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Ellasmommy07
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Going back to diapers
Ellasmommy07
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I decided today that DD has to go back to diapers. And of course everyone is making me feel like a failure. We started PT'ing a couple months ago and after 2 weeks we had her in panties all day, easy up at nap, and panties at night. She would let us know when she had to go and would maybe at most have 2 accidents a week, although she wouldnt poop on the potty but she was doing that at naptime in the easy up. DH left her in easy ups one weekend and just let her pee her pants and its gone downhill from there. I have been trying the past month to get her back on track but its not working. She pees herself all the time, she pees on the furniture, or goes in her room and pees on her floor, which she has done all of this today. I feel horrible and it reallly doesnt help that people even my mom is making me feel bad about it. Has anyone else had to do this and if so, how did you handle PT'ing after that?
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Re: Going back to diapers
Tell your mom you're proud of her being a perfect parent Ask her if it makes her feel bad that she didn't make you into the perfect one, because you sure feel bad that you didn't PT perfectly. Okay, don't, but enjoy imagining saying it.
I would drop the issue with DD for a few days, then when she wakes up one day put her in panties matter-of-factly like nothing changed. Maybe introduce a reward system? In the meanwhile I'd ask DH for his support. Good luck and relax- it's not very often a kid shows up to kindergarten in diapers!
I was thinking maybe waiting a few weeks after the new baby is born and then try again. My sister suggested buying pull ups that go cold when they pee or dont absorb but she already pees her panties and doesnt care so that is just more money out the window. I would rather spend money on a box of diapers. I guess I just feel worse because I am too tired to keep pulling the furniture cushions apart and washing them and having to run loads of pee covered laundry up and down the basement stairs.
I have aske my DH for support but apparently he is just too lazy to do it. I am supposed to spend 90% of my day taking her to the bathroom and then I guess let it all go out the window in the evenings.
As for my mom, she was here a week ago, and we had issues because when I would go somewhere and she was here with DD, she wasnt putting her on the potty, just leaving her in the easy up, which makes the situation and her comments that much worse.
Awww- that's rough. My DD was pt'd by 12 months- I did EC- but during my pregnancy with the twins I couldn't keep up with it. And she's back/still in diapers.
As for DH- I understand. I really do. I use cloth diapers, but if I were you, maybe discuss the cost of 2 in diapers, and give him 2 very specific jobs that can help you. Or suggest you hire a mother's helper to get you through pt. Money often talks to the boys. As for your mom, I'd either invite her to come out and pt DD or cut your losses and not discuss it.
Sorry it's so stressful. I can tell you from experience, a ffew weeks after the baby is born is not tjhe time to PT. Your hormones may not be ready for you to handle the constant urgency, or the accidents. But again, I wouldn't worry about it... pride and modesty will kick in sometime And she'll want to use the potty.