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mommamelmo
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Visitation Schedule??
mommamelmo
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I'm just wondering what your visitation schedule is with LO and your X. I'm starting to feel that my X is lacking but I am NOT going to ask him to step up more. He is currently seeing DS every other weekend or 2 days during the week before his weekend if he is working.
Also how are you OR will you deal with things like swimming lessons? Ask X if you can have the sat AM with LO for lessons? offer that lesson to X? or make it so it is on your time so X can not participate?
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Re: Visitation Schedule??
As of right now our agreement is every other sundays for 8 hours. And about 4 hours one day through the week. Though he only makes good on his sunday visitation.
As for lessons and such, I will try my hardest to schedule them around Hs visitation.
When she's in school and there are extra ciricular activities, I will talk to him let him know that dd wants to do it, and see if he is in agreeance.
STBXH gets 10 hours every Saturday but hasn't been around since January 16th and before that was December 26th.
DD has dance class on Saturdays during his time. We signed her up long before we split. If he comes for his visitation he takes her, if not she goes with one of my parents (I work most Saturdays).
In the future I will not sign her up for anything that is during his time, unless she is old enough to decide to do it on her own and it is only offered during his time. If he wants to sign her up for something during his time that is fine with me.
My ex is entitled to a "short" visit once a week and a 7 hr visit each week. Plus two 24 hour overnights per month. He takes her for 2 hours per week, lol. and sometimes for one 13 hr overnight. I don't say a word to him anymore about not taking his time with her-- his loss.
As for lessons etc... my XH has a changing schedule each week for work and does not have set visitation days/hours. Therefore he works around dd's schdule, but is also always welcome to come to her activities as well. He gets three days off in a row, so even if she has gymnastics one afternoon, there are other options. As for playdates- I plan them and then notify him of times she is not available. Just Because he refuses to plan visits more than 2 days ahead of time I refuse to sit home and wait for him. He works around us and is actually pretty understanding.
Our parenting plan is ex gets EOW and 5-7 PM every Wed. WHat we actually do is he gets EOW and one whole day on the week he doesn't have her for the weekend.
Quite often he is busy and doesn't take her for all of "his" time but I like having her around so I don't ever call him out on it. She is very young so it takes time for her to adjust back to being home so it works out better for her not to spend extended time over there. As she gets older and can adjust easier it may bother me for her sake.
EOW he gets the kids four weeks in the summer and Thursday from 5PM to 9PM. He does not get them on Thursday's unless I am dating a new guy and that he wants to find out about. HAHA. He lives in another state and the drive is 2 hrs one way. On the weekends we meet halfway.
I am married now so no more Thursday visits for the kids........ Sorry it is so funny because he got married one month after our divorce so he was married and it took me 10 years. Anyway be careful to what you agree to now because more than likely that is what you will be living with until the kids are 18. Two more years and I am home free. My X took me back to court many many times trying to get it changes even after the kids got older. DS is 17 and DD will be 16 in 2 weeks and we are still doing the same thing that we did from day 1 per the court.