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shower with girlfriends where they pay for lunch??

Rolos_girlRolos_girl
in 2nd Trimester

seriously... my side of the family is not having a shower, so my friends are thinking of planning a shower because they want me to have one! But, that means they pay for their lunch, my lunch (at a restaurant) and a gift!

I do not want that! Too much for them to do..... but one of my friends is insisting and it is making me uncomfortable. I know she means well, and I tried to recommend something more affordable for them all, but she is not budging......

traditionally, the family hosts and pays for the shower, so all the gifts have to do is bring a gift..... they are doing all of it and it is not right and not what I want.... too much fuss and I do not like that for me

is this something you have heard of? and how am I to be ok with this??

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Re: shower with girlfriends where they pay for lunch??

  • Lauryn216Lauryn216
    If this is what your friends want to do, I think it's fine. Just insist that they pick a moderately priced place :) If your friends would host a shower for you, they'd be paying for food, decor, etc. anyway. I think it's perfectly fine and you've more than done your duty by trying to recommend more affordable options. Have fun and enjoy!
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  • Mrs.StimmelMrs.Stimmel
    I say go with every they want to dom for you.  You only get to be treated wonderfully just a couple of times in your life.  So sit back and let them do what ever they do best.  If that means they take you to lunch and brings you gifts, then that sounds great!!!! And have fun with it!!!
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  • koatkoat
    I've seen this happen before...it's no different than a bunch of friends going out for dinner for someone's birthday!  They'd be paying for their dinner and (usually) bringing a gift as well.

    I say do it and have fun!
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  • Wendy525Wendy525
    My friends are doing the same thing, and for my last baby too. My family is not too into showers and stuff with the exception of my sister. My best friend really wanted to organize this shower though. This time, I suggested we do it at my house to keep it more relaxed and low cost.
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  • amy0105amy0105

    At work - this is what we do - we used to do a small thing with fruit and veggies during our planning, but started to go to a restaurant where people ordered if they wanted to eat -- it's cheaper for your friends to do that then to put together a "real" shower where they have to really decorate and do lunch/munchies for everyone...

    You can always make it a "little things" shower - like for wipes and diapers and butt paste :) the little things that people don't often get for shower presents...

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  • jess60jess60 member

    Sounds like a typical friend-hosted shower to me.  Huh?

    Your friends want to do this for you.  Let them!


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  • amandydeanamandydean

    imageRolos_girl:
    traditionally, the family hosts and pays for the shower, so all the gifts have to do is bring a gift..... they are doing all of it and it is not right and not what I want.... too much fuss and I do not like that for me

     

    Actually, I don't think this is true. It was my understanding that traditionally, the family does not throw the shower, because it's seen as asking for gifts (similar to if you threw it yourself). Of course, things have relaxed and it's not considered inappropriate in most places for the family to throw the shower, but it's ALWAYS appropriate for friends to do it. Don't let yourself feel bad about this at all. For your friends to throw you this shower is considered a gift, and is something they want to do. It was very thoughtful of you to suggest something less expensive, but if they insist on proceeding, don't feel bad about it!

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  • court1703court1703 member
    I went to a bridal shower like this for a co worker.  It was a lot of fun.  Makes clean up easy too.  Wink
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  • iristonyiristony member
    We did this for my neighbor.  She was having such a big family shower that you could not invite neighbors.  So a bunch of started chatting and 12 of us went out to brunch for like 19.95 each and each brought her a gift.  One of the good friends on the block brought a cake, and I made some favors. 
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