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Who's Dh doesnt give her gift. Vent
I came to join dh last year and got pregnnt underv 2weeks any way ong story short. I a SAHM . I get things if i want it but I've never gone out on my own because we have 1 car which he takes to work.
Dh has never on his own buy me gift. No gift for my birthday, thanksgiving, xmas, new year,easter v-day just name it.
I have my credit card but how will I get him a gift when I go out with him all the time. I don't have a friend nor relatives here and where we stay there's no bus nor train.The only person I call a friend isone of my church member who promised to come get me out sometime ago and I asked dh to bring down AJ's car seat he said he will take me to the place that friend wanted to take me to.The poor lady is pregnant again and she's not finding it easy.
Don't get me wrong I appreciate being able to stay at home with AJ while he works full time but I think little things like that make you feel appreciated.
I just lost it this morning and started crying like a baby because nothing for v- day. I'm I taking it too fa?r Stuf f like these make me want to get a job. I have a degree in Math and currently working on teching certification. Thanks for letting me vent.
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Re: Who's Dh doesnt give her gift. Vent
I do A LOT of online shopping.......
Anyway, it does suck when you feel overlooked at times. DH doesn't always do the gift thing, but sometimes for an anniversary or Christmas or birthday, he goes all out.
As far as not being able to get out to shop for him...use the internet! Buy online and have it shipped to your house.
Since the lack of gifts bothers you, it is probably time to say something to him about it. Chances are, the first holiday/event you spent together came and went without a gift and since you didn't say anything, he figures it is ok. Let him know that you appreciate being able to stay at home, but sometimes a little gift/suprise would be special. You can also give him a list of things you would like for your birthday/Christmas etc. He'll get the hint.
We only do gifts for birthdays and Christmas. Last year DH suprised me with an anniversary gift, but that is not our norm. Sorry you feel sad today
Don't feel bad. I don't think DH has ever gotten me a V-Day gift. This year he also took it upon himself to tell me to **** off during an argument over the dog. YAY me!!!
Also ditto what pp said about online shopping.
Definitely consider online shopping. A lot of stores have free shipping, too.
As for a gift from him--you need to talk to him about it. The first year we were together, DH completely blew off Valentine's Day (no card, no flowers, he didn't want to go to the dinner reservation I'd made). I was really upset and told him. I've gotten flowers and a card ever year since!
He just didn't realize how important it was to me. Now that he does, he makes a really big effort.
This. We decided that there are other ways to show our love. I know that DH loves me because he cleans up the kitchen every night while I get ready for bed, folds the laundry, and goes to work to care for our family when I know that it kills him to be away from DS all day.
With that being said, Men aren't naturally perceptive. If he wasn't told to get you a gift, then he isn't going to do it.... especially if you always get your own gift.
This. We never celebrate it. We figure our anniversary is for celebrating our love.