My first skin color related comment...

mermer82 · February 2010

LO and I were at TJ Maxx today and when we went to the cashier to check out she said, "He is so sweet! How old is he?" I told her he was just about 5 weeks old. Then she said, "Is he yours?"

Side note, I have dark skin but I am mixed, my mom is white and my dad is black. DH is white. So DS is 1/4 black. Meaning he looks white.

I wanted to say, "No, I stole him from that white lady over there..."

Arg. Who asks a lady with a baby if it is hers?

kellmo · February 2010

Awe! How ruuuude! He knows he is yours and you are his! That's all that matters momma!

redhotchili83 · February 2010

Im as white as Casper and my son has dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. DH is half Hispanic and half French, so theres some darkness on his side (his hair is JET BLACK). People at work "joke" all the time that I stole him from the grocery store.

amber&patrick · February 2010

Sorry. That's really stupid and insensitive. I am white (and blonde) and DH is Japanese, so DS will probably look pretty Asian as he gets older. I had to admit to DH while pregnant that I'm scared that he won't look like me and people will think he's not mine. It's a dumb thing to care about, but I did/do. Funny thing is, he looks really white, at least for now.

MrsRebecca · February 2010

What an idiot! Why do people feel the need to say things like that?

jennaglardon · February 2010

I know exactly what you mean! I am white and my BF is mixed so our son is also 1/4 black but he just looks like he has a great tan . . people are always asking my BF if he is his son . . its aggravating!!

GRKaters · February 2010

Some kids do have nannies who take them out...

jkfranklin · February 2010

DH and I are both very pale skinned and DS is darker skinned and hair. I get the "milk man" thing.

mermer82 · February 2010

GRKaters:
Some kids do have nannies who take them out...

I'm sure that's why she looked at me like I had three heads when I said he was mine, because she thought I was his nanny!

mermer82 · February 2010

MrsRebecca:
What an idiot! Why do people feel the need to say things like that?

I don't know! Why can't they just say, "Cute baby!"

redhotchili83 · February 2010

mermer82:
MrsRebecca:
What an idiot! Why do people feel the need to say things like that?

I don't know! Why can't they just say, "Cute baby!"

Cute baby! Wink

fiftysixty · February 2010

"Wow, that was rude. You must be so embarrassed!" My favourite comeback.

Also- cute baby.

Mrs.tlcS · February 2010

I don't know that it's necessarily skin color related, unless she said it was...

my kids are the spit & image of me... there's no denying them... and I've been asked if they're mine if we're out during the workday.

getnmarried910 · February 2010

That was really rude of her. You should have replied with that answer. Funny!

NaHoku · February 2010

He is a cute baby!

I'm half Asian (from my dad) and I remember in kindergarten being asked if I was adopted by a friend who saw my mom picking me up. Another time, when we were in Mexico, a shop owner followed me around trying to speak to me in Japanese (which I don't speak, I'm half-Filipino) and when I went to my mom in the store and started talking to her, he didn't believe she was my mom at first. We don't look much alike, obviously

We have found the humor in the situations and it's never bothered her (outwardly, at least) or me, but I can see why you'd be frustrated or offended by it.

ChicNotGeek · February 2010

Maybe she thought you were a caregiver or something ... not that it makes it right ... but people are idiots.

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