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You know what irks me

butterball123butterball123
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Pregnant women who have no idea what having a child is really like.  I have a friend who is pregnant with her first.  She tells me she got this book, Baby Wise.  I've never read it, but we used Happiest Baby on the Block when DS was a newborn and Ferber for sleeping.  So I tell her this and she responds with, "well so-and-so used it and their child is extremely well adjusted". 

Maybe it's just my hormones, but I kind of took offense to her response.  What the h*ll is that supposed to mean?  That my child is a terror and I suck as a parent?  People who are not parents have clue what it's like to have a child.  I feel like I just have to roll with the punches and figure out what works for me and my child, whatever method that may be.

 

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  • megontoastmegontoast member

    you're right and she sucks.

    My cousin tried to shove Baby Wise down my throat, but I was not interested.

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  • angelynn8411angelynn8411

    lol she prob didn't mean anything by it but i am incredibly sensitive so I would have been upset by it.

    I had a newly pregnant friend ask me to register with her for baby gifts, and she'd say "what kind of bath tub do you have?" and then she'd register for a different one. for every single thing. Then, why am I with you? and why ask me my opinion?

    Mom to 2 beautiful girls, 3 yrs and 22 months old. My 2nd was born at 32 weeks due to Rhogam failure/severe complications from Rh disease and is our miracle. She has bilateral auditory neuropathy and a cochlear implant, activated 4/5/2012 at 19 months. Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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  • babyflynn08babyflynn08
    She will learn very quickly what it's like post baby. SIL swears baby wise is the best method to use. She did a presentation in college on it and belittles anyone who doesn't use it. She's pregnant. I'm looking forward to see what happens.
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  • brandonsfuturewife07brandonsfuturewife07 member

    my favorite is when people compare my kids to their pets.  LOVE that.

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  • kyfirewifekyfirewife member
    I don't think she meant it offensively at all. Just sounds to me like someone she knew recommended it because it worked well for them.
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  • angelynn8411angelynn8411
    imagebrandonsfuturewife07:

    my favorite is when people compare my kids to their pets.  LOVE that.

    LMAO my friend does that all.the.time

    WTF??

    Mom to 2 beautiful girls, 3 yrs and 22 months old. My 2nd was born at 32 weeks due to Rhogam failure/severe complications from Rh disease and is our miracle. She has bilateral auditory neuropathy and a cochlear implant, activated 4/5/2012 at 19 months. Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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  • MrsReneeMrsRenee member

    when pg people start talking about all the stuff they're going to do to have a perfect baby, I just smile, nod and then LMAO when they're not around.  They can talk all they want, but once that baby is here, it's a totally different story.

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  • megontoastmegontoast member
    imagebrandonsfuturewife07:

    my favorite is when people compare my kids to their pets.  LOVE that.

    OMG! does that happen?? LOL

    people are so stupid sometimes!

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  • butterball123butterball123
    She's going to think I'm a REALLY great parent when she comes to visit and see that DS watches TV.  I can't wait to hear what she has to say about that one.
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  • Smores730Smores730 member
    imageangelynn8411:

    I had a newly pregnant friend ask me to register with her for baby gifts, and she'd say "what kind of bath tub do you have?" and then she'd register for a different one. for every single thing. Then, why am I with you? and why ask me my opinion?

    hahah this happened to me too! and anything I told her she wouldn't need, she registered for anyway. Ah well.

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  • AmyDrinkieAmyDrinkie member

    And people who don't have kids think those who do and try to give them advice are know-it-alls.

    Just blow it off, she'll figure out that there is no one method that's suitable for every baby.

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  • ameliasmomameliasmom

    imagekyfirewife:
    I don't think she meant it offensively at all. Just sounds to me like someone she knew recommended it because it worked well for them.

    This.  Do you think maybe she feels that since she already bought the book (and possibly read) that since you suggested other books she was defending her choice by saying what she did?

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  • butterball123butterball123
    imageameliasmom:

    imagekyfirewife:
    I don't think she meant it offensively at all. Just sounds to me like someone she knew recommended it because it worked well for them.

    This.  Do you think maybe she feels that since she already bought the book (and possibly read) that since you suggested other books she was defending her choice by saying what she did?

    She said she hadn't read it yet but I actually didn't say anything good or bad about it.  I personally have never read it so I don't know what exactly is in it.  So I just said, "I've never read it but we did use Happiest Baby on the Block for soothing and Ferber for sleeping once he was older".  It's her choice how she chooses to parent, but since she got defensive I think I took offense to it.  Like I said, maybe it's just hormones, plus being stuck inside for days and exhaustion.

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  • ameliasmomameliasmom
    imagebutterball123:
    imageameliasmom:

    This.  Do you think maybe she feels that since she already bought the book (and possibly read) that since you suggested other books she was defending her choice by saying what she did?

    She said she hadn't read it yet but I actually didn't say anything good or bad about it.  I personally have never read it so I don't know what exactly is in it.  So I just said, "I've never read it but we did use Happiest Baby on the Block for soothing and Ferber for sleeping once he was older".  It's her choice how she chooses to parent, but since she got defensive I think I took offense to it.  Like I said, maybe it's just hormones, plus being stuck inside for days and exhaustion.

    Too bad.  I would just forget about it.....don't let her stress you Big Smile

     

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  • jennyannjennyann
    First of all I do not agree with Babywise in the least.  But I really think most 1st time pregnant ladies have no idea what having a baby is really like and most will just take suggestions from people they trust.  I certainly had no idea what to expect!  Honestly she probably didn't mean the remark to be snarky, she is just ill informed at this point.
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