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katiekate1974
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MOTHERFVCKER (long vent inside.)
katiekate1974
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My sister is getting married on Saturday. I'm the MOH and she lives 5 hours away. Basically that means we have to leave Thursday night. And no DH just found out that he has a no-kidding-cannot-miss-no-negotiation-not-optional-don't-show-and-get-fired last minute meeting on Friday.
This means that not only do I have to drive the 5 hours, alone, at night with AJ (he's NOT a good long distance traveler), it means I have nobody to watch him on Friday while I do all the MOH stuff (set up the reception, nails, blah, blah, blah) I have to do.
I'm beyond frustrated by life right now. I hate working, I hate my job, I'm so at my wits end. I feel like everything EVERYTHING in my life is always 1/2 done. I'm 1/2 a mom, 1/2 a wife, 1/2 an employee, 1/2 a sister, 1/2 a friend...my house is always a mess, laundry is always piling up, work/work is never done right...I'm always at the very itty bitty verge of snapping. I had a mini-meltdown last night....but I don't know how much more I can take before something just....snaps.
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Re: MOTHERFVCKER (long vent inside.)
hopefully your mom will help out with the baby or another aunt or something whom you trust.
and hopefully you find some tequila asafp!
deep breaths
Oh honey. I just want to reach through the computer and give you a hug. This is what I'm always afraid of when it comes to going back to work. It's hard to balance everything and sometimes something has to give.
I know that when I feel overwhelmed I give my self a second to freak out, and then make my to do list. Even if I can't get everything done, just feeling like I'm working towards a mission makes me feel better.
Hopefully your LO will be nice and calm for you on the trip. I'm sure that your DH feels bad already. It's a terrible position to be in.
:::hugs::: and lots and lots of
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Can your parents help at all. I'm assuming they'd be there if it's your sis getting married.
First of all, breathe! Deep breaths.
Ok. So you have to drive alone with LO at night. Not cool, but maybe you can leave at a time when he's sleepy and will likely sleep. See if there will be anyone there who can help watch him while you do your thing with your sister.
Maybe see if you have a friend who can go with you strictly to watch LO. Maybe someone can call in sick from work and spend the weekend with you helping with DS. Any other family who doesn't have duties who can help?
I know what you mean feeling like everything's 1/2 done. I work, too. Nothing ever has 100% of your attention. Now that you're aware of that, do your best to give everything your all and call it good. Give more attention to the things that matter most (for me it's being a mom and wife) and be ok with the other things being half-a$$ed. Hang in there. You'll pull through!
I'm sorry your having a bad day...
but hopefully there will be someone there to help you out... is there anyone else from your area traveling to the wedding the same night that they could maybe ride with you?? if not I'm sure all of the girls would love to gush over the baby.. and I think we all have those overwhelming moments when we all feel like we can't do enough.. so *hugs* to you....
I hope things work out for you in the end.
But I have to say that I am glad that I am not the only one who feels like 1/2 of everything. This balancing act of Mom, wife, employee, and maid is tougher than I ever could have imagined. Sometimes I feel that I am not good enough at any of them.
One word: Delgate! lol Have the other BMs set up an dhopefully some relative will watch him for the other duties. It sucks that your DH has to work..I would hate to make that drive alone.
Why not leave him with H and he can take him to daycare and then bring him up when he comes?
I'm sorry about that, I hate when things don't go as planned.
You know, that never even crossed my mind. LOL Hmmmm....
I don't know. My mom would probably not like that plan....but it is an option!
Don't worry about what your mom will think. If she's busy planning and getting things ready Friday, when is she going to have time to play with him?
I would leave him with H and let him go to daycare so you don't have to worry about him adjusting to someone new watching him, meltdowns, etc.