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2nd Trimester
Husband insists on misspelling baby's name
So four months ago we picked out the name Isla. Hubby says he really likes it. It's either Isla or one other name that we have picked out for a girl.
Today we find out it's a girl. In casual conversation, my father asks me how you spell Isla. I spell it for him. About 10 minutes later hubby starts going on and on about how the spelling is "odd" and he doesn't like it and the "s" is silent so what is the purpose of it and blah blah. I'm irritated because I wish he would have brought this up four months ago before I got used to the name. He says he never knew that is how it's spelled.
He says he likes the name but he wants to spell it "ILLA".
This bugs me to no end because that's NOT how you spell Isla! So after trying to convince him that the correct spelling of Isla is I-S-L-A and no one else is going to think it's weird, he doesn't budge so I just decide that we should just throw the name out. I said that I would rather just find a different name than misspell my childs name.
Then he goes and says something about me not getting things my way so I would rather just have no way than someone elses way. Which is bs. I just don't want to spell my childs name incorrectly. I just can't get over spelling it Illa or Ila. I think the "s" makes the name look really pretty.
I don't know... maybe I'm crazy and spelling it ILLA or ILA is fine... but taking out the "S" makes it lose some of it's appeal to me. I've just never seen the name spelled any way other than Isla. What do y'all think?
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Re: Husband insists on misspelling baby's name
I loved that name and I brought it up to both DH and my mother and they both said the same thing. "well, I'd like it if you spelt it differently."
For me, it's either Isla or nothing.
I'm with you on this one. Isla is the correct way to spell the name and I HATE names that are purposefully mis-spelled. I grew up with an "odd' spelling of my name (Karey) and it drove me nuts. No one, including many family members, spelled my name correctly.
I don't think you're being unreasonable to throw the name out if you disagree on the spelling. He doesn't like your spelling. Would he rather keep the name with your spelling or get rid of it? Same thing in my opinion.
That's when you take DH's hand and give it a firm slap and say NO! hahahaha Oh DH's and their crazy ideas. Gotta love 'em.
FWIW, I would never pronounce Illa "Eye-la." I would pronounce it ill-a, like sickness with an a at the end. If you do want to spell it more phonetically, I'd probably do something like Eila...
I personally would probably find a new name rather than have one that you will always resent a little because it's misspelled.
ILLA is awful - like a pp said, this isn't even pronounced the same. The double LL makes for a short I (like how the double t in "little" makes for a short i sound).
Isla is a lovely name, I wouldn't use it if I had to spell it differently.
Yay a girl!!!! I couldn't wait to get home and find out what the big u/s revealed! CONGRATS!
Do you say the name like EYE-La? That's what I'm hearing my head when I read it. I kind of agree, I like the 's' in there. If you do I-L-L-A then people will want to call her ill-a. At least with the s they're likely to ask first and not assume. Something about the s is appealing. What else do you have for girls and why is he just now making a big deal about it? Do you think something else might be bothering him but he's choosing to pick on the name spelling rather than come out with it?
Yes I have brought up the silent "s" in island and he still shakes his head and acts like a stubborna*s.
I'm SO irritated because I really like that name and I don't want to toss it out. But I would rather toss it out than spell it any other way.
I think this irritates me so much because I feel like he's unreasonably against the spelling of the name. I have a hard time understanding why anyone would be against a classic way to spell a name. I can understand people being completely repulsed by "youneek" name spellings, but I don't think I've ever seen someone put up this much of a fight against the right, classic, normal way to spell the name.
I can't see somone loving the name Jonathan, but insist that the spelling is weird and want to go with "Jawnathin" or something.
Blows my freakin mind.
I love the name Isla. To me Illa = godz-illa.
I'd tell you to tell your husband that to prove your point but if he's anything like my DH he might thing godzilla is a cool name for a baby!
THIS
Your husband is being really silly! Isla is a beautiful name (and one I have thought of, too!), but Illa really does look like a rapper's way of writing sick. A lot of my friends have "misspelled" names (Robyn, Ellyn, Alyson, etc.), and it always causes problems. I would stick with Isla or ask him to choose a different name!
Good luck!
I love the name Isla though, and I'd hate to see it mangled.
Isla like island. That is obviously how it is spelled. I would never pronounce Illa or Ila the same, as pp have said. If he is insisting, I would choose a different name.
It sucks to have your name constantly mispronounced. My name is Tarra Like Tar (black stuff on the road)-ah. I swear more people call me Tara (rhymes with Sarah); all through school- teachers, classmates, etc.
I agree with everyone else that has posted that it would make me want to pronounce it ill-a.
Im in the same argument with my DH. He wants to spell our sons name "Jaxon". Granted he's going by Maddox, but seriously, I just like the way Jackson looks instead of Jaxon. It's misspelling simply for the same of trying to be unique. But to me, it comes off as pretentious.
Isla makes the most sense to me. That's how Isla Fisher spells her name.
If your DH is worried about people pronouncing it "EES-luh" (which is how spanish speakers spell and pronounce isla, the spanish word for island), you could spell it Eilah, the hebrew spelling of it.