ttc & dh sensitivity, anyone else?

CantWait2Be · February 2010

dh has said that when we bd and I have a decent amount of cm that it desensitizes him. Anyone else have this happen? This kind of stinks because more cm is suppossed to mean fertile time but if he's getting desensitized by it he is having trouble finishing.

ams8099 · February 2010

Really? Hmm....I would think that if you are wetter than it would increase sensitivity.

katib77 · February 2010

Sorry, dh says when I have fertile cm and we have sex that he just doesn't have to work as hard to get my motor going

jteneback · February 2010

I'm sorry, but that makes no sense. More CM = more lubrication, which should = a better sensation for him, if anything.

MrsTechie · February 2010

I have this problem in reverse. When I am super wet, I can't orgasm. DH doesn't have any trouble with it at all.

I suggest that you research some sex techniques and try and keep him focused and sensitive. I apologize in advance if the following information is TMI for you.

My best suggestion would be to get yourselves into a position where he can penetrate you and you can reach his balls at the same time. Stroking his balls or massaging the spot just behind his balls will increase stimulation and hopefully help him orgasm more easily.

ams8099 · February 2010

katib77:
Sorry, dh says when I have fertile cm and we have sex that he just doesn't have to work as hard to get my motor going

LOL!!

MNgirl326 · February 2010

cm is like a natural lube. It should help with sex, not hinder it.

mchupie · February 2010

Do you think he could subconsciously not be ready to TTC yet and that is why he's having trouble when you have fertile CM? I know it's a shot in the dark but I can't imagine why else he would be having difficulty.

ams8099 · February 2010

I am actually wondering if it's not truly an issue and he isn't ready to TTC?

Starbuck5 · February 2010

jteneback:
I'm sorry, but that makes no sense. More CM = more lubrication, which should = a better sensation for him, if anything.

Makes sense to me. He might need more friction.

jteneback · February 2010

mchupie:
Do you think he could subconsciously not be ready to TTC yet and that is why he's having trouble when you have fertile CM? I know it's a shot in the dark but I can't imagine why else he would be having difficulty.

This entered my mind as well.

ams8099 · February 2010

mchupie:
Do you think he could subconsciously not be ready to TTC yet and that is why he's having trouble when you have fertile CM? I know it's a shot in the dark but I can't imagine why else he would be having difficulty.

Great minds Babe!

CantWait2Be · February 2010

Yeah I'm confused by this too and would think that it'd feel better. He did have this happen when using preseed when ttc dd but we haven't been using that this time. I feel like maybe he's just making excuses or trying to find a reason for having issues.

SimoneSays22 · February 2010

Just wanted to chime in to agree with the other ladies. My DH always says it's better when I am more lubricated, with either water or EW cm.

mchupie · February 2010

ams8099:
I am actually wondering if it's not truly an issue and he isn't ready to TTC?

Great minds, Amber, great minds...

mchupie · February 2010

ams8099:

mchupie:
Do you think he could subconsciously not be ready to TTC yet and that is why he's having trouble when you have fertile CM? I know it's a shot in the dark but I can't imagine why else he would be having difficulty.

Great minds Babe!

Hahaha get out of my head!! Smile

ams8099 · February 2010

mchupie:
ams8099:

mchupie:
Do you think he could subconsciously not be ready to TTC yet and that is why he's having trouble when you have fertile CM? I know it's a shot in the dark but I can't imagine why else he would be having difficulty.
Great minds Babe!
Hahaha get out of my head!!

Too funny!

CantWait2Be · February 2010

He said it's less friction for him but after I o then he gets more friction. He has said he's ready to ttc again, talks about wanting another, indicated he's ready but maybe it's all just talk. I don't know. He was sick Monday night when we were supposed to start ttc this cycle then had a fever Tuesday and although we had a hard time making it work it did, were fine Wed, trouble again Thurs but made it work then last night he just couldn't finish for anything. He keeps saying he's worn out and I think having an issue once or twice is getting him down and causing more issues. Now he says he wants to take tonight off and maybe try tomorrow. I hope it's not too late if we do that though since last night didn't work out. Gah ttc is frustrating.

MLF135 · February 2010

LGLDVM:

We are the opposite. It's more of an issue if I'm too dry than too wet. We use preseed most of the time which he and I both love!

This.

ChrissyK2006 · February 2010

I don't know, it makes sense to me. If there is more lube, then it's more slippery which may not allow him to feel as much. I'm sorry. I agree though, maybe try other positions with more penetration or perhaps some more foreplay?

qtsreign · February 2010

MrsTechie:
My best suggestion would be to get yourselves into a position where he can penetrate you and you can reach his balls at the same time. Stroking his balls or massaging the spot just behind his balls will increase stimulation and hopefully help him orgasm more easily.

Party.

CantWait2Be · February 2010

He only knows as much as he's asked about.

SuperThat1006 · February 2010

I don't know if it affects him, but when I have a lot it actually decreases sensitivity for me. I don't like having a lot.

SuperThat1006 · February 2010

Starbuck5:
jteneback:
I'm sorry, but that makes no sense. More CM = more lubrication, which should = a better sensation for him, if anything.
Makes sense to me. He might need more friction.

Yeah, I agree with this. Like I said, it is this in my case.

little_stars · February 2010

Starbuck5:
Makes sense to me. He might need more friction.

I totally agree. Too much lube can be a bad thing sometimes. I would try different positions and see if that helps.

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