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Is this bad etiquette?

Got an electronic save the date for an out of state family wedding in early Sept. Is it bad etiquette to ask if kids are invited?

Usually I would not care and just wait for the invite to see if all of our names are on it, but our main babysitters (family) are going. So, if kids are not invited, we are going to have to either: 1. not go, 2. find a babysitter that we would trust our kids with while we are 500 miles away, or 3. find someone to come with us to watch the kids. 2&3 need a little prep time KWIM?

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Re: Is this bad etiquette?

  • I don't think it's bad to ask...you're just trying to plan ahead. Not like your pissy if they can't come and trying to convince them to let you bring your kids.

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  • I think in that case it's fine to ask.  You just need to know for planning purposes!
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  • just ask them explaining that you need time to prepare for a babysitter.
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  • I hate situations like this.  I usually try not to directly ask the bride and groom because I don't want them to worry or get worked up about it.  Maybe ask one of their moms or have your mom ask their mom, that sort of thing?
  • I don't think so.  It's family and you're trying to make plans.  I would just say something like "Congrats on your engagement!  So excited about the wedding.  Just wondering if this is going to be an adult only event or if the kids are welcome.  Just trying to make plans.  Thanks!"
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