!

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