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WWYD if this was your kid?

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My friend has a child in 1st grade.  The teacher sounds TERRIBLE.  She's in her 50's and has been teaching for 7 years.....I don't know what she did previously.  Either way, this lady is a total fun sponge.  For instance, she was the only teacher in the entire elementary school that didn't let her class dress up for pajama day.  Another example--the kids in her class were allowed to bring Valentines to school last week, but they were only allowed to have a short party and parents weren't allowed to attend.  Again, she was the only teacher that did this.  She is so mean to the kids that my friend's DD wet her pants in school because she was afraid to ask the teacher to go to the bathroom.

 There are other instances of minor things, but those are the three that stick out.  It sounds like the kids *are* learning quite a bit, but are missing out on a lot of fun and nurturing.

WWYD if you were my friend?  Would it bother you at all if your kid was learning the necessary skills? 

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  • amiamishamiamish

    I'd be talking to the principal, that's sad that her kid wet her pants because she was too scared to ask to go to the bathroom!

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  • KrisBriMcBunnyKrisBriMcBunny member
    imageamiamish:

    I'd be talking to the principal, that's sad that her kid wet her pants because she was too scared to ask to go to the bathroom!

    this 100%...something is wrong with the picture if a child is afraid to ask to go to the bathroom.

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  • EliseB0323EliseB0323
    I'd go in and observe the class a few times, and then talk to the teacher and possibly the principal about my concerns. Also, have the parents asked why she didn't let the kids participate in fun activities? She may have a reason.
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  • soontobemommasoontobemomma member
    Big red flags.  I had a teacher that wouldn't let me use the bathroom in 3rd and I wet my pants.  I was so embarrassed for so many years.  Unfortunately, probably not much will happen if she keeps her child there, but I do think she should say something.  
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  • gracendantho26gracendantho26 member

     How long did the mom want the party to go on for? I worked in Natalie's classroom for v-day but they never had a "party" persay..just super stations that focused on v-day activities. The special station was a cookie decorating one. But the kids are divided into groups of 5 so it's not really a "party". And no not all 42 (we have 21 kids) parents are not invited to attend. Owen actually had sort of a party in his pre-k class but not something the parents were invited to attend.

    I don't know. Mean is a subjective word so it may be that this mom and her child are sensitive.

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  • AlilivAliliv member
    If I were your friend, I would document, document, and document absolutely everything complete with dates and the child's emotional reactions.  Comfront teacher about some of the goings on in the classroom, if nothing happens, then off to the principal I go.  If nothing happens to change things, then off to the division office to speak with someone in charge of student services/welfare.     Often times if parents don't go through proper channels, they get ignored.  Keep a paper trail as well and write letters to the principal and make copies of those letters.   Jot notes of the responses of the principal and teacher.   Talk to other parents and find out if other children are treated poorly.    I'm a teacher and it completely chaps my a$$ when teacher's abuse their position or simply make school sucky for kids.  
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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member
    I had a teacher who made me wet my pants in 1st grade.  If the kids was learning and enjoying school, the pj day/valentine thing would not bother me.  I kind of find those types of things annoying anyway.  I would prefer they just make school a little shorter, and let me have my own party and invite my child's friends.  It seems they have stuff like that all the time. 
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  • DandelionMomDandelionMom

    I'd definitely talk to the teacher about the bathroom thing.  But the rest of it doesn't sound so awful.  And even the bathroom thing might be a misunderstanding. 

    My DD was afraid to ask her teacher to go to the bathroom because the teacher had just reminded the class not to interupt a story to use the bathroom unless it was an emergency.  DD took that to mean that she wasn't allowed to use the bathroom at all.  I emailed the teacher, we figured out the misunderstanding and we both reassured DD that she can ask to use the bathroom whenever she needs to go but to try to go before or after a story.   

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member
    imageKrisBriMcBunny:
    imageamiamish:

    I'd be talking to the principal, that's sad that her kid wet her pants because she was too scared to ask to go to the bathroom!

    this 100%...something is wrong with the picture if a child is afraid to ask to go to the bathroom.

    This.

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