"What was the purpose of your D&C?"

howleyshell · February 2010

Not kidding you.

The ding dong answering the phone at the OB's office when I called to schedule my D&C follow up actually asked me that question.

My response:"To remove a dead baby."

I mean... I'm sure there are other reasons for D&C's so I'm not knocking the validity of the question but isn't there some kinder gentler way to ask it?

I was taken totally off guard.

Not really sure that it makes a hill of beans of difference for scheduling the appointment either. My last D&C they certainly didn't ask such a tactless question. (different doc and office)

I think I'll mention my experience when I'm there.

That was not cool.

IamMrs.C · February 2010

Eck. People say the stupidest things. You can tell who has gone through a miscarriage and who hasn't just by the dumb comments some make.

Sorry.

simbajsp · February 2010

IamMrs.C:

Eck. People say the stupidest things. You can tell who has gone through a miscarriage and who hasn't just by the dumb comments some make.

Sorry.

This is so true! I'm so sorry you had that experience. Some people are so dense it's ridiculous.

Valjoy11 · February 2010

Honestly, I am DYING to know if they were stupid or ignorant, or both! Sad thing is, I'm not sure which is worse. I'm so sorry you have to deal with idiots... and I would DEFINITELY let someone know that brain child shouldn't be calling on behalf of the office.... they'll start to wonder why they are losing patients otherwise.

FlashMeyer · February 2010

I don't think that was such a bad question at all. The nurse asked me the same thing right before I had my D&C and I wasn't offended at all. There are many other valid reasons for having a D&C done not just miscarriages.

mdm2137 · February 2010

There are other reasons for a D&C, but couldn't she have just looked at your chart instead of asking?? I'm sorry that happened.

Temp984666312503071 · February 2010

Women have D&Cs for things other than miscarriage. My mother had to have several D&Cs when she was young because she would bleed for MONTHS on end. Somehow a D&C can be done in order to help regulate cycles in very extreme cases.

They thought I would need a D&C after my baby was born because I lost a twin during the pregnancy and that baby never completely vanished (and I never miscarried the baby). They were worried I would retain that tissue and need a D&C in order to avoid hemmoraging at a later date.. They had to send my placenta to pathology and look for the remnants of my "baby A" in order to release me from the hospital. I was lucky I didn't need the D&C.

I'm not saying it isn't insensitive. I think that OB/GYN offices can do A LOT more to help women who are grieving (ie: read the chart, not have women who have just m/c come during OB visits, etc). But she wasn't ignorant and it wasn't a stupid question in the very literal sense. Emotionally stupid - but not stupid in the sense that she was asking a rhetorical question.

betizzle73 · February 2010

That was extremely rude! I always wonder about the people that work at the front desk... you would think that if they work at an OB's office.. they would have had some kind of training about what's an appropriate way to ask a question, etc. I work part time at a MASSAGE CLINIC and we trained in that stuff for God's sake.

bohemianbeauty7 · February 2010

Sigh. Front office staff continue to blow my mind with their insensitivity. What a moron. It totally doesn't make a hill of beans of difference what you are having a D&C for. It's has a name because it's one procedure that is done the same way regardless of the reason. Furthermore there are really only a few of reason for having one, and they're ALL sensitive. Yeesh. I totally think you should mention it. Stuff like that just pours salt in the wounds of women suffering from loss and fertility issues.

bbhalphen · February 2010

I've been asked that question too. It really sucks. Sad I think they're so used to seeing people m/c, they get desensitized by it.

BTW, I love the picture of your family. I think your hair is so beautiful (and your family of course too!)

butterfly843 · February 2010

I have started to hate the front desk people at my dr's office. If I didn't love the dr's and nurses so much I would leave.

bohemianbeauty7 · February 2010

butterfly843:
I have started to hate the front desk people at my dr's office. If I didn't love the dr's and nurses so much I would leave.

I'm with you. Love the nurses, love the midwives, love my OB,....HATE the front desk people.

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