Vent: "Due Dates"

NFL_Wife · February 2010

Ok so I have on my armour and am ready for the flames... but I need to get this out there. My vent for the day:

A due date is just an ESTIMATE. It does not mean that you will have your baby on/by that date. Your ute and baby have no idea that your doctor told you this magical date, and that LO should come out then.

40 weeks is the AVERAGE length of a pregnancy. That's because most pregnancies last between 38-42 weeks. SO... some medical geniuses out there took the average of those weeks and guess what? The average is 40!

Especially for first pregnancies, the average is a bit later, at 41w 1d. Please try to keep this in mind. I know it sucks, and I know that by 37 weeks most of us are uncomfortable and want our outside babies, but women have been doing this a loooong time and unless there is a medical reason for your doc to take the baby early, your body knows what it is doing and will let you know when its time.

Ok that felt really good to get out. Vent over. Flame away.

lnyost · February 2010

I totally agree. Well said!

CW<3JW · February 2010

None from me! I agree. As jealous as I get over these girls having their healthy babies early, and already setting eviction dates and having an end in sight, I have already convinced myself that I will be pregnant until March 24th, at 42 weeks, and if my baby decides to come earlier, super. I'm lucky that I have had a really good pregnancy and I'm still not completely uncomfortable. So, if my LO wants to come early, it's like a bonus. Otherwise, keeping my eye on the prize for one month from today!

heatherfaith · February 2010

not flaming but just wondering why you care? Your right we are given this made up due date. But its are goal to get to this date the whole pregnancy and hope to have our babies at this date. So its upsetting when you get to that date and still don't have your baby. Don't you think?

DreaMe23 · February 2010

A friend of mine suggested we start calling it a "birth season" so people wouldn't feel like they were on a 40 week egg timer. It's our first, our due date is April 18th but we tell everyone we're due sometime later in April.

cindy510 · February 2010

AGREE 100%. Thank you!!

NavyWife1989 · February 2010

Yes I'm a First-timer, and I completely agree.

I want my little man to come naturally and whenever he is ready. Unless I have a medical condition that comes up and can affect that, we will be waiting for him until whenever he is ready.

Oh, and my Dr. calls it a "Due Month"

anabell0920 · February 2010

Nuhh uhhh I don't believe you!!! My doctor SAID that is when the baby is due duhh!!! :: insert sarcasm::

Erin0922 · February 2010

(I kid, I kid)

NFL_Wife · February 2010

heatherfaith:
not flaming but just wondering why you care? Your right we are given this made up due date. But its are goal to get to this date the whole pregnancy and hope to have our babies at this date. So its upsetting when you get to that date and still don't have your baby. Don't you think?

I went to 41w 2 d with DS. Was I anxious for him to come? Yes. Was I upset on my "due date" because he wasn't there yet? Nope. I just figured he wasn't done cooking yet, and he'd come when he was ready.

americanada · February 2010

when people ask me when i'm due, most of the time i say anytime in the next 'x to y' weeks....

how was your night at the olympics...i didn't see an update on that.

NastyAnnie · February 2010

Torch! Torch! Torch!

....Okay, I kid. I realize the EDD is Estimated. Why? Because NO ONE knows when I got KU. I was on BC. I hadn't had a period in 3 months. I have no clue when I ovulated. My baby has measured 2-3 weeks ahead during every ultrasound since 11 weeks. But my EDD remains March 20th. Really? REALLY?!

...But it's just an estimate. So if he comes..say... now-ish.. It wouldn't be so bad. Lmao.

anabell0920 · February 2010

heatherfaith:
not flaming but just wondering why you care? Your right we are given this made up due date. But its are goal to get to this date the whole pregnancy and hope to have our babies at this date. So its upsetting when you get to that date and still don't have your baby. Don't you think?

Like another poster said women really shouldn't be given a date. They should be given a time of the month. Due dates are for a moms piece of mind and really all it does is add more stress.

NFL_Wife · February 2010

anabell0920:
Nuhh uhhh I don't believe you!!! My doctor SAID that is when the baby is due duhh!!! :: insert sarcasm::

Oooohhh I knew I should have chosen the doctor who was also a fortune teller!!! Stick out tongue LOLs

jmarie17 · February 2010

Agreed. I just read a book that said you should pretty much just say you are due during "whatever month" (sometime in those 4 weeks). I am due in the middle of May so I just tell people May.

NFL_Wife · February 2010

Erin I can't see the pic you posted, so I will just assume its of puppies and rainbows since you love me so much LOL.... stupid work and their stupid blocking everything....

birdy09 · February 2010

I agree and although I am frustrated with the waiting, I am hoping not to have to be induced. However, it is nice to be able to vent with people in the same situation!

Erin0922 · February 2010

NFL_Wife:
Erin I can't see the pic you posted, so I will just assume its of puppies and rainbows since you love me so much LOL.... stupid work and their stupid blocking everything....

nah, fire-breathing dragon.

cateye · February 2010

That actually made me feel better. Stick out tongue Thanks!

Everyone wants to know why I haven't been induced yet since I'm past 40 weeks. It doesn't help that a friend who was due a couple weeks after me induced at 38 weeks. . .With the doctors, friends, and family all pushing for an induction, part of me feels like my body has failed in some way for not going into labor yet. BUT I'm not even 41 weeks. . .so thanks. You made my day. Smile

princessjenney · February 2010

I thought this was common knowledge. I don't expect my baby to pop out right at 40, my only hope is that she doesn't come too soon, due to the health risks.

liza0828 · February 2010

I agree with you... unfortunately many OBs are trigger happy with the inductions, and it's hard to push back sometimes.

MrsColvin · February 2010

I'm with you!!! At this point I'd love to be saying end of MArch I stead of having to go thru all the crap I'm going thru!! Women that go over their "due dates" should feel lucky that they aren't having to do a guessing game that their LO will be healthy and having to weigh the options of how much longer can I keep this baby in without putting both our lives in danger but still making sure he is as healthy as possible!

APRILMW · February 2010

No flaming from me! I agree!

Athena5692 · February 2010

Oh is that what the "E" stands for in EDD, j/k! The doctor estimated my due date at April 5th, but I've had enough people tell me to add 10 days as a first time mom that I don't think I'll start talking about induction until the 19th. (well, at least that's what I'm aiming for now)

MrsMSG · February 2010

You know, maybe the celebs have had it right all along when they're always so vague about when their babies are due: "in the spring," or "sometime this summer."

When people ask us, we tell them sometime between Easter and Memorial Day. yes, my EDD is 5/25, but with a history of pre-e, PTL, and a stillbirth, we are prepared to go as early as 32w, or make it all the way to 38w. I can't stand the thought of people pigeon-holing me into a 5-day period of when this baby will come.

She will come when she is ready, or when the drs decide she is safer out than in. And nobody knows when the heck that'll be.

baby_soon_31 · February 2010

Yes well said!

i think someone should post this daily - or even 4-5 times a day so more people have a chance to read it and take note ... when you get rid of the ridiculous expectations, waiting for LO to come becomes sooo much easier

Shelby14 · February 2010

I totally agree.

My doctor seemed surprised today when I agreed with him that I would rather wait until 42 weeks to be induced (if it comes to that) if all is well with baby and I. He said after 40 weeks most women are yelling for it and he usually says no.

lesalia217 · February 2010

I had to have this discussion with Dh today. There is an event he wants to go to 3 days before my EDD. He said that if we still didn't have the baby he wanted to go. I said cool, but I want to go too. Then he got all hyper parinoid about me "doing" anything that close to my EDD.........silly sillyDH

AppleofmyEye25 · February 2010

anabell0920:
heatherfaith:
not flaming but just wondering why you care? Your right we are given this made up due date. But its are goal to get to this date the whole pregnancy and hope to have our babies at this date. So its upsetting when you get to that date and still don't have your baby. Don't you think?
Like another poster said women really shouldn't be given a date. They should be given a time of the month. Due dates are for a moms piece of mind and really all it does is add more stress.

Yes Yes Agreed. Agreed. I am going au natural and could care less about scheduling an induction or when my baby is due. I know she will come out at the "perfect" time for her (unless I have a medical issue, which at this point I don't). I think they should really give women a estimated birth window of 2 wks or so.

cathylynn1213 · February 2010

If someone could explain to my ILs that the EDD is just an estimate, that would be GREATLY appreciated... I think they'd like to know when they'll meet her down to the second.

S2BMrsO · February 2010

I think... er... I hope... everyone here knows and understands that the due date is just an estimate. But it doesn't make a difference once you get to the end, especially for those who get uncomfortable. They just want it to end!

So, personally... I don't see a point to this post. Women are going to say they're ready for it to be over every day on this board, and they're also going to complain when they pass 40 weeks. I think it's a pretty normal thing to do.

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