My family is thrilled about the baby, and is throwing me a shower. It'll be mid-May, since I have to travel 500 miles to where they all are. They've been pestering me to register, so last weekend I did at BRU (they all live near one). We picked about 22 things, and didn't do any clothes because it's 3 months away, so I figured stuff would go on clearance, be hard to find, and people like to pick that themselves anyway.
Now, my mom tells me I really need to register at Target too. I really don't see the point, I think I already picked all the basics, and have no problem AT ALL with people shopping off the registry.
But, is it rude to not register where my mom thinks that guests would want to shop? Would you/did you do 2 registries?
BTW, my mom already bought us the crib/changing table combo, and the ILs wanted to pay for the carseat/stroller. We have the big things already, and I don't want to get greedy asking for stuff the baby won't need for 6+ months.
Re: Is 2 Registries Tacky?
I'll be honest and say that I didn't read your post b/c its too long to explain 2 registries.
No, 2 registries is not tacky
2 registries is not tacky.
And you'll need to put more than 22 items otherwise you'll end up with stuff you don't want/need.
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This. Register at a second place. BRU isn't always convenient for everyone. Agree with pp -- add more so you get the items you want and not duplicates of everything.
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I think it is better to have 2, that way people have an option of where to go. And you can register for the same things, like bottles, first aid supplies, crib sheets. If you get more of something than you need you can always return it.
Personally, I wasn't a big fan of Target when I registered there for my wedding. The stores and online do not have the same things, so there is a good chance that the stuff you register for online will not be at the store near the location you are going. Also, their return policy is horrible.
Because of that I will probably end up using Wal-Mart as my second registry.
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I would register at Target also (and I did register at both Target and BRU). I don't think it's tacky at all, I think it's helpful for people who would prefer to shop there.
Also, one thing to consider is returns. If you get stuff from Target that you don't want it's really easy to return things if you have a registry (even if the items aren't on it). You just print out a purchase log from their kiosk and take it up to the returns desk with whatever you're returning.
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2 registries isn't tacky, it's generally helpful to the guests because it gives them options if they want to shop in store. We had two, although we went with Target and Amazon. Honestly, if it's for someone in town, I virtually always (if given the opportunity) buy from Wal-Mart or Target rather than BRU...even with a kid, I have to make a special trip to BRU, whereas I almost always have needs for me I can fill at the other two.
That said, I think it wouldn't hurt to have a look at Target/Wal-Mart/wherever and see if you can't split the registry between the two (they may have some items you already have, cheaper, or some things you like better). 20ish items isn't that many, and it's not greedy at all to registry for some later needs like a high chair, feeding stuff, etc.
This exactly. I've registered at Babies-R-Us and Wal-Mart.
I don't think it's tacky, I'm thinking of registering at BRU and target too!
HTH!
We registered at Target and BRU to give people options (and Target is somewhat cheaper too). We didn't register for the same *things* at both places, however.
Sara
I have two registries, BRU & Target. We are in the same situtation with family all in another state. Two registries gives them options.
Honestly, 22 items doesn't seem like very much for people to pick from. I had girlfriends that already have children help me with mine, but I have 95 items on BRU and 75 on target. I don't expect to get everything but that gives a range of items for people to pick from.
Heather
Sorry, me too. However, two registries is totally acceptable.
Totally agree two registries is fine.
Also you can register for stuff that the baby will use 6 months +, especially if you have all the stuff for right away. If I was your guest, I'd rather buy you a booster seat or feeding stuff you'll need when baby moves to solids or something else that you'll actually use than have no registry options. Find more stuff -- 22 items doesn't seem like it offers enough choices.
I did 2 registries for my wedding because DH's side of the fam didn't have a Bed Bath and Beyond near them. We did another registry at Macy's and then also at Target because we knew some ppl were on a budget and Target's prices are more manageable than the department stores.
I don't think its tacky at all.
This. We registered at BRU and MyRegistry.com - which I found out later you can sync with Target - so anything that you put on there from Target shows up in there system, if you set up a registry there, so I figured, WTH, and registered there, too.
I feel weird about three, but try not to think about it too much - we needed an online option so we could register for cloth diapering supplies, and then everyone kept asking about Target ...
The problem with BRU is that it can be expensive and you can find cheaper things elsewhere - the problem with Target is often limited selection ... having MyRegistry.com allowed me to widen the selection and include cheaper items (our pack-n-play is almost $30 cheaper on Amazon than the same one they sell at BRU).
i've got 3 as well.. not tacky at all!
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