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BabyBalogh
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Expectant Mothers Parking VENT
BabyBalogh
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Ok, last night DH and I went to Meijer, and as we are pulling into our parking spot I notice that one of the "moms" in one of the 3 total expectant mothers spots had parked like an a$$, and I was laughing about it...the next thing I see is a man walking towards the spot....I thought "ok, maybe his pregnant wife is in the car..." which would still be crappy since HE was the one going into the store, not the pregnant woman who the spot is made for, but still, i'm trying to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. Nope! NO ONE else is with him. Just himself, being selfish and taking the expectant mother's spot--how rude. I wouldn't ever take a handicap spot, he shouldn't take our spots! It made me soooo mad!!!
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Re: Expectant Mothers Parking VENT
If you can hop out of the car, and drag your DH to the store at a brisk walk, you don't need those spots.
Exactly! And I actually never used them until just recently (when I really started to get big and every-day things started getting harder) and usually when it's just me, not my DH.
I think those spots are silly in general. If you can walk your a$$ around the store, you can walk your a$$ through the parking lot.
I have always rolled my eyes at those spots. I think very few women actually need them. Are they handy? Yes, but they are not a necessity and if you have DH with you he can always drop you off at the front of the store before parking.
I would be annoyed however just because I am a stickler about parking. I hate when people use more than one spot (unless you are driving around in a Mayback you don't need two parking spots) and it also annoys me when people use parking spots that aren't designated for them. Really how hard is it to walk an extra 50ft?
i've had that same thought. although, my mall had a few and then suddenly they became 'family parking' and in small letters: expectant mother parking. of course they'll always be full w/moms w/kids. i just hope i'm lucky enough to get one when i have my kid. it kind of makes more sense, but with only 3-4 spots and most people shopping at the mall being moms, that's silly to me, too.
Just an fyi- my grandfather had a handicapped tag because he had a severe heart problem. He rarely went out, but when he did he couldn't walk too far. No physical problems though- don't think that's the only reason you get a tag!
Comparing it to a handicap spot is ridiculous IMO. I get you are annoyed, but handicaped spots are there for those who NEED them. Plus they are protected by law. Expetant mothers spots are simply a convience.
So yes, guys shouldn't park there, but lets not say they are the same as handicaped spots.
Sorry, its a pet peeve as my husband has a disability.
They really do! My sisters always used Nordstoms to BF.
wait....
Your Meijer has expectant mother spots!?!?!?
Mine doesn't
I hate it when this post comes up every few weeks and people are all "ZOMG those spots are stupid anyways, you can walk!!".
That's not the point. The point is it's a jackass move to park in a spot that's reserved for someone else. I don't care if the spot is for an expectant mother, handicap person, employee of the month, visitor, etc. If you don't fall into the category listed on that little sign, you shouldn't park there.
Speaking of this... I got yelled at by a girl who was maybe three months for parking in mommy to be spots. She tried to say I wasn't pregnant and that she should have the spot. I ripped my coat off and said "if I'm not pregnant then what the hell is this?" and pointed to my belly. She drove off completely embarrassed.
ok this pisses me off. Plenty of people have issues you can't see, like heart conditions. DH has a prosthetic leg. You can't tell when he wears pants, but he can't walk that far too easily. Tons of jerks have made comments to him about how he shouldn't park in those spots...until he shows them his leg.
THIS
My aunt has a severe breathing issue where her trachea shrunk to her getting very little oxygen. I believe she was one of 15 diagnosed cases. To shawnandnickie, I understand your frustration about people who don't need to use the handicapped spots especially when having a handicapped parent, but don't assume that everyone who has a handicapped tag without a noticeable disability is milking the system.
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Wow, that is so rude! I cannot believe someone would say anything to him, or anybody really, cuz you never do know the situation.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Other than BRU I've never seen expectant mother parking spots.
I'm so with you...this was a really dumb comment. I have a handicap parking tag and have since 12wks. I herniated 2 disks in my back while t/u with m/s. I'm not supposed to be on my feet for more than 10min at a time. It hurts like hell, but I try VERY hard not to limp, because it stresses my back and other leg. So, lots of times it looks like nothing is wrong when I"m in such severe pain that it causes me to have contrax. We've had people make comments to us plenty of times. The state regulates who gets the tags and it's NOBODY else's buisness why. It's completly rude to assume that just because your Grandmother is in a wheelchair, she has it worse. Really, it's hard on the person pushing the chair.....
1. Did I SAY that I have ever said anything to people? No, I didn't.
2. I'm talking about people who are SERIOUSLY okay. Carrying heavy grocery bags, ran in for a pack of cigs, wearing heels walking faster than I can, etc.
Be pissed all you want, but I've seen far too much abuse to these spots. Plus, please don't assume that I am ignorant.
1) Did I say you say something to people? No. But judging isn't right, either, when you just don't know.
2) DH can carry heavy things. He has a very strong upperbody (he was a Para-olympic swimmer). I'm pretty sure he doesn't wear high heels though
Did I use the word ignorant? Nope. Pretty sure I didn't. But you are making assumptions. Yes some people abuse the spots (i know people who do) but I'd be willing to bet some of those who you "assume' are fine actually have legit problems.
Um actually it's hard on my MOTHER, not my grandmother, if you read correctly. I could care less about whether it is hard for me or not. Don't preach unless you've been there. Thanks.
Not all disabilities are readily apparent through a visual inspection. That person may have just underwent a heart transplant or might have chronic lung/breathing issues. He or she may also be walking with a great deal of pain that isn't visible to an onlooker. Don't assume that just because crutches or a wheelchair aren't needed, the handicap space isn't justified or necessary.
I think the problem is you don't say that in your OP. You say you get pissed at people who walk without a gait or trouble. You don't say anything about heels, heavy bags, ect... So you do sound pretty rude there. Maybe it was a badly worded post, then just come out and say so. Don't get pissed off at people for reading what YOU wrote and responding to it. A simple, sorry didn't mean it that way, this is what I ment would go so much farther....
And maybe you should read MY post, honey...I AM there. I'm the one struggling with sever chronic pain that has had me on bedrest since 14wks. I'm the one with the handicap tag that took offense at what you wrote. If you would get offended for your mother/grandmother/whoever, you should be more sensitive to people in difficult situations, not more rude and nasty...
I am the last to judge. And the high heel comment made me giggle. But I reserve my irritation for those who abuse the spots. I am a strong advocate for disabled people, and have been for twelve years. I am one of those annoying people who call it handicapable.
This is how I used to feel too, any time I saw someone who could walk without trouble. However, I have a friend with MS and though she can walk and look "normal" she has extreme problems with sudden fatigue/muscle weakness and needs to use handicapped spots because she never knows when she will suddenly get very weak and have trouble walking even 10-15 ft without taking a break.
That being said, it still doesn't make your situation easy/better. There should be levels of handicapped spots, but I know that's not particularly realistic. And parking has definitely become cut-throat around here, with all the snow and badly cleared parking lots!
Ok then. Your original post wasn't very clear. Thank you for clarifying. I understand what you mean now.
I think in many ways that would be a great thing. That way, those who aren't in wheel chairs won't have to take up van accesable spots.
This!! I so hate when I have to use the ONE van accesable spot for my little Kia.... It sucks, there never seem to be enough spots, period...
This is ridiculous statement. Do you have any idea how tough it is to get a toddler into a grocery store when you are at the end of the pregnancy and having lightening crotch every 2 minutes? Yes, I can still walk around the store but the 100 feet I just saved carrying my toddler through a parking lot in cold weather with my big old pregnant belly and aching back made me really effing happy.
People are assh0les sometimes..
I used to think this too, but now on my third pregnancy, I have PDS, severe pelvic pain and yes I do still have to run to BRU or the mall occasionally, the less walking I have to do the better. I sincerly hope that your future you won't have this issue, but you should be aware that for some people, those spots are very very helpful.