Meet the baby shower question

emmavenus77 · February 2010

Never been to one. If it's done weeks after baby is born, you end up buying all the registry items that you need for baby in the first month of so of life correct? I know for most this is an opportunity for friends and family to meet the baby and not a gift asking occasion but I'm just curious.

Wendy525 · February 2010

I'm chinese and we do this for every baby when it is 1 month old. We always give cash, some people will give a cute outfit on top of cash if they really want to. I've never seen a registry for one. Are you thinking about throwing one?

shanmoyer · February 2010

I've never been to one, but if I were going to go to one, I'd probably bring something that the parents could use months down the line (or something for them to say congratulations)

I think it's more of a "meet the baby" thing than a gift thing

megdrew1218 · February 2010

That's how I understand it. I'm not doing one. But you'll want to have everything you need for your baby. Generally, I think people aren't obligated to bring a gift, but I imagine many will.

ta78 · February 2010

I've never been to a shower after the baby is born. Usually they are given a month or two before you have the baby, I wouldn't call it a gift asking occasion, but I see it as your friends and family celebrating your pregnancy and baby to be and giving gifts so you don't have to buy everything off your registry.

I will be 30 weeks along at my shower.

emmavenus77 · February 2010

So then this is done in addition to a shower or in lieu of it? I'm not planning on one, but I'm sure we'll do a bbq a couple of months after she's born so everyone can meet her at once since she's due in the summer.

BlondiePhD · February 2010

My friend is hosting a shower for friends and work people before the baby and my SILs are hosting a meet the baby party for family (DH has a huge family).

If guests ask what to bring in terms of gifts I will have a regestry for the shower and for the meet the baby party my SILs will suggest a book to build our babies library.

If we get cash we will put it towards our jogging stroller which we wont get for a while after the baby is born anyway.

ta78 · February 2010

Maybe I should read before I respond.

LCB34 · February 2010

The point of a Sip and See in the South is not to get gifts. It is to meet baby and is typically the older generation that throws the party and comes (i.e. Grandma throws it for her friends to meet baby).

A lot of the older women will bring a nice outfit (think Feltmans, John-John, smocked dresses) just to be nice but a gift is not expected at all so it doesn't matter if you purchased everything off of your registry or not.

AllieJean · February 2010

When our family does these they are really only to meet the baby. No gifts unless someone feels so inclined.

LaurelBee · February 2010

I think if it's called a "shower" on the invite, I would bring a gift. If it's just a baby meet n greet, I don't think a gift is necessary (esp if I already attended the shower!)

serarose · February 2010

emmavenus77:
Never been to one. If it's done weeks after baby is born, you end up buying all the registry items that you need for baby in the first month of so of life correct? I know for most this is an opportunity for friends and family to meet the baby and not a gift asking occasion but I'm just curious.

Not necessarily - I've known plenty of people who've had their regular baby shower (not a "meet & greet" or "see & sip" or whatever) after their baby is born. Someone throws it for them and they do indeed get gifts including ones they've registered for. For some, it's been a cultural/traditional thing where it's considered bad luck to have a shower for an unborn child. In most cases that I've seen, it was simple logistics issue - the mother moved far away from where most of the relatives or old friends live and it's not practical for her to travel while pregnant and not practical to bring everyone who would want to participate to where she lives.

The thing about newborns is that they really don't need a lot to start off with. If you wanted to wait and see if people would buy some items for you for a shower you certainly could. Even if you didn't get everything you registered for, as long as you have a place for it to sleep, something for it to wear, and enough for it to eat then it will be fine and you can pick up the other things along the way. :-)

mysticporter · February 2010

Like you said, the purpose really is just to meet the baby, not to have a shower. It's one of the main reasons it's more common with a 2nd+ baby.

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Mrs.Burke · February 2010

We are doing a meet the baby bbq after baby is born, but that is because this is our second child. Even though this time it is a boy between what we already had and hand me down clothes we really didn't need anything so we decided instead of a shower we really just wanted to get family together. I know that some of my family might bring a cute outfit or something, but we are not doing it to get gifts so that is up to them. The word baby shower will not be on the invite.

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