3rd Trimester

Make the promise -- I WILL BE HOT!!!!

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  • imagesdtchica13:
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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    I still have 13 weeks to go, but I have been making a major effort with my appearance to date. I don't leave the house without makeup (eyeliner and bronzer for my pale self) and I make every effort to be totally dressed (sometimes in yoga pants, but still a total cute yoga pant based outfit) before I go out as well. Granted, I also work full time in a law office and cant exactly go into work in my jammies, so that helps, but I am going to do my best to continue my current appearance efforts right up until the end of the pregnancy. The way I figure it, if I can keep up my appearance when I feel fat, exhausted and uncomfortable, I will be able to do it post pregnancy when I still feel fat, extremely exhausted and probably still uncomfortable, lol!

     OK, I have to post to say that this is scary! Please, please talk to your doctor so he/she can tell you why this is NOT safe! You should NOT be doing WW or working out one week after your LO is born. Your body will be healing and will be facing the new demands of BFing - please do what is best for your child and you and don't put your vanity over your health. I completely understand wanting to get back to your "old" self, and that will happen with time. But be amazed that this incredible feat your body is accomplishing - creating a new life! Yes, you gain some weight and lose some tone and maybe end up with a few stretch marks, but think what the trade off is! Your beautiful baby! Give your body time to heal and then refocus on working out. You may even find that you don't need to "diet" to lose the baby weight if you give your body time to recover (especially if you are BFing).  Or if you do need to diet there will be time for that. I just think it is helpful to remember that the changes taking place in your body are happening for a beautiful reason.

    Actually, anyone who has actually done WW knows that you are 100% wrong. First off, WW is the safest diet out there because you aren't cutting out any specific food group and forgoing the benefits of those foods. Second, when you go back on WW after baby, one of the questions you are asked before they determine how many points you should be eating is "Are you breastfeeding?". If you are, they adjust accordingly because they are aware that you need more calories while doing so for both your health and the baby's.

    Also, while I dont expect to be lifting weights and running a week after delivery (hell, I dont run in general unless there is a shoe sale, lol), there is absolutely no medical reason why I cant start walking, be it on a treadmill at the gym or outside in the nice weather with my puppy and/or LO (I am due in May, its generally gorgeous out in NJ by then). Unless you have a c/s or a really bad tear/episiotomy that precludes you from moving about, there is no reason to not get off your tush and get some exercise! Several good friends of mine have had babies recently, and ALL of them were back to eating uber healthy and exercising within a week or two unless they had a c/s. Are you going to tell me that ALL of their doctors are wrong?

    I find that the mentality that "I just had a baby, I cant diet or exercise cause its not good for me/baby" is a cop out and the reason why many women are still complaining 6 months later about not being able to lose "those last 10 pounds".

    As for all of you PP who are obviously second or third time moms and have done this before and are commenting "just you wait"...EVERYONE is different! How nuts did it drive you during your first pregnancy when people told you "just wait, you wont have time to do "x" or  "you should be doing "y" after baby is born"? Didn't all of you hate that and likely complain about it, not to mention realize that everyone's situation is different and some of "those people" were wrong? So why would any of you turn around and be so discouraging to those of us that may be able to actually do what we are planning to do? 

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    I'm not saying that eating healthy or walking aren't good ideas within the first few weeks after you give birth. However, I don't think you get how hard the first couple of months with your child is. If you plan to breastfeed, you can expect to be up every 2 hours or so. This takes a toll on the body quickly. God forbid you child have reflux or colic.

    Just an FYI, some people don't lose weight while breastfeeding/pumping.

    Also, don't say you can always count on your MIL and husband. It doesn't always work out that way, especially if you're the only person your child wants. 

    Honestly, it all boils down to the whole concept of motherhood, which is sacrifice. I think you need to realize this above all because from the moment that child enters the world, you come second. 

     

    Again, like I have said several times, everyone's situation is different! Obviously the goal of exercise 4 days a week and WW is contingent on having a healthy baby as well. I wouldn't dream of  leaving a screaming and uncomfortable colicky/refulx infant with someone else just so I can go to the gym, that is behavior not befitting a mother. I also plan to pump, but not breastfeed (its just not for me), which means I will not be the only one in charge of feeding LO, which should help!

    Also, obviously I am not going to always 100% count on my MIL, but I am damn well going to count on my husband! It takes TWO people to get pregnant, why should the mother be the only who has to make sacrifices? This isnt the dark ages, and last I checked, I was put on this earth for reasons other than breeding. I have a career as well, and an education I refuse to waste. This is 2010, women dont need to completely give up themselves to have a family, especially when they have a DH who is supportive and believes it is his responsibility as well to care for his children!

    I feel like there is a LOT of negativity on this board, and all of it is coming from 2nd and 3rd time mothers...why not try to be supportive of all of us first time mommies rather than try your hardest to discourage us?

    I will try not to be negative in my response. I think/hope a lot of the other posters are not trying to be negative, but are trying to give you a dose of reality and tough love. A lot of us had those same aspirations to get back to the gym quickly, and were very disappointed when we were not able to reach theses goals.

    Even with the best intentions, everything does not always work out as we hope and plan for. I was way too sore (episiotomy) at one week, hell two weeks, PP to be able to even walk on the treadmill. I was able to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight fairly quickly, but I consider this more luck than anything I did to facilitate weight loss. I was also pumping and was able to keep up a fairly healthy supply until my recent BFP.

    Hope that did not sound negative. It was just my reality. Best of luck to you!

     

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  • imagesdtchica13:

    Actually, anyone who has actually done WW knows that you are 100% wrong. First off, WW is the safest diet out there because you aren't cutting out any specific food group and forgoing the benefits of those foods. Second, when you go back on WW after baby, one of the questions you are asked before they determine how many points you should be eating is "Are you breastfeeding?". If you are, they adjust accordingly because they are aware that you need more calories while doing so for both your health and the baby's.

    Also, while I dont expect to be lifting weights and running a week after delivery (hell, I dont run in general unless there is a shoe sale, lol), there is absolutely no medical reason why I cant start walking, be it on a treadmill at the gym or outside in the nice weather with my puppy and/or LO (I am due in May, its generally gorgeous out in NJ by then). Unless you have a c/s or a really bad tear/episiotomy that precludes you from moving about, there is no reason to not get off your tush and get some exercise! Several good friends of mine have had babies recently, and ALL of them were back to eating uber healthy and exercising within a week or two unless they had a c/s. Are you going to tell me that ALL of their doctors are wrong?

    I find that the mentality that "I just had a baby, I cant diet or exercise cause its not good for me/baby" is a cop out and the reason why many women are still complaining 6 months later about not being able to lose "those last 10 pounds".

    As for all of you PP who are obviously second or third time moms and have done this before and are commenting "just you wait"...EVERYONE is different! How nuts did it drive you during your first pregnancy when people told you "just wait, you wont have time to do "x" or  "you should be doing "y" after baby is born"? Didn't all of you hate that and likely complain about it, not to mention realize that everyone's situation is different and some of "those people" were wrong? So why would any of you turn around and be so discouraging to those of us that may be able to actually do what we are planning to do? 

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    This is just precious.

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    imagesdtchica13:

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    OMG. OMG. OMG. There is so much insulting stuff in this post that I can't even being.

    I'm going to say it. Just. You. Wait. I'll be looking for you on 0-6 complaining in June!

    Ok, someone CLEARLY doesn't have their big girl panties on! I actually go out of my way in this post to say how everyone's situation is different. I did not insult anyone, nor am I judging how anyone else runs their life. I am simply saying that having a child means compromise and sacrifice for BOTH parents, not just the mother. If I didn't know going in that I would have 100% support from DH, then I wouldn't have felt ready to have children yet. He has been amazing; he has been at every appointment with me, he has gone out of his way to make sure I don't do ANYTHING that I am not supposed to do (I'm on VERY restricted activity due to doc's orders) and has mentioned on more than one occasion that he is glad he runs his own firm and can be home at a normal hour to help care for his daughter. Again, that is my specific situation and I am well aware that it doesn't apply to everyone.

    Please, enlighten all of us as to how I was in any way insulting in this post. And, while you are at it, why not hold your breath till June when you can start looking for me on the 0-6 board...you wont find me there, and we will ALL have a quiet 4 months without your negativity until then...

  • I couldn't even get shoes on my feet a week post-partum (with my 3rd baby) because of the edema from my c-section. 

     

    Also,  I was an exclusive pumper for 5 months (due to not just bad, but terrible latching problems), and it's something you really need to consider carefully, because it is very time consuming and demanding.  More so than breastfeeding alone.  I would 100% support anyone who makes this courageous decision to only pump, but don't have unrealistic expectations that it will be a piece of cake to do it. 

  • HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

    Good luck! You do realize that ONLY pumping is WAY harder than just BF, right? And cutting your calories on WW (even if you account for the BF) is only going to make it worse, right? K.

    I had goals to keep riding my horse afer DS was born. He is now 13 mo and I have ridden 4 times.... Between working FT, having a reflux/ milk allergy baby for a few months, being tied to the baby or a pump 24/7, I was EXHAUSTED. 

    I also had a c/s, and just getting up off the couch or up and down stairs was damn painful for the first 2+ weeks!

    I'm not saying it can never be done, but for chrissake, girl, give yourself a couple weeks to heal up! You gonna have sex after a week, too?? 

    edit: since you are so hung up on looks, I am back to my Pre-PG weight, but my jeans do not fit b/c my hips are bigger, and so are my feet. My belly looks about 4 mo pg even with doing ab work. Having a 9lb 11oz baby cut out of my stomach/abs will do that to a 5'1" girl...

    I think people are insulted by your post b/c you are saying Moms who aren't "hot" are just lazy...

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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    imagesdtchica13:

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    You're delusional.  It must be nice living in that little dream world, but it will not be fun for you when it all evaporates.  I have a treadmill IN MY HOUSE and can't find time to exercise every day.  God help you if your milk supply is as finicky as mine, because if it is, you WON'T be able to exercise like you want to or your supply will die.  If I run a MILE, I pump 5 oz. less than normal at at work during the day.  I am just thrilled that I haven't gained any weight after giving birth.  But you know what?  Feeding my child is more important to me than being a MILF.  The only man I'm concerned about wanting me is my husband, and our sex life is actually better than it was pre-pregnancy.  If your husband is pushing you to get back to your pre-baby body as soon as possible instead of when it is healthy, then I'm afraid you've married a douchebag.  And you know what?  Daddy is not the same as Mommy.  If your child wants Mommy, then Daddy just won't do.  If you think Daddy is going to volunteer regularly to get up in the middle of the night with baby so you can get your beauty sleep, you are sorely mistaken.

    But I hope all your ill-conceived hopes and dreams work out for you, so that you can continue to think that it's all just so easy and keep judging other moms who aren't as perfect as you think you will be after pushing out that baby.  Good luck to you.

    I HAVE CHILDREN.
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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    I still have 13 weeks to go, but I have been making a major effort with my appearance to date. I don't leave the house without makeup (eyeliner and bronzer for my pale self) and I make every effort to be totally dressed (sometimes in yoga pants, but still a total cute yoga pant based outfit) before I go out as well. Granted, I also work full time in a law office and cant exactly go into work in my jammies, so that helps, but I am going to do my best to continue my current appearance efforts right up until the end of the pregnancy. The way I figure it, if I can keep up my appearance when I feel fat, exhausted and uncomfortable, I will be able to do it post pregnancy when I still feel fat, extremely exhausted and probably still uncomfortable, lol!

     OK, I have to post to say that this is scary! Please, please talk to your doctor so he/she can tell you why this is NOT safe! You should NOT be doing WW or working out one week after your LO is born. Your body will be healing and will be facing the new demands of BFing - please do what is best for your child and you and don't put your vanity over your health. I completely understand wanting to get back to your "old" self, and that will happen with time. But be amazed that this incredible feat your body is accomplishing - creating a new life! Yes, you gain some weight and lose some tone and maybe end up with a few stretch marks, but think what the trade off is! Your beautiful baby! Give your body time to heal and then refocus on working out. You may even find that you don't need to "diet" to lose the baby weight if you give your body time to recover (especially if you are BFing).  Or if you do need to diet there will be time for that. I just think it is helpful to remember that the changes taking place in your body are happening for a beautiful reason.

    Actually, anyone who has actually done WW knows that you are 100% wrong. First off, WW is the safest diet out there because you aren't cutting out any specific food group and forgoing the benefits of those foods. Second, when you go back on WW after baby, one of the questions you are asked before they determine how many points you should be eating is "Are you breastfeeding?". If you are, they adjust accordingly because they are aware that you need more calories while doing so for both your health and the baby's.

    Also, while I dont expect to be lifting weights and running a week after delivery (hell, I dont run in general unless there is a shoe sale, lol), there is absolutely no medical reason why I cant start walking, be it on a treadmill at the gym or outside in the nice weather with my puppy and/or LO (I am due in May, its generally gorgeous out in NJ by then). Unless you have a c/s or a really bad tear/episiotomy that precludes you from moving about, there is no reason to not get off your tush and get some exercise! Several good friends of mine have had babies recently, and ALL of them were back to eating uber healthy and exercising within a week or two unless they had a c/s. Are you going to tell me that ALL of their doctors are wrong?

    I find that the mentality that "I just had a baby, I cant diet or exercise cause its not good for me/baby" is a cop out and the reason why many women are still complaining 6 months later about not being able to lose "those last 10 pounds".

    As for all of you PP who are obviously second or third time moms and have done this before and are commenting "just you wait"...EVERYONE is different! How nuts did it drive you during your first pregnancy when people told you "just wait, you wont have time to do "x" or  "you should be doing "y" after baby is born"? Didn't all of you hate that and likely complain about it, not to mention realize that everyone's situation is different and some of "those people" were wrong? So why would any of you turn around and be so discouraging to those of us that may be able to actually do what we are planning to do? 

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    I'm not saying that eating healthy or walking aren't good ideas within the first few weeks after you give birth. However, I don't think you get how hard the first couple of months with your child is. If you plan to breastfeed, you can expect to be up every 2 hours or so. This takes a toll on the body quickly. God forbid you child have reflux or colic.

    Just an FYI, some people don't lose weight while breastfeeding/pumping.

    Also, don't say you can always count on your MIL and husband. It doesn't always work out that way, especially if you're the only person your child wants. 

    Honestly, it all boils down to the whole concept of motherhood, which is sacrifice. I think you need to realize this above all because from the moment that child enters the world, you come second. 

     

    Again, like I have said several times, everyone's situation is different! Obviously the goal of exercise 4 days a week and WW is contingent on having a healthy baby as well. I wouldn't dream of  leaving a screaming and uncomfortable colicky/refulx infant with someone else just so I can go to the gym, that is behavior not befitting a mother. I also plan to pump, but not breastfeed (its just not for me), which means I will not be the only one in charge of feeding LO, which should help!

    Also, obviously I am not going to always 100% count on my MIL, but I am damn well going to count on my husband! It takes TWO people to get pregnant, why should the mother be the only who has to make sacrifices? This isnt the dark ages, and last I checked, I was put on this earth for reasons other than breeding. I have a career as well, and an education I refuse to waste. This is 2010, women dont need to completely give up themselves to have a family, especially when they have a DH who is supportive and believes it is his responsibility as well to care for his children!

    I feel like there is a LOT of negativity on this board, and all of it is coming from 2nd and 3rd time mothers...why not try to be supportive of all of us first time mommies rather than try your hardest to discourage us?

    I will try not to be negative in my response. I think/hope a lot of the other posters are not trying to be negative, but are trying to give you a dose of reality and tough love. A lot of us had those same aspirations to get back to the gym quickly, and were very disappointed when we were not able to reach theses goals.

    Even with the best intentions, everything does not always work out as we hope and plan for. I was way too sore (episiotomy) at one week, hell two weeks, PP to be able to even walk on the treadmill. I was able to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight fairly quickly, but I consider this more luck than anything I did to facilitate weight loss. I was also pumping and was able to keep up a fairly healthy supply until my recent BFP.

    Hope that did not sound negative. It was just my reality. Best of luck to you!

     

    Thank you so much for your not negative response! I totally understand that even the best laid plans go awry after LO is born, and I would imagine that episiotomy can throw a wrench into even the most air tight plans! I dont want to be superwoman, nor will I try to be, especially if I need a c/s or episiotomy or tear (yikes!). My goal is definitely based on having a normal and relatively uncomplicated delivery; the goal will change if that ends up not being the case (I'm not nuts, lol).

    I am not saying that post like yours are negative, because they are definitely not. The negative posts are coming from those on the board who keep laughing at us first time mommies and saying "just you wait. Those posts do nothing but discourage the rest of us and their comments are NOT welcome!

    On another note, your LO is sooooooooo adorable, I want to eat her! Big Smile 


  • I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym.

    **MH is home by 7 every night but after dealing with a NB all day the last thing on your mind will be going to the gym. You'll probably still be in your pajamas and haven't eaten all day b/c you've been trying to feed and care for the baby. That's motherhood, not sacrifice** 

     

    Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.

    ***I don't know how you don't find this insulting. MH is amazing, he works very hard so I can stay home and is very supportive. HOWEVER, both of my children are in bed, asleep, before he gets home. Sooooo, since I'm taking care of the kids all day by myself, I really don't have enough time. I'm exhausted at the end of the day.*** 

    I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it

    ***I did WW and lost 25 lbs before getting pregnant with DS, so I know how to cook and eat healthy. But when your child is on the boob every night from 5-7 (like my son was for the first 6 weeks) it's pretty damn hard to do anything but sit on the couch and allow your child to nurse. Frozen pizza is turning on the oven and putting it in. Cooking is slightly more involved than that.*** 

    ...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    ***Aaaaaand here's where you're delusional. YOU WON'T HAVE TIME TO DO THIS. YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE DRASTICALLY WHEN YOUR CHILD IS BORN. Thinking anything otherwise is ridiculous, and frankly, INSULTING.***   

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    ***I care more about seeing my children and spending time with them than going to the gym for an hour. I'm doing what's best for my children, it has nothing to do with caring enough to make time. There's just not enough time in the day.***

     

    So, I repeat. Just wait! 


    Ok, someone CLEARLY doesn't have their big girl panties on! I actually go out of my way in this post to say how everyone's situation is different. I did not insult anyone, nor am I judging how anyone else runs their life.

    ***You're totally judgemental and insulting!*** 


     

    You're being unrealistic, and in turn setting yourself up to fail. Going on WW at 1 week is dangerous for yourself and your body. I guarantee that your friends didn't clear going on a diet with their doctor at 1 week, because they would have said, "You're crazy!" especially if they're BFing. 

  • imagesdtchica13:

    LOL, the giant pad thing DID cross my mind (and as a chick who has been using tampons since I first got my period, I am NOT looking forward to this AT ALL), and so did the sledgehammer to the crotch thing. Like I have said numerous times (and everyone seems to be ignoring), everyone's situation is different. I agree that its good to have a goal, but thats just it, its a GOAL, something to work towards, not something that is set in stone! If I am in pain, I am not going to push myself and possibly do myself harm just so I can fit back into a size 8! I dont think setting a fairly realistic goal is setting myself up for failure.

    I know I sound really vain, but you have to understand, I was a LOT heavier (like 25 pounds heavier on a 5'2 frame, and a BMI that had me in the overweight range)) a few years ago before I went on WW and started working out and I worked really hard to get myself healthy and fit. Once I got pregnant, I intended to go to the gym the entire 9 months to stay fit and healthy and was doing well on that goal until 20w, 2 days when I had heavy bleeding due to placenta previa and was told no more exercise AT ALL until my placenta decided to behave! I am now up 28 pounds (and I still have 13 weeks to go!) from pre-preg and no matter how healthy I eat, I just keep getting bigger due to the lack of activity. I want to make sure I am doing everything in my power to take this weight off post pregnancy and get back to being healthy again.

    No, you're getting bigger because you're pregnant. You're also in your third trimester where the baby starts putting on weight rapidly.

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  • imageKellina:

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

    Good luck! You do realize that ONLY pumping is WAY harder than just BF, right? And cutting your calories on WW (even if you account for the BF) is only going to make it worse, right? K.

    I had goals to keep riding my horse afer DS was born. He is now 13 mo and I have ridden 4 times.... Between working FT, having a reflux/ milk allergy baby for a few months, being tied to the baby or a pump 24/7, I was EXHAUSTED. 

    I also had a c/s, and just getting up off the couch or up and down stairs was damn painful for the first 2+ weeks!

    I'm not saying it can never be done, but for chrissake, girl, give yourself a couple weeks to heal up! You gonna have sex after a week, too?? 

    edit: since you are so hung up on looks, I am back to my Pre-PG weight, but my jeans do not fit b/c my hips are bigger, and so are my feet. My belly looks about 4 mo pg even with doing ab work. Having a 9lb 11oz baby cut out of my stomach/abs will do that to a 5'1" girl...

    I think people are insulted by your post b/c you are saying Moms who aren't "hot" are just lazy...

    I never once said that moms who aren't "hot" are lazy, nor would I ever say that. "Hot" is a relative term anyway and there are plenty of hot mommas that are not a skinny size 2 (hell, I wasn't a size 2 pre-preg, and HIGHLY doubt I could ever be even without having babies...the last time I was a size 2 I was coming out of a uterus myself, lol!). Its not a matter of laziness at all, but rather a matter of being sure to make time for yourself so you aren't an unhappy mommy. (And so you don't go insane in the process!)

    I am little like you (only 5'2) and I am sure thats going to take a toll on how my clothes fit even after losing the baby weight...us petite gals never have it easy! Also, like I said on PP's obviously being able to get back into exercising is contingent on having a normal and relatively uncomplicated delivery...I have heard the recovery from a c/s is NOT fun and neither is healing after an episiotomy or a tear, so obviously if any of those situations arise, I would give myself time to heal and not be running back to the gym so soon; I'm not nuts, hehe! I just find that setting some kind of goal for myself is a lot better than just winging it...its what works for me, but that's not to say that it would work for everyone!

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    imagesdtchica13:

    LOL, the giant pad thing DID cross my mind (and as a chick who has been using tampons since I first got my period, I am NOT looking forward to this AT ALL), and so did the sledgehammer to the crotch thing. Like I have said numerous times (and everyone seems to be ignoring), everyone's situation is different. I agree that its good to have a goal, but thats just it, its a GOAL, something to work towards, not something that is set in stone! If I am in pain, I am not going to push myself and possibly do myself harm just so I can fit back into a size 8! I dont think setting a fairly realistic goal is setting myself up for failure.

    I know I sound really vain, but you have to understand, I was a LOT heavier (like 25 pounds heavier on a 5'2 frame, and a BMI that had me in the overweight range)) a few years ago before I went on WW and started working out and I worked really hard to get myself healthy and fit. Once I got pregnant, I intended to go to the gym the entire 9 months to stay fit and healthy and was doing well on that goal until 20w, 2 days when I had heavy bleeding due to placenta previa and was told no more exercise AT ALL until my placenta decided to behave! I am now up 28 pounds (and I still have 13 weeks to go!) from pre-preg and no matter how healthy I eat, I just keep getting bigger due to the lack of activity. I want to make sure I am doing everything in my power to take this weight off post pregnancy and get back to being healthy again.

    No, you're getting bigger because you're pregnant. You're also in your third trimester where the baby starts putting on weight rapidly.

    Oy, if 3rd trimester is where you are supposed to put on weight rapidly, what the heck was my excuse for the past 2 trimesters? Even in first tri when I was going to the gym consistently and eating fairly healthy, I managed to gain 11 pounds! My only saving grace appears to be that my boobs have gained 10 of those 28 pounds and my doctors dont seem concerned, but its frustrating when all you read in  baby books is how you are "only supposed to gain 25-35 pounds TOTAL" and here I am with 13 weeks to go and already towards the top of that "healthy range". 

  • As sad as it is and as hard as it may be to hear, the posters who've had their babies already are telling you the truth!  I didn't bf, but I lost 30 lbs in the first month because all I had time for was taking care of DS!  Many days I would realize as I went to bed that I had forgotten to eat.  Not something I would suggest to lose weight, but it's definitely something that can happen. 

    My SO was amazing.  He'd come home from work and let me get some sleep, but as a pp said, sometimes a baby wants his mom!  As patient and eager to help/learn everything as SO was, he was also nervous and DS sensed that and spent most of the time with his daddy crying!  It was so hard for me to do anything because I knew it was rough on both of them.  It wasn't until probably 4 months that DS totally adjusted to being with just daddy.

     A healthy goal is good, and I believe you mentioned you would get it ok'd by doctor which I think is most important, but just know it may not be as easy as you have planned, and it may take longer than expected.  As anothe pp mentioned, the sledgehammer to the vagina thing is insane.  I had an easy labor.  I felt like the week or two after were the most painful part of having DS.  It was painful and that was something no one warned me about! 

    Being healthy is important, but I hope you take plenty of time to enjoy your LO because I know my DS is growing so fast, spending every moment I can with him is definitely my priority, otherwise I feel like I'd miss out on so much.  I got next to know sleep staying up with my poor sick LO last night, but sitting here cuddling him makes it all worth it. Smile  Good luck to you all.  Having a baby is an amazing thing. 

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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    imagesdtchica13:

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    You're delusional.  It must be nice living in that little dream world, but it will not be fun for you when it all evaporates.  I have a treadmill IN MY HOUSE and can't find time to exercise every day.  God help you if your milk supply is as finicky as mine, because if it is, you WON'T be able to exercise like you want to or your supply will die.  If I run a MILE, I pump 5 oz. less than normal at at work during the day.  I am just thrilled that I haven't gained any weight after giving birth.  But you know what?  Feeding my child is more important to me than being a MILF.  The only man I'm concerned about wanting me is my husband, and our sex life is actually better than it was pre-pregnancy.  If your husband is pushing you to get back to your pre-baby body as soon as possible instead of when it is healthy, then I'm afraid you've married a douchebag.  And you know what?  Daddy is not the same as Mommy.  If your child wants Mommy, then Daddy just won't do.  If you think Daddy is going to volunteer regularly to get up in the middle of the night with baby so you can get your beauty sleep, you are sorely mistaken.

    But I hope all your ill-conceived hopes and dreams work out for you, so that you can continue to think that it's all just so easy and keep judging other moms who aren't as perfect as you think you will be after pushing out that baby.  Good luck to you.

    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

  • Just wanted to throw my 2 cents in.  I know I hated it when people would tell me "Just you wait," when I was pregnant so I'll try not to do that, just share my experiences with you.

    I was in good shape when I got pregnant and stayed fairly active (at least some daily walking) throughout my pregnancy.  I gained 38 lbs.  I didn't eat super healthy (willpower went out the window in 3rd tri), but my Dr was totally fine with me going over the recommended 25-35 gain by 3 lbs. 

    I had a med/intervention free delivery (I did let them break my water though) and walked throughout my labor (no iv and only intermittent monitoring). I pushed for 10-15 minutes and ended up with a 2nd degree tear (which my Dr. said is very common for first time moms).

    A week pp I started walking around the neighborhood.  I was feeling good physically (except for the tear) and even that slight amount of exercise would make my pp bleeding (from the giant wound in my ute, not the tear) much heavier.  Heck, even leaving the house to go to the Dr's office was too much for my body and would cause my bleeding to increase.

    I bled for 6 weeks from my super easy uncomplicated delivery.

    I had no issues BFing (still am to this day).  I pump while at work (went back before DS was 3 months old) and nurse at home.  Pumping is a million times harder than actually nursing.  I was weirded out by the idea of nursing before DS was here, but can't imagine not nursing him now.  It's one of those things that you have to experience for yourself to know how you'll really feel about it.

    I tried to work out hard core before going back to work because I did NOT want to go back in maternity clothes.  Guess what, working out actually halted my weight loss.  That's right, I did better with NOT working out.  I'd lost weight twice before with carefully counting calories and hitting the gym, but that's just not what works for me right now while I'm BFing apparently.  I'm now under my pre-preg weight (which was healthy to start out with), fitting into all of my old clothes, but my body is nowhere near the same.

    As for the time/sleep factor, that was the most unexpected thing for me pp.  You really and truly cannot understand what the sleep deprivation of having a newborn is until you're there.  I know it's annoying to hear that, but it's true.  I thought, "Hey, I pulled all nighters in college, I'll be fine."  It's nothing like that.  I thought DH and I would trade off nights when I went back to work, but I soon realized that if I was BFing, even if he got up with DS, I would need to pump to make up for the missed feeding to keep up my supply.

    When I first went back to work, I was in bed by 6 or 7 every night because I was that exhausted.

    It took 9 months to put all the weight on, so give it 9 months to come off.  If it comes off sooner that's great, but don't set yourself up for disappointment with what could possibly be unrealistic goals.  Maybe you'll be lucky and walk out of the hospital in your skinny jeans though.  Who knows.


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  • How are you insulting?  HOW are you insulting?  Listen here stdchick.  You have no idea what it's like to have a baby at home.  None.  And yet you sit here judging mothers by saying things like not making time to go to the gym is a cop out, and insinuating that only laziness keeps people from having a healthy meal on the table every night. 

    I never say this.  Never.  But JUST YOU WAIT.  God help you when you realize that just because you're pumping so someone else can help you feed your child, you still have to pump EVERY TIME THEY EAT.  You don't get out of a meal just because you can put some BM in a bottle.  In fact you're doubling your workload before your baby is even here by planning to EP.  I'm not saying you shouldn't, but I don't think you realize what you're in for.

    You also clearly don't realize that even happy, healthy babies sometimes only want Mommy at first.  Are you planning on leaving your screaming child home with Daddy just so you can go walk on a freaking treadmill for 45 minutes? 

    Plus you may lose the weight, but your body is going to be different especially at first.  Your hips will be wider, your body fat will be in odd places, your ribs will be wider, etc.  You can't exercise that away, and planning to go to the gym all the time just so you can be back in your pre-pg jeans within a month (or whatever) is setting yourself up for failure. 

    My husband is an AMAZING dad.  When he's home he does more than his half of the workload with our twins.  Even when he's home I still don't have time to go to the gym, and no that's not a cop out.  That's having to get dinner on the table, clothes washed, house cleaned, and having a son who wants nothing to do with anyone other than Mom. 

  • I was not trying to be negative. I just hate to see somebody put too much pressure on themselves to achieve when there might be unforeseen obstacles in the way.  I also understand that a positive body image is very important to mental health.  I am sure you will be fit and healthy just give yourself time.  Oh and after a full day of work you might surprise yourself.  You might rather rush home to see that baby you have been aching to see all day.  They are only little and squishy once and time flies!!
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  • imagesdtchica13:

    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

    I'm confused. You said you plan to EP. If thats true, then you'll be up every two hours pumping anyway, no?

  • imagethegan:

    As sad as it is and as hard as it may be to hear, the posters who've had their babies already are telling you the truth!  I didn't bf, but I lost 30 lbs in the first month because all I had time for was taking care of DS!  Many days I would realize as I went to bed that I had forgotten to eat.  Not something I would suggest to lose weight, but it's definitely something that can happen. 

    My SO was amazing.  He'd come home from work and let me get some sleep, but as a pp said, sometimes a baby wants his mom!  As patient and eager to help/learn everything as SO was, he was also nervous and DS sensed that and spent most of the time with his daddy crying!  It was so hard for me to do anything because I knew it was rough on both of them.  It wasn't until probably 4 months that DS totally adjusted to being with just daddy.

     A healthy goal is good, and I believe you mentioned you would get it ok'd by doctor which I think is most important, but just know it may not be as easy as you have planned, and it may take longer than expected.  As anothe pp mentioned, the sledgehammer to the vagina thing is insane.  I had an easy labor.  I felt like the week or two after were the most painful part of having DS.  It was painful and that was something no one warned me about! 

    Being healthy is important, but I hope you take plenty of time to enjoy your LO because I know my DS is growing so fast, spending every moment I can with him is definitely my priority, otherwise I feel like I'd miss out on so much.  I got next to know sleep staying up with my poor sick LO last night, but sitting here cuddling him makes it all worth it. Smile  Good luck to you all.  Having a baby is an amazing thing. 

    I couldnt agree more. Obviously getting back in shape will come second to LO. I am soooo excited to be having my little girl, and cannot wait for her to arrive so I can enjoy every second. I am glad you have a supportive SO, because you are literally the first person on this board to post and say how wonderful and helpful he was, and he sounds amazing! My DH is actually pretty comfortable around newborns in general (I should know, I have been throwing every friend's tiny one into his arms for the past several months to make sure, hehe), so hopefully he will adjust quickly, lets keep our fingers crossed! Like I have said in several replies, these are just personal goals, its doesn't mean they will happen exactly as I hope, but it doesn't hurt to set them anyway!

    BTW, your DS is beautiful, I LOVE his curls!

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    Oh my dear... you have no idea what you're in for, now do you?  I exercised almost daily, and ran road races while I was pregnant.  I even worked out the day I went into labor.  However, I wasn't even THINKING about getting on the treadmill until a few weeks after DS was born.  You'll see what I mean.  And even when I thought about it, I still waited until my 6 week PP checkup to get permission to run.  There's no point in me (or anyone else) trying to explain it to you.  You'll find out very soon!  Just remember, working out and dieting at 

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    Oh my dear... you have no idea what you're in for, now do you?  I exercised almost daily, and ran road races while I was pregnant.  I even worked out the day I went into labor.  However, I wasn't even THINKING about getting on the treadmill until a few weeks after DS was born.  You'll see what I mean.  And even when I thought about it, I still waited until my 6 week PP checkup to get permission to run.  There's no point in me (or anyone else) trying to explain it to you.  You'll find out very soon!  Just remember, working out and dieting at 1

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    Oh my dear... you have no idea what you're in for, now do you?  I exercised almost daily, and ran road races while I was pregnant.  I even worked out the day I went into labor.  However, I wasn't even THINKING about getting on the treadmill until a few weeks after DS was born.  You'll see what I mean.  And even when I thought about it, I still waited until my 6 week PP checkup to get permission to run.  There's no point in me (or anyone else) trying to explain it to you.  You'll find out very soon!  Just remember, working out and dieting at one week PP will not even be on your mind.  YWIA!

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  • imagerobbie3982:

    Just wanted to throw my 2 cents in.  I know I hated it when people would tell me "Just you wait," when I was pregnant so I'll try not to do that, just share my experiences with you.

    I was in good shape when I got pregnant and stayed fairly active (at least some daily walking) throughout my pregnancy.  I gained 38 lbs.  I didn't eat super healthy (willpower went out the window in 3rd tri), but my Dr was totally fine with me going over the recommended 25-35 gain by 3 lbs. 

    I had a med/intervention free delivery (I did let them break my water though) and walked throughout my labor (no iv and only intermittent monitoring). I pushed for 10-15 minutes and ended up with a 2nd degree tear (which my Dr. said is very common for first time moms).

    A week pp I started walking around the neighborhood.  I was feeling good physically (except for the tear) and even that slight amount of exercise would make my pp bleeding (from the giant wound in my ute, not the tear) much heavier.  Heck, even leaving the house to go to the Dr's office was too much for my body and would cause my bleeding to increase.

    I bled for 6 weeks from my super easy uncomplicated delivery.

    I had no issues BFing (still am to this day).  I pump while at work (went back before DS was 3 months old) and nurse at home.  Pumping is a million times harder than actually nursing.  I was weirded out by the idea of nursing before DS was here, but can't imagine not nursing him now.  It's one of those things that you have to experience for yourself to know how you'll really feel about it.

    I tried to work out hard core before going back to work because I did NOT want to go back in maternity clothes.  Guess what, working out actually halted my weight loss.  That's right, I did better with NOT working out.  I'd lost weight twice before with carefully counting calories and hitting the gym, but that's just not what works for me right now while I'm BFing apparently.  I'm now under my pre-preg weight (which was healthy to start out with), fitting into all of my old clothes, but my body is nowhere near the same.

    As for the time/sleep factor, that was the most unexpected thing for me pp.  You really and truly cannot understand what the sleep deprivation of having a newborn is until you're there.  I know it's annoying to hear that, but it's true.  I thought, "Hey, I pulled all nighters in college, I'll be fine."  It's nothing like that.  I thought DH and I would trade off nights when I went back to work, but I soon realized that if I was BFing, even if he got up with DS, I would need to pump to make up for the missed feeding to keep up my supply.

    When I first went back to work, I was in bed by 6 or 7 every night because I was that exhausted.

    It took 9 months to put all the weight on, so give it 9 months to come off.  If it comes off sooner that's great, but don't set yourself up for disappointment with what could possibly be unrealistic goals.  Maybe you'll be lucky and walk out of the hospital in your skinny jeans though.  Who knows.


    LOL, highly unlikely, my skinny jeans went the way of the dodo at about 12 weeks, and I haven't seen them since, hehe!  Thank you for sharing your experience rather than flaming or hurling accusations, I do appreciate the input! I know I may need to learn to slow down a bit, because I am generally used to fitting 400 things into a 24 hour day and get really cranky if I cant get everything done. It's something I am working on, and hopefully I will be able to stop putting so much pressure on myself to "handle everything" before LO comes in May! Here's hoping!

  • I really don't want to be critical, but I did have to giggle at this post. I thought somewhat the same way back in the 3rd tri - that there was no reason I couldn't get back on WeightWatchers within two weeks after delivery, that it would be easy to squeeze in jumping on my exercise bike when he was napping or walking around the neighborhood to get exercise. I even, like you, thought that having a puppy had somewhat prepared me for having a baby.

    My husband, too, thought it would be easy. He kept saying "I don't mind getting up at night! I've gone without sleep before!"

    And then, you get home from the hospital. And reality sets in. And I'll say it right now, if you're really going to the gym and dieting and cooking healthy meals at 1 week postpartum (hell, even 6 weeks postpartum!), I'll personally mail you a giant gold medal because you will be my hero.

    I gained 55 lbs. with my pregnancy. I work in the television industry and appearance is pretty damn important, but every single time I've tried WW and cutting calories, my milk supply has dropped so much that I have to supplement, which isn't worth it to me. I work all day, get home at 7:30, put baby to bed, make dinner, eat at 9 and collapse with exhaustion, and that's without doing any of my schoolwork. Exercise? What's that? I'm just hoping once the weather gets nice I can take him for walks and that will help.

    I know how much it sucks to have people say "just you wait", but at the same time, don't have unrealistic expectations or you're setting yourself up for failure. And realize that EP'ing is so so so much harder than nursing. Sure, your DH can get up with the baby but if he does, you also have to get up and strap yourself to the pump every.single.time she eats. Plus you get the added bonus of washing millions of pump parts and bottles. I EP'd for two days and couldn't hack it, went right back to nursing. 

    Believe me, if my DH came home or my mother-in-law came over, even now, the only thing I would do is shower and nap. There's not much time for that the first 3 months.

    Good luck! 

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  • imagesdtchica13:

    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

    You're comparing a newborn baby to a puppy, yet I'm the one who is obnoxious.  Right.  Puppies are nowhere near as needy as an infant.  You can't just put some newspapers and a bowl of kibble down for an infant.  Puppies don't cry, either.  But I bet your baby will never cry, will STTN within a week, and life will be all rainbows and unicorns.  You are talking out of your @ss without even knowing what you are talking about.  "I WILL go to the gym, DH WILL get up with the baby, I WILL put myself on a diet."  Life after giving birth is not full of absolutes like that.  You sound like you're implying that women who don't bounce right back (conventional, uncomplicated delivery or not) are lazy or somehow "less than" you because you have all these grandiose ideas about what life will be like without knowing ANYTHING about what life after baby is actually like.  Reread your words.  I admittedly may have been rude (and this is very rare for me on TB), but you were rude first.

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  • Setting yourself up such a huge goal is really going to cause problems for you if it doesn't work out.  Especially if you end up with post partum depression. 

    My DD had colic.  She was attached to my hip almost all day.  She wanted no one else.  And my fantastic husband that was so great and I swore that was going to be fantastic when the baby came?  Yeah he dropped the ball a lot.  Much different when the baby was ours.  When the baby cried every half hour.  When the baby had reflux and cried and puked after every feeding.  And cried for 3-4 hours straight nightly.

    I was a walking, sleep deprived, crying mess.  I thought I'd be up and around and put together.  What a joke.  I left the house when I had to. And what made it worse was the goal I had set for myself made me feel like a failure.  Especially when the visitors stop coming and your DH goes back to work.  And he's tired from a crying baby, and expects you to keep up with some things around the house too.

    Getting your body in shape is secondary to everything that's going to happen to you.  You have to get used to being a mom, taking care of someone other than yourself.  And no matter what anyone says, your marriage goes through a change.

    It's a lot to accept at one time. 

    And its ok not to be a MILF.  That's a dumb term anyway. I hear MILF and think of skank.  Just have class and be put together.

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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    I still have 13 weeks to go, but I have been making a major effort with my appearance to date. I don't leave the house without makeup (eyeliner and bronzer for my pale self) and I make every effort to be totally dressed (sometimes in yoga pants, but still a total cute yoga pant based outfit) before I go out as well. Granted, I also work full time in a law office and cant exactly go into work in my jammies, so that helps, but I am going to do my best to continue my current appearance efforts right up until the end of the pregnancy. The way I figure it, if I can keep up my appearance when I feel fat, exhausted and uncomfortable, I will be able to do it post pregnancy when I still feel fat, extremely exhausted and probably still uncomfortable, lol!

     OK, I have to post to say that this is scary! Please, please talk to your doctor so he/she can tell you why this is NOT safe! You should NOT be doing WW or working out one week after your LO is born. Your body will be healing and will be facing the new demands of BFing - please do what is best for your child and you and don't put your vanity over your health. I completely understand wanting to get back to your "old" self, and that will happen with time. But be amazed that this incredible feat your body is accomplishing - creating a new life! Yes, you gain some weight and lose some tone and maybe end up with a few stretch marks, but think what the trade off is! Your beautiful baby! Give your body time to heal and then refocus on working out. You may even find that you don't need to "diet" to lose the baby weight if you give your body time to recover (especially if you are BFing).  Or if you do need to diet there will be time for that. I just think it is helpful to remember that the changes taking place in your body are happening for a beautiful reason.

    Actually, anyone who has actually done WW knows that you are 100% wrong. First off, WW is the safest diet out there because you aren't cutting out any specific food group and forgoing the benefits of those foods. Second, when you go back on WW after baby, one of the questions you are asked before they determine how many points you should be eating is "Are you breastfeeding?". If you are, they adjust accordingly because they are aware that you need more calories while doing so for both your health and the baby's.

    Also, while I dont expect to be lifting weights and running a week after delivery (hell, I dont run in general unless there is a shoe sale, lol), there is absolutely no medical reason why I cant start walking, be it on a treadmill at the gym or outside in the nice weather with my puppy and/or LO (I am due in May, its generally gorgeous out in NJ by then). Unless you have a c/s or a really bad tear/episiotomy that precludes you from moving about, there is no reason to not get off your tush and get some exercise! Several good friends of mine have had babies recently, and ALL of them were back to eating uber healthy and exercising within a week or two unless they had a c/s. Are you going to tell me that ALL of their doctors are wrong?

    I find that the mentality that "I just had a baby, I cant diet or exercise cause its not good for me/baby" is a cop out and the reason why many women are still complaining 6 months later about not being able to lose "those last 10 pounds".

    As for all of you PP who are obviously second or third time moms and have done this before and are commenting "just you wait"...EVERYONE is different! How nuts did it drive you during your first pregnancy when people told you "just wait, you wont have time to do "x" or  "you should be doing "y" after baby is born"? Didn't all of you hate that and likely complain about it, not to mention realize that everyone's situation is different and some of "those people" were wrong? So why would any of you turn around and be so discouraging to those of us that may be able to actually do what we are planning to do? 

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    Dude, Fvck you!  I'm having trouble getting that last 10 pounds off, does that mean I shouldn't have listened to my dr and waited until 6 weeks PP to work out?  Guess not!  What a moron I am for not putting my body at risk. 

    Like you said, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.  Maybe your friends drs said they could work out at ONE WEEK PP (doubtful), but that may not be the case for you.  Furthermore, I know people who used WW and tried Bfing...it can significantly hurt your supply.  Even with the changes made for BFing mothers.  Every body is different and cutting down calories can really hurt your supply.  I work out every morning, but I still need to consume LOTS of calories every day because I have a finicky supply.

    Oh, and good luck with thinking a baby will be as easy to raise a a puppy.   ::gigglesnort::

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    Damn straight! I am giving myself ONE WEEK to recover after delivery and then its back to STRICT Weight Watchers and the gym at least 4 days a week, no matter how tired I am (DH is fully behind this plan, even though it means no more fun food for him either, lol). I am also going to pump until my nipples fall off so the weight comes off quicker! I have been on severely restricted activity due to a placenta previa and cant do anything, and as a result I have gained 28 pounds so far and figure I am going to gain about 40, so it needs to come off ASAP!

    imagesdtchica13:

    I know personally in my situation, I have a husband who is home by 6:30 at night and a MIL that lives 5 miles away, meaning I WILL have a chance to get to the gym. Having no time is a cop out, you make time for yourself...plus, your husband helped create your child, now he can damn well help raise it, its not only YOUR life that has to change.I am going back to work less than 4 months after LO is born, so we WILL be sharing child rearing responsibilities! Additionally, cooking a healthy meal takes no more time than throwing a frozen pizza in the oven if you have practice doing it...most days pre-pregnancy I managed to work 9-5, go to the gym, get home at 6:30, deal with our puppy (walk, feed, clean up occasional "presents") and still have dinner on the table by 7ish.

    Again, I know everyone's situation is different, but for many of us, there is plenty of time to see to your own health and well being after having a child, if you care enough to make that time.

    You're delusional.  It must be nice living in that little dream world, but it will not be fun for you when it all evaporates.  I have a treadmill IN MY HOUSE and can't find time to exercise every day.  God help you if your milk supply is as finicky as mine, because if it is, you WON'T be able to exercise like you want to or your supply will die.  If I run a MILE, I pump 5 oz. less than normal at at work during the day.  I am just thrilled that I haven't gained any weight after giving birth.  But you know what?  Feeding my child is more important to me than being a MILF.  The only man I'm concerned about wanting me is my husband, and our sex life is actually better than it was pre-pregnancy.  If your husband is pushing you to get back to your pre-baby body as soon as possible instead of when it is healthy, then I'm afraid you've married a douchebag.  And you know what?  Daddy is not the same as Mommy.  If your child wants Mommy, then Daddy just won't do.  If you think Daddy is going to volunteer regularly to get up in the middle of the night with baby so you can get your beauty sleep, you are sorely mistaken.

    But I hope all your ill-conceived hopes and dreams work out for you, so that you can continue to think that it's all just so easy and keep judging other moms who aren't as perfect as you think you will be after pushing out that baby.  Good luck to you.

    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

     

    AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH............gasp.........

    ................AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

    Oh, you're reading this?  Sorry.  Yeah, all that will change when you LO is waking 6-7 times a night and DH needs to work at 8:00am.  For reals.

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    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

    Tongue Tied  Puppy = infant?

    Oh yes, now I remember when my puppy would wake up after sleeping only an hour and a half (meaning I got 45 minutes of sleep) and then take 45 minutes to eat her kibble, then I had to hold and cuddle and rock her for another 20 minutes back to sleep, then I had to ever so skillfully place my puppy down without waking her up, only to have her wake up again in two hours (meaning at that point I've gotten another hour of sleep) Rinse and repeat all night! And day! Sigh.

    Caring for Mason (at six weeks old!!) was just like that.

    You got this in the bag, girl!

    ::headdesk::

  • LOL - ya'll are a mess. 

    Of course you'll be beautiful after you have your babies.  Will you or should you be working out 1 week pp?  Nope.  And that's okay. 

    I lost 25 lbs in one week.... not because of working out or diet - I had a ferocious appetite due to bfing.. but because it was all water. 

    I've lost my weight and I look good and I have worked out maybe twice. I have time now.. but certainly not during the first 6 months - and I have an awesome husband, but unfortunately he didn't produce milk - so night time feedings were left up to me. 

    But hopefully this will give you some hope.. Here's me 1 week pp:
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    And here's me at Halloween wearing a Leotard (as well as my hubs)
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    You're going to be fine, but don't put yourselves under so much pressure!  Your number 1 goal should be to take care of your baby.. then try to get as much sleep as possible!  Good Luck in your upcoming delieveries and... JUST YOU WAIT!!!!!!!  Bahahahahha
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    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

    Tongue Tied  Puppy = infant?

    Oh yes, now I remember when my puppy would wake up after sleeping only an hour and a half (meaning I got 45 minutes of sleep) and then take 45 minutes to eat her kibble, then I had to hold and cuddle and rock her for another 20 minutes back to sleep, then I had to ever so skillfully place my puppy down without waking her up, only to have her wake up again in two hours (meaning at that point I've gotten another hour of sleep) Rinse and repeat all night! And day! Sigh.

    Caring for Mason (at six weeks old!!) was just like that.

    You got this in the bag, girl!

    ::headdesk::

    LOL, guys, I am not saying a newborn will be exactly like a puppy, that WOULD be delusional! I am just saying DH and I got a little taste of what a newborn would be like the first few months with our puggle. They are a VERY difficult breed and he would literally cry his head off every night when we put him to bed for several hours (it sounds like a monkey having sex!). Then he would wake up in the middle of the night because he either had an accident in his crate (which meant cleaning up, throwing towels/blankets in the laundry, cleaning puppy up, etc) or wanted to go out, and he would again cry when we put him back to bed. This went on for the first 2 months we had him. Obviously it wasn't exactly like a newborn because there was no late night feeding involved, but there was a DEFINITE lack of sleep and DH and I had to figure out a system so we both didn't go insane from exhaustion!

    I am not saying I have this newborn thing "in the bag", far from it. I am just hoping that due to our puppy raising experiences, we wont be totally shocked at what it takes to care for an infant and will be better equipped to share the nighttime responsibilities.

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    LOL - ya'll are a mess. 

    Of course you'll be beautiful after you have your babies.  Will you or should you be working out 1 week pp?  Nope.  And that's okay. 

    I lost 25 lbs in one week.... not because of working out or diet - I had a ferocious appetite due to bfing.. but because it was all water. 

    I've lost my weight and I look good and I have worked out maybe twice. I have time now.. but certainly not during the first 6 months - and I have an awesome husband, but unfortunately he didn't produce milk - so night time feedings were left up to me. 

    But hopefully this will give you some hope.. Here's me 1 week pp:
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    And here's me at Halloween wearing a Leotard (as well as my hubs)
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    You're going to be fine, but don't put yourselves under so much pressure!  Your number 1 goal should be to take care of your baby.. then try to get as much sleep as possible!  Good Luck in your upcoming delieveries and... JUST YOU WAIT!!!!!!!  Bahahahahha

    LOL, I think all second time mommies should just tattoo "just you wait" on their foreheads when speaking to us newbies! You look FANTASTIC and your LO is adorable, I love the tutu! I am hoping that I will be lucky enough to be one of those mommies that produces a ton of milk and can build up a fridge/freezer supply so I dont have to wake up and pump for every night time feeding, which will enable us to alternate on feedings as well, but we'll see, I know its not easy!

  • I'm not in the mood to be mean/snarky, so I'll just make two quick points:

    1. Contrary to what one early post stated, there are a number of medical reasons why a person may not be able to exercise by 1 week post-partum.  I lost a lot of blood during delivery and was supposed to be on bedrest for 2 weeks.  However, with a preemie in the NICU, bedrest wasn't possible since I wanted to be at the hospital with her as much as possible.  Please, please, discuss exercising with your doctor before leaving the hospital.  Be safe.

    2. I've been EPing for 6+ months and it is a ton of work.  Even if your DH is willing to get up in the middle of the night for bottle duty, you still have to get up to pump unless you want your supply to tank.  I'd encourage anyone who is thinking about EPing to at least try to EBF for a month or two. 

    Good luck.

  • I know that I'm late to the game, but don't some of you think that OP is just having a psychological reaction to impending motherhood? Some people, realizing that in a few short weeks their LO will be here, start to convince themselves about how their life won't be changed THAT much by having a baby. Comments about not looking like a slob, being overweight, etc... I think the OP is just trying to convince herself that her life won't be that different post-baby. People who have had a baby know this isn't true, and I think deep down the OP is starting to realize it isn't true as well...so she is really trying to convince herself otherwise!
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  • You will know cry once your DD is here. Puppies only whimper.

    I just think your plan is about as likely as you having sex the first week after delivery. I really hope you don't get PPD because you've already set yourself up for failure. 

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  • imagesdtchica13:
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    I am not delusional, and you are extremely rude. First off, I want to get back in shape after baby for ME, not anyone else, and DH thinks I am "hot" regardless, so I assure you, he is NO douchebag! Additionally, DH IS planning to get up in the middle of the night with the baby, and in fact is all for it since he is always able to fall right back asleep after waking up in the middle of the night, whereas it often takes me several HOURS to fall back asleep. Just like with our puppy (who woke us up 4-5 times a night at first and was as needy as an infant) we will be taking turns and will be helping each other out..it worked last time, there is no reason why it cant work again. Again, this is just MY personal situation and I know it doesnt work this way for everyone, but to call me delusional when you have never met me, never met my DH and frankly don't know a damn thing about me is just downright obnoxious.

    Tongue Tied  Puppy = infant?

    Oh yes, now I remember when my puppy would wake up after sleeping only an hour and a half (meaning I got 45 minutes of sleep) and then take 45 minutes to eat her kibble, then I had to hold and cuddle and rock her for another 20 minutes back to sleep, then I had to ever so skillfully place my puppy down without waking her up, only to have her wake up again in two hours (meaning at that point I've gotten another hour of sleep) Rinse and repeat all night! And day! Sigh.

    Caring for Mason (at six weeks old!!) was just like that.

    You got this in the bag, girl!

    ::headdesk::

    LOL, guys, I am not saying a newborn will be exactly like a puppy, that WOULD be delusional! I am just saying DH and I got a little taste of what a newborn would be like the first few months with our puggle. They are a VERY difficult breed and he would literally cry his head off every night when we put him to bed for several hours (it sounds like a monkey having sex!). Then he would wake up in the middle of the night because he either had an accident in his crate (which meant cleaning up, throwing towels/blankets in the laundry, cleaning puppy up, etc) or wanted to go out, and he would again cry when we put him back to bed. This went on for the first 2 months we had him. Obviously it wasn't exactly like a newborn because there was no late night feeding involved, but there was a DEFINITE lack of sleep and DH and I had to figure out a system so we both didn't go insane from exhaustion!

    I am not saying I have this newborn thing "in the bag", far from it. I am just hoping that due to our puppy raising experiences, we wont be totally shocked at what it takes to care for an infant and will be better equipped to share the nighttime responsibilities.

    BUt if you plan to pump, you won't be able to split things up like you did with the dog. Thats the problem. You will have to pump every time she/he feeds.

  • Hmmm.  Clearly there's a link posted on one of the toddler boards for all to come make fun of us on.  

    I truly don't think ALL of us are being unreasonable.  There is a diverse background coming in here, with different genetics, metabolisms, body types, etc., so I think it rather unfair and discouraging for all of the caps locked BAHAHAHAHAH's in all the prior posts here.  I just don't understand why, from one woman to another, anyone would hurl the "you just wait's" and the "you're setting yourself up to fail's."  And no, I'm not expecting 'puppies and rainbows' so spare that reply, if you will, nor do I need to be directed to BabyGaga or whatever, but a simple sense of semi-solidarity would be helpful.  Again, not all of us expect to be up and running or going to the gym one week pp, I certainly don't.  But I do hope / "plan" to do everything I can, in a healthy manner, to follow the footsteps of many of my friends, family (my Mom looked GREAT after three children, and I have her body, so I know and admit that I am incredibly lucky), and even many of the posters on this board.  I've seen some pp pics where the ladies look WONDERFUL and I think that's awesome! 

    I guess I've just always been more of a positive person, and I prefer to encourage those who need it.  And if there's a post on this board that does it, ah heck, I'm all for it, I really don't understand why the need for negativity is so strong sometimes.

    Now please understand, I would never call any Mom "lazy" or even insinuate so, in fact, it is quite the opposite.  I try and gather the strength every day that I will need as a new mother.  Moms, I applaud you.  It's the toughest job out there.  Heck, I have cellulite and I'm not even a parent yet!  

    Bottom line is this:  I will be hot, even after having children.  It will be my kind of hot, and that will make me happy.  Vain?  Fine.  But as I said, I admire my mother, and hope to be like her, and she was the most beautiful mother I've ever seen.  My favorite picture of her and I is our first picture of us together, still in her hospital bed.  Her hair is perfectly coiffed and she looks heavenly glamorous, and that makes me happy.

    Good luck to us ALL, and we all look great!  :)  I'm off my soapbox now...

  • Waaaaaay late in the game here, but I need to say that I made a pact with myself during pg that I would take care of myself, look good, lose the weight, and feel fab.  Guess what?  It didn't turn out that way.

    1) PPD is a b!tch, I hope you never have to deal with it.  I could not do anything except take care of my child's basic needs for the first few weeks.

    2) BF'ing is hard, and pumping is 1000x harder.  You will either have a newborn or a pump stuck to your boob all day long; literally, all day and all night.  My DS ate every 2 hours.  He ate on each side for 20 minutes or more, so I had 1 hour and 20 minutes between feedings when I had to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, and try to shower. 

    3) But wait, he could never be put down!  Seriously, he needed to be held constantly, and not just held by anyone.  Held by me.  24/7.  Or there would be screaming.  He would not sleep by himself, ever.  The first time he slept in his crib for an hour was at 4 months old- and that was a breakthrough. 

    I had supply issues and my milk didn't come in until day 9.  My son went 3 days not getting anything from me, he lost 11% of his body weight and he was only born at 5lbs 3.5 oz.  I was losing him.  Do you think that during this time I was thinking about my weight and how good I looked going to the hospital to have his weight checked daily?  Fvck no.  Your child is your priority, not your vanity.  

    My husband is the best father and husband I know.  But your husband is not you.  A baby needs and wants it's mother.  My son needs me all day, and it is exhausting.  My DH makes meals, he cleans, he works full-time, and he helps with the baby because he knows how hard I work just taking care of our child.  You will not have time for any frivolous activity for months, and I'm considering cooking frivolous in this situation.  Hell, getting dressed is frivolous for a while.

    I know you girls really don't want to hear that it isn't going to be all puppies and rainbows, but being a mother is hard.  Giving birth is hard.  I didn't tear, and I could barely walk for any length of time for 3 weeks.  Making milk is hard, nursing is hard, and if you have a supply issue (which I did) the last thing you're going to be doing is thinking about how you look.  You will be doing anything you can to up your supply.  You get to the point when you have your child in your arms where the only thing on your mind is "how can I protect this little life?"  And that point is basically when they are handed to you.

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    Waaaaaay late in the game here, but I need to say that I made a pact with myself during pg that I would take care of myself, look good, lose the weight, and feel fab.  Guess what?  It didn't turn out that way.

    1) PPD is a b!tch, I hope you never have to deal with it.  I could not do anything except take care of my child's basic needs for the first few weeks.

    2) BF'ing is hard, and pumping is 1000x harder.  You will either have a newborn or a pump stuck to your boob all day long; literally, all day and all night.  My DS ate every 2 hours.  He ate on each side for 20 minutes or more, so I had 1 hour and 20 minutes between feedings when I had to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, and try to shower. 

    3) But wait, he could never be put down!  Seriously, he needed to be held constantly, and not just held by anyone.  Held by me.  24/7.  Or there would be screaming.  He would not sleep by himself, ever.  The first time he slept in his crib for an hour was at 4 months old- and that was a breakthrough. 

    I had supply issues and my milk didn't come in until day 9.  My son went 3 days not getting anything from me, he lost 11% of his body weight and he was only born at 5lbs 3.5 oz.  I was losing him.  Do you think that during this time I was thinking about my weight and how good I looked going to the hospital to have his weight checked daily?  Fvck no.  Your child is your priority, not your vanity.  

    My husband is the best father and husband I know.  But your husband is not you.  A baby needs and wants it's mother.  My son needs me all day, and it is exhausting.  My DH makes meals, he cleans, he works full-time, and he helps with the baby because he knows how hard I work just taking care of our child.  You will not have time for any frivolous activity for months, and I'm considering cooking frivolous in this situation.  Hell, getting dressed is frivolous for a while.

    I know you girls really don't want to hear that it isn't going to be all puppies and rainbows, but being a mother is hard.  Giving birth is hard.  I didn't tear, and I could barely walk for any length of time for 3 weeks.  Making milk is hard, nursing is hard, and if you have a supply issue (which I did) the last thing you're going to be doing is thinking about how you look.  You will be doing anything you can to up your supply.  You get to the point when you have your child in your arms where the only thing on your mind is "how can I protect this little life?"  And that point is basically when they are handed to you.

    Like I have said in my previous posts, my goal is based on everything going smoothly...if my LO is colicky or has reflux issues, or if I have a c/s, or tear or am in severe pain, or if my milk supply is low, obviously all of my goals are subject to change, nothing is written in stone.

    I think all of us first time mommies on this board realize that being a new mom is going to be hard, we are not expecting puppies and rainbows, but we also realize that everyone is different and what is the case for some people isn't the case for others. Some people have babies that sleep a lot, some have babies that refuse to sleep; some people have no issues with bf and pumping and others have milk supply trouble and so on and so forth.

    I have seen the milk supply issue a LOT on this thread, and it scares the hell out of me! One of my friends gave birth three weeks ago, and she is having an awful time with her milk supply; it barely came in and she can only produce a tiny bit at a time; she is devastated because she wanted to exclusively breastfeed! I didn't realize it could be such a problem because many of my other friends produced a TON of milk and were able to freeze/refrigerate a huge amount so they weren't pumping every three hours and in the middle of the night.

    I hope this isnt a stupid question, but what do you do in that situation? Do you supplement with formula or do you just keep trying to pump/bf in hopes that your supply will go up? I definitely need to know for future reference!


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    I truly don't think ALL of us are being unreasonable.  There is a diverse background coming in here, with different genetics, metabolisms, body types, etc., so I think it rather unfair and discouraging for all of the caps locked BAHAHAHAHAH's in all the prior posts here.

    I'm 99.99% sure the bwah haha's were directed at the one person who gave herself ONE WEEK! to be back in shape.  And the bwah haha's came because the idea is truly hilarious to those who have BTDT.


    Bottom line is this:  I will be hot, even after having children.  It will be my kind of hot, and that will make me happy.  Vain?  Fine.  But as I said, I admire my mother, and hope to be like her, and she was the most beautiful mother I've ever seen.  My favorite picture of her and I is our first picture of us together, still in her hospital bed.  Her hair is perfectly coiffed and she looks heavenly glamorous, and that makes me happy.

    Good luck to us ALL, and we all look great!  :)  I'm off my soapbox now...

    IMO, every new mother is beautiful.  I can honestly say I've never seen pictures of a new mother with her child (no matter what her size) that I didn't think were incredibly beautiful.

    I think what most of the already-moms are trying to say (or have said outright) is don't set yourself up to fail.  Set realistic expectations.  Have no expectations for at least the first 6 weeks or so.  There will be so many times in the first weeks where you feel like a failure for some reason or another... don't voluntarily add to that!

    There will be time to get into whatever kind of shape you want to be in... but heal first.  Survive, then thrive.  It'll happen.  I promise.  But take your time.  The previous poster who mentioned the 9 mos on/9 mos off rule of thumb hit the nail on the head.  It takes awhile to put on... why wouldn't it take some time to take off?

  • That is a promise I will keep. I WILL LOOK SMOKIN AGAIN!!!!
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